My DH has been doing great. He has been especially understanding of how tired I have been. He is always pretty hands on w LO (11 mo) but has even gone above and beyond.
Minor vent. ...he is getting pretty frustrated w my food aversions. We normally enjoy cooking and eating together. He wanted steak on Friday and I just couldn't. He got his own but kept trying to get me to try some. Today he wanted fish..I told him to get some for himself but not me. He went off about how fish is good for me and the baby and I need to eat some. I tried to gently remind him that last time I was fine after first tri and he backed off. I wish he would just go on and eat what he wants and not worry about me.
Post by isolemnlyswear on Aug 9, 2015 20:26:07 GMT -5
My mood was pretty bad week 7&8 and DH had a hard time with that. He would snap at me because I was very withdrawn when he came home from work. I had to gently (not really) remind him I'm not feeling 100% and taking care of a sassy 1yr old.
Things have stabilized and so everything seems to be going smoother.
Post by readinglove on Aug 9, 2015 20:35:41 GMT -5
DH has been amazing. He has picked up my slack, and is doing a lot of stuff around the house - I feel guilty, but I also feel awful, so I'm trying to let him know how much I appreciate everything he's doing. I let him know not to worry about me for food, but he still does and tries to make things I'll be okay with.
Post by rlpointer86 on Aug 9, 2015 20:41:35 GMT -5
My husband has been great. He picks up the slack when I'm not feeling good or exhaustion which is quite often these days. And he's always rubbing my back or getting me water when I get sick. He goes above and beyond staying with me while I'm throwing up. He's all around understanding even when I'm snapping at him because I'm moody about something completely unrelated. He gets it.
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Post by almachs0786 on Aug 9, 2015 20:58:03 GMT -5
He has seriously been great. With my first pregnancy, he was almost unbearable and was very unsupportive. We had a pretty rocky road during my first pregnancy. We've made amends since then (obviously) and have talked about what we need from each other this time around. He has been awesome and I think it's got a lot to do with me taking the time to explain how I feel.
Post by rachelilly23 on Aug 9, 2015 21:15:14 GMT -5
Mine is super annoyed with my wanting to sleep all the time and feeling like crap, but he's also not here, he's deployed. He's in a place where we can usually skype most days but I don't want to skype with him when he's free to talk since it's usually around the time I want to nap (2/3pm.) He thinks I'm just being dramatic. I want to throat punch him. He was around for 1st tri with my 2nd, so he should remember this.
He has been so amazing. He pretty much parents alone on the weekend because the week wears me out so much I need time to recover. He's been awesome about getting me or making me whatever I can handle to eat. Last night he drove a half an hour each direction for our favorite pizza place that I wanted. He's also been great about spraying diapers (we use cloth) because I can't handle it. He's pretty much doing everything around here. I'm making sure he knows how much I appreciate everything and that hopefully I'll feel better in a few weeks.
Post by daydreamsam on Aug 9, 2015 21:51:28 GMT -5
DH has been awesome. He has been making me breakfast in bed every morning and he took over all my heavy lifting chores on our ranch, even though he has a ton of his own to do. He's also being really sweet about comforting me when my infertility brain gets the best of me and I panic, thinking everything is going to fall apart. He even has been toting me around when we go kayaking, hooking a bungee from his kayak to mine and pulling me when we go against the wind or tide. I have no complaints and feel pretty damn lucky!
He's been pretty great about doing dinners and bath time and stuff. BUT he had the nerve to ask my doctor at my appt if it was normal for me to be angry. Her face cracked me up. She reminded him that I might be more hormonal and to basically deal with it.
Post by peachesncream on Aug 10, 2015 1:19:24 GMT -5
My husband is frustrated because he doesn't understand I feel like crap all the time. I had it pretty easy last time and he got used to that. I think it would be easier for him to sympathize if I was actually getting sick rather than just being nauseated 24/7.
H has been really great, picking up a lot of slack around the house and sitting w me when I want to go to bed super early. And also eating the extra food I can't, lol. The only thing is he is not a great deflector when we are w ppl. Like at the wedding on sat I just couldn't eat the food, and he was drawing a lot of attention to it (we were sitting with close friends). I finally just whispered to him that I felt really sick, stop asking me if I want your good instead. I can't wait until the hiding part is over.
He was frustrated with me yesterday because I literally struggled to get off of the couch. He apologized later for snapping at me a bit, because he says hes not used to something that doesnt get better with some rest like a flu.
DH is great most of the time. He has really picked up the slack with our 14 month old DS. Every once in a while he acts annoyed but he's been so good the rest of the time I try to ignore it.
Post by sunshineshades on Aug 10, 2015 7:40:21 GMT -5
So far he's been good. I've only just started feeling ill though and so far haven't been too crazy emotionally. He also knows I'm an extra ball of nerves this time round.
He's picking our daughter up a lot for me because she's 33 lbs and lifting her too much irritates my back by the end of the day.
Now give it a couple more weeks and he may not be so great. With my DD we got in a fight because I didn't feel like sex because well.... horrible nausea all day. Pregnancy #2 he snapped at me for being in a bad mood our camping trip when I thought I was in a good mood all things considered. ... again nausea and tent camping with a toddler.
Post by michelleca on Aug 10, 2015 11:01:50 GMT -5
my H has a man cold right now, and I'm getting approximately zero sympathy from him. Although it's about as much as I'm giving him, too. My parents are visiting though, so I'm getting a little spoiled.
DH has been truly amazing. I am very thankful he is so helpful. He's been washing dishes and picking up around the house. He'll attempt to make food, which is kinda cute. I haven't gotten any MS but I'm super tired and fall asleep early and he doesn't seemed bother by it.
Post by songbirdsinging55 on Aug 11, 2015 12:39:32 GMT -5
The last few weeks were rocky. I don't think that he really understood how nauseous and tired I was. He seemed frustrated when I wanted to nap. Then I had a sit down and explained that it is much harder this time around as I am still nursing DS (9mos) as well as unable to keep any food in my system. I told him that I needed his help. He understood. Since then, he has been amazing. I napped alot this weekend and was given a prescription for the nausea. I am finally able to eat certain foods. He let's me nap and takes care of DS when I am feeling particularly queasy. I think the conversation made a difference.
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Post by AlphabetFish on Aug 11, 2015 16:07:56 GMT -5
Man, when I first got pregnant, like at week 5, he was not friendly about what I was feeling. I got the feeling he didn't think I was really experiencing anything or that I was making it up for attention. This is a man who is usually nothing but overwhelmingly sweet to me, so I was pretty surprised and hurt.
I think now that he was still adjusting to the idea of me being pregnant and a baby in our future, because he has WAY calmed down now. He's back to being very sweet again, getting me water or snacks, being okay with me taking naps even if it's not at a good time, treating my body gently, etc.
He's a wonderful husband; I think me getting pregnant just kind of freaked him out a little at first!
I swear my H isn't a terrible, unsympathetic person, but man, reading all of these....well lets just say he's not a shining example of "what to do".
Mine isn't really, either. He's kind of "business as usual" and I can tell he gets a little bummed and/or frustrated when I don't want to clean house or walk the dogs with him. He doesn't bitch about it, but there is definitely a tail between his legs.
I also still do all of my "chores" and he still does his.
He has commented a lot lately on missing me... Which I get a little frustrated over because by the time I'm home from work and dinner is done, I want to lay in bed and binge tv or just go to sleep. There are certainly worse problems to have, though.
Post by peachesncream on Aug 11, 2015 16:15:45 GMT -5
Phew! I thought mine was the only negative comment. The whole me being too nauseated for sex has been a huge issue in our house. To my H it is basically life as usual and he has trouble empathizing with me.
Phew! I thought mine was the only negative comment. The whole me being too nauseated for sex has been a huge issue in our house. To my H it is basically life as usual and he has trouble empathizing with me.
Mine is being an asshole, saying he's "dying" about not getting any action through skype. I tell him to get over it. He would be in a worse dry spell if he was home because then he would have to lay in bed next to me and try to deal with me rejecting him.
Phew! I thought mine was the only negative comment. The whole me being too nauseated for sex has been a huge issue in our house. To my H it is basically life as usual and he has trouble empathizing with me.
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