Hi. Forgive me if I mess up with the board etiquette, new to TCF. I'm sorry we're all here.
After being on the fence for years about having kids, DH and I decided this spring it was now or never. Two months after going off bc, we were pretty stunned and super excited to get a BFP. A week later, the lines on the tests that I had been watching get darker, started getting lighter, and the nausea stopped. The next day bleeding started, I went to the ER, and my HCG was 14...for 5 weeks I knew it was over. Repeat labs two days later showed it at 7 and the OB confirmed I'd miscarried.
I'm dealing. DH is pretending like nothing happened. Bleeding only lasted a day and cramping was mild, I'm hoping it was so early that that part is over and it's not going to start again. I go in Monday for more blood work.
Thanks for letting me in, just putting it all out there helps a little.
I am so sorry for your loss but welcome here. There may be a roller coaster of emotions so that's normal. If you ever need to chat/vent the ladies here are awesome and we all understand.
I am also sorry YH is carrying on as if nothing happened. Everyone reacts differently but try to keep the lines of communication open. Sometimes it's hard for guys to deal with it as we do because, even though they experienced a loss also, they don't go through the physical part of it.
Married 01-04-2013 *AMA* 40 in June 2015 **1-19-15 Childless, not by choice" 1st EDD- 12-02-13 MC 5/1/13 @4w6d 2nd EDD 11-13-14 MC 4/15/14: discovered 1st twin @5w 2nd twin @10w 3Rd BFP- 10-10-14 EDD 6/16/15: MC 10-16-14 @5w2d
I am so sorry for your loss acob. Men handle loss differntly, and it is possable he is trying to be strong for you, I know it was that way with mh. And everyone grieves differently. So many hugs. We are here if you need us!
Hello. Welcome here. This is awful. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss. I know it must be hard to deal with it given your husband's reaction. But you have to understand him too. I hope things work out for you. Take your time now. You can try again when you are ready. Sending prayers.
Sorry to hear what happened to you. I will share my story to inspire you and maybe you will have a suggestion too. I had hysterectomy cancer. I was infertile but cancer free. I always wanted to have a baby. I asked my husband about having a baby. We decided to have a baby. We went for surrogacy. We have our twin daughters from surrogacy. We are so happy and excited.
Welcome to the forum! We're absolutely delighted to welcome you here. It's nice to hear from you. I'm sorry about your loss. I want to wish you the best of luck. I hope you find the motivation to get back to it! I hope once you do, you get a BFP, really soon!
So sorry to hear about your loss. It must have been tough to take. It's good to see that you're still going strong. That's the way to react to such news. No need to give up, honey! It will happen for you! I'm sure about it.
Welcome to the forum honey. I'm so sorry for your loss. It must have been so hard to take. It's perfectly fine to feel the way you do. Plus, don't stress out too much about that. Men are different in this regard. I hope you feel better and get back to TTC!
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