Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2015 19:34:47 GMT -5
So you guys know I'm with the In Laws so that DH can get the house ready for selling. Well last week FIL pissed me off and I took my kids off to stay a few nights in a hotel. So things have been simmering. Ethan is now over 25lbs (up from 20 when I broke my back) and i'm physically not able to keep up with them and that ability is deteriorating. today we had to travel so I could get a MRI and hit up target.
I was in the bathroom clear cutting my eyebrows when i hear MIl telling James to pick up his outside toys. Just it wasn't "James pick up x and put it y" it was a general pick up your toys. so she was getting frustrated so I came out to tell James the right way to get his toys picked up. Well as Im going to the door she goes to like block me and tells me if I dont make him do it himself he will never learn.
James has been picking up his toys on his own every night in his room- all by himself- for 2 weeks (i pick up ethans toys) so I tell her she needs to back off and let me handle my son.
She said something to the effect of i'm handicapping him for life.
Well it set me off. My words went something of "ive been parenting my kids for the last 3 years and ill be damned if someone else tells me how to deal with them" and she then says to me- "well ive been parenting a few more years than you- 30 to be exact and (paraphrasing) you're doing it wrong"
So i lost it. I told her that she has had one child- so shes basically still a first time mom until she gets two and can understand the challanges that I face every day. But I carried these kids for 9 months- not her. I birthed these kids- not her. And I and I alone are their mother and if she doesn't like me calling the shots than "step the fuck away" because i'm not going to put up with being told how to parent my children. In the middle of that she gave me the fuck you sign via raised fist with her other hand in the crook of her arm. And then I mentioned if she cant live with that then we will leave because we obviously aren't welcome.
Once she did that i grabbed ethan and told james to get in the car- she asked me what i was going to do so I told her the same thing single mom's of more than one kids have been doing for years "ill figure it out" i then pulled out my phone and called jimmy and proceeded to tell him my side of the story in ear shot of her. While I finished packing up the kids for the day.
After that she got her shit together and jumped in the car and acted like nothing happened.
I was in the bathroom clear cutting my eyebrows when i hear MIl telling James to pick up his outside toys. Just it wasn't "James pick up x and put it y" it was a general pick up your toys. so she was getting frustrated so I came out to tell James the right way to get his toys picked up. Well as Im going to the door she goes to like block me and tells me if I dont make him do it himself he will never learn.
James has been picking up his toys on his own every night in his room- all by himself- for 2 weeks (i pick up ethans toys) so I tell her she needs to back off and let me handle my son.
She said something to the effect of i'm handicapping him for life.
Well it set me off. My words went something of "ive been parenting my kids for the last 3 years and ill be damned if someone else tells me how to deal with them" and she then says to me- "well ive been parenting a few more years than you- 30 to be exact and (paraphrasing) you're doing it wrong"
So i lost it. I told her that she has had one child- so shes basically still a first time mom until she gets two and can understand the challanges that I face every day. But I carried these kids for 9 months- not her. I birthed these kids- not her. And I and I alone are their mother and if she doesn't like me calling the shots than "step the fuck away" because i'm not going to put up with being told how to parent my children. In the middle of that she gave me the fuck you sign via raised fist with her other hand in the crook of her arm. And then I mentioned if she cant live with that then we will leave because we obviously aren't welcome.
Once she did that i grabbed ethan and told james to get in the car- she asked me what i was going to do so I told her the same thing single mom's of more than one kids have been doing for years "ill figure it out" i then pulled out my phone and called jimmy and proceeded to tell him my side of the story in ear shot of her. While I finished packing up the kids for the day.
After that she got her shit together and jumped in the car and acted like nothing happened.