WWM14D?
Jul 27, 2015 9:09:21 GMT -5
Post by ellabee on Jul 27, 2015 9:09:21 GMT -5
This is kinda a cross post on the working parents board, but thought I'd get M14s thoughts too.
The situation:
DH is a non-tenure track college professor and is really unhappy with is salary and the fact that it's essentially a dead end job with no upward mobility. He has no desire for a tenure track and wants to quit academia. He has a consulting company he started on the side with one of his friends, but so far has had only really small jobs come their way. He's applied to several jobs in his industry, but nothing has panned out. He's at the point now where he has to decide whether to commit to teaching this coming term, or give his notice prior to the school year starting. He prefers to just quit.
I understand that he's feeling trapped and frustrated, but he's taken to snapping at me whenever we talk about it. I keep trying to have a real discussion about what his plan would be if he quit, but he automatically interprets that as me telling him to suck it up until he has another job lined up. (Which, btw, is not what I am saying...but would not be unreasonable, right?) I'm not sure if he's just looking for me to give him an unconditional "quit and we'll figure it out" since we are able to live on my salary alone. I just feel like why give up his salary when he doesn't exactly have another sure prospect yet? Don't know...maybe I am being unreasonable and should just support what makes him happy? Ugh. He's sensitive about the income difference now, so I can just imagine what it'll be like if he quits and something new and profitable doesn't present itself right away.
Thanks for reading.
The situation:
DH is a non-tenure track college professor and is really unhappy with is salary and the fact that it's essentially a dead end job with no upward mobility. He has no desire for a tenure track and wants to quit academia. He has a consulting company he started on the side with one of his friends, but so far has had only really small jobs come their way. He's applied to several jobs in his industry, but nothing has panned out. He's at the point now where he has to decide whether to commit to teaching this coming term, or give his notice prior to the school year starting. He prefers to just quit.
I understand that he's feeling trapped and frustrated, but he's taken to snapping at me whenever we talk about it. I keep trying to have a real discussion about what his plan would be if he quit, but he automatically interprets that as me telling him to suck it up until he has another job lined up. (Which, btw, is not what I am saying...but would not be unreasonable, right?) I'm not sure if he's just looking for me to give him an unconditional "quit and we'll figure it out" since we are able to live on my salary alone. I just feel like why give up his salary when he doesn't exactly have another sure prospect yet? Don't know...maybe I am being unreasonable and should just support what makes him happy? Ugh. He's sensitive about the income difference now, so I can just imagine what it'll be like if he quits and something new and profitable doesn't present itself right away.
Thanks for reading.