Ugh big hugs Mack. That is rough. Sometimes a good cry actually makes me feel better. Get out all the built up frustration. I don't have a toddler yet, so unfortunately no advice. I'm sorry
I'm sorry about your morning. I've definitely had those mornings where I've cried (I mean, I even lost it and was crying in front of all of the preschool moms I didn't know as I dragged him into school, with all of those sympathetic looks that just make it worse for me).
I have come very close to this. I never look at moms who are crying or dealing with a tantruming child. I just pretend they're not there bc I know they don't want to be stared. I wouldn't. Happens to the best of us!!
I cried in front of DD one day when she was being difficult- she laughed at me. Laughed. I was like "oh my god she really is evil!!!" Lol
just chiming in to say that I have 1 of those kids currently, and have raised another one to the age of 7 so far as well. They all do it. I'm sorry you're having a hard morning.
Hugs. You are a great mom and daycare knows it. Anyone who has spent time around a 3 year old knows they are all fucking crazy - sweet one minute, rabid animals the next.
Post by charyoutree on Jan 26, 2015 11:41:20 GMT -5
Sorry you had a rough morning. This happens to us, too. I can't stand the turning something down and then asking for it again hours later, and usually at an inconvenient time.
We took the kids to MIL's this weekend. It's kind of a far drive, so they were in the car for a while, and I know that can bring out the worst in everyone. DS1 whined from the time we got in the car yesterday until I dropped him off this morning. Then he didn't want me to leave. Um, you've been upset about every single I've done for the last 24 hours. Go bother somebody else!
Hugs. Mine had a fit this morning because he wants to start going into the 'big kids room' at DC (next room up). He's the oldest in his class so they send him up sometimes, but it's inconsistent & I think he's ready to move up.
Sometimes all you can do is hand them off as quickly as possible and walk away.
Post by Lrachelle80 on Jan 26, 2015 12:05:22 GMT -5
Three is fucking rough. They're little drunken dictators who are PMSing. Lots of hugs. We've all been there. I'm not a yeller in general so when I lose it and scream, I always feel so guilty. She's definitely made me cry before out of frustration and the feeling I'm doing it all wrong.
Only liking for solidarity. Zack has broken us. My husband actually drove home the other day to get something Zack had left at home because the epicness of the meltdown at daycare was unexplainable. It takes everything in me not to yell at Zack on a daily basis. I am sorry you are going through this right now, friend.
"I can't fathom a reason that you'd lie. But people also inject cement and superglue in their asses, so sometimes I'm just at a loss about people's decision-making abilities."-rocksforludo
I know this, but I look like a chucklefuck. I am there in the doorway, trying to drag my kid. She is flipping her shit, and I am trying not to punt her.
Oh, mack. Big hugs. I have had to carry my DD out of daycare before, while she is screaming and carrying on. And then I've had to do it with my son, as well - while the other parents look on in pity or whatever. Fuck off, parents of infants who transport easily in their bucket seats. Just. You. Wait. until you have a preschooler who you may or may not have to physically move against their will at some point. Yes, you feel like a total dick.
Here's the reassuring part. We are not the first parents, nor the last, to drag our children - kicking and screaming - into or out of daycare or a public establishment. It happens. You do what you need to.
I have also cried in my car.
This reminds me of this article that was on my FB newsfeed today (it was shared by someone with a 5-month-old). Apparently we're not allowed to be happy with our child-free lives when our kids get older.
Some of these things are nice to look back on, but there are a million other things about having little kids that I don't really want to remember. And it doesn't make it any easier to have to go through them now.
My kid once hauled off and slapped me across the face while screaming in the middle of the mall food court. I immediately burst into tears because 1)it hurt and 2)I was embarrassed. I was quite certain that she just hates me.
I also completely lost my shit on her this weekend more than once and I have felt horrible since then.
This thread scares the shit out of me because my almost 2.5 year old is already smarter than I and it's a battle to try and discipline him without wanting to do physical punishment. He laughs at me and back talks...HE'S TWO FFS!! I know how bad your heart hurts and I'm handing out commiserate hugs!
Addie has been in rare form all weekend. Yesterday I was late to lunch because she would.not.leave.me.alone. I could not even put pants on after my shower because she was in my face. I screamed at her and felt horrible.
Today, she flipped her shit at daycare drop of. She was fine. Then when we got there she wanted a banana that she had turned down BACK AT OUR HOUSE. She wanted me to go home and get it. Then I tried to carry her in. She tantrumed because she wanted to walk. Then she wanted to get back in the car and get out by herself and walk. I refused. So I dragged her LITERALLY dragged her into day care. She was kicking and screaming. I am seriously worried the daycare is going to call CPS on me. As of the time I left, she was still screaming. She wanted her jacket and didn't want to eat breakfast.
I left there and sat in the car and cried for 10 minutes.
Please tell me someone else feels like this sometimes?
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I've carried DD out of daycare under my arm kicking and screaming she doesn't want to go home. Not cool kid.
I had a straight up breakdown last night. K was being a monster, and I screamed at her. I sat in livingroom and cried for twenty minutes.the exhaustion and stress just catches up to us sometimes I guess.
I feel like 3 was by far the hardest year for so far. Everyone kept telling me terrible twos but hell no, 3 is when all hell broke loose at the Idani household.
My best friend always says she would take twin infants over a 3 year old any day.
mack: I'm new to Parenting (the board and in general), but thank you so much for your realness with this post. While I love the witty, entertaining humor here, I came here for support, too! If I've learned anything in the 4ish short months that I've become a mom, it's that parenting is effing hard. My baby isn't old enough to throw tantrums yet, but Lord knows she's caused me to shed my fair share of tears recently. Sorry, no real advice to offer except to say hang in there! The struggle is real, my friend!
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