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[lakecountrygal]

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So DH and I are hit and miss when it comes to actually being intimate and even cuddly with each other lately.

Tonight I did something I haven't done in YEARS and initiated by inviting him to join me in the shower. I was surprised that he actually joined me and it was amazing.

This leads me to the reasoning behind my post.....

How often do you initiate sex with your H/SO?? What are some of the ways you go about doing this?

I would love to bring some heat and passion back to our relationship regularly versus the sporadic maybe once every 3 months that it is. Give me your ideas ladies!!!

[zandeela]

not too long ago (my birthday) we were able to get a babysitter and go to the movies and to a nice restaurant for drinks and desert. we did not get home until late, I had snuck out a condom and jumped him in the truck like a teenager. It was a lot of fun. We normally are intimate 1-2 times a week, except that one week a month. it is normally plain jane do it and get to sleep. Sometimes initiated by me and sometimes by him. There is a 10:00 cut off. I get grumpy if I am up after 10 We don't do the shower thing because my husband only has one leg and uses a prosthetic. one legged man in slick shower doing the nasty = very bad situation!

[mrssmith613]

Aug 23, 2015 22:19:45 GMT -5 lakecountrygal said:

SEX


So DH and I are hit and miss when it comes to actually being intimate and even cuddly with each other lately.

Tonight I did something I haven't done in YEARS and initiated by inviting him to join me in the shower. I was surprised that he actually joined me and it was amazing.

This leads me to the reasoning behind my post.....

How often do you initiate sex with your H/SO?? What are some of the ways you go about doing this?

I would love to bring some heat and passion back to our relationship regularly versus the sporadic maybe once every 3 months that it is. Give me your ideas ladies!!!

I think about initiating it daily but never follow through.... I'm to tired and 90% of the time when he try's as he's coming to bed I'm crabby and I turn him down :-( I'm such a bad wife

[Deleted]

We each initiate, but I have to say if I get turned down I'm less apt to do so again for a week+, my ego can't handle it. For us it is about his health, so even though my mind knows that my heart hurts. I pretty much never turn him down. We go through cycles where we have regular sex 3-4 x a week for a two-three week stretch, and then might go a week to 10days without any intercourse. It just depends.

[walkek85]

My libido is pretty low, so I can go long periods of time without sex but I know H needs it so I try to be a sport about it. We typically have sex about once a week, but a lot more now that we are TFAS. One way I will initiate will be to come out of the bathroom in some sexy lingerie after he has just gotten into bed. He gets a big shit grin on his face and just loves it.

[ellabee]

I can go longer than my DH in terms of wanting sex. We're intimate maybe once a week, or two weeks when not in my fertile window. We're TFAS, so we've been more active lately.

Initiating falls on DH's shoulders 95% of the time, unless we're in my window, then it's me. A simple eye brow waggle with a "want to get busy" does it for him lol. He's not hard to get in the mood.

[bsouls]

We work opposite schedules during the week, so we only average once a week now. Usually, we start talking about it beforehand and/or texting.

I did initiate one morning at like 5am when I woke up from T crying out during her sleep and I was wide awake. But, he usually can't orgasm when I wake him up to do it.

[lakecountrygal]

So tonight in passing (me getting home from work and DH leaving) DH goes "I wish I had more time so we could redo last night all over again." I think someone enjoyed it :-)

[walkek85]

ellabee, sounds like us with the TFAS thing. H has turned into such a girl and demands that I "seduce" him when we are in my FW. Ridiculous!

[Deleted]

We both initiate. His schedule is really intense so sometimes he is just too exhausted. I will undress in a provocative way in front of him or wait for him in lingerie when I know he is coming to bed soon. I will also surprise him with a BJ. It works every time.

[babycaps]

Hmm...sex!!!!
I feel like in the last couple of months our sex life is back to what it was pre-kid. 2-3x week and it's awesome. Friday night is almost a given or Saturday morning and when LO is napping is a great time too. We both initiate it, but he initiates more often than me. In the last two weeks it's like I can't get enough! I'm motivated TFAS!
While pregnant, we did it at least once/week with a few exceptions. AF doesn't get in the way much except for the first 2-3 days.
Since about 2007, when I got off the pill, I have a high sex drive. The week before my period is hit or miss.
We also have a lot of foreplay during the day with what many would find to be very inappropriate text messages (NEVER with pictures), but it makes us hot and bothered to a point where as soon as LO is in bed we jump each other's bones.

[zandeela]

while prego, our sex life dwindled around month 6-7. DH was worried about hurting LO, and I was huge so it took some finagling. But I talked him into it once and got my labor going 3 weeks early!

[pearlvirus]

We were getting back into the swing (about every other day, both initiating) until I got preg again, now I could care less if we ever did again DH gets really annoying (super affectionate and always wanting to cuddly and touch me) if it goes more than about 3 days, so I try to throw him a bone at least that often. I'd mainly rather sleep. I guess that is no help, sorry!

[newmomma8]

I'm jumping in,...I'm 20 weeks right now and with a toddler in our bed half of the night, we haven't had sex since June 20th. She literally is the type of kid who has to be with one or both of us all the time. Even during weekend naps, DH tends to nap with her in our bed. I want him to not nap and we can at least run upstairs to the extra bedroom and DTD.

I hate initiating it because I feel awkward. DH doesn't have a high sex drive, so he can go long periods without it. It's almost like he seems like it's too much work/effort. It's very upsetting and discouraging.

BUT I did tell him this morning that this weekend IS THE WEEKEND! We are visiting my parents and T will sleep in a baby bed in my Mom's room so this is our chance! So I forewarned him and he better bring his A game! LOL

[Deleted]

newmomma8, Hope it goes wonderfully! Ain't no way I'd be missing out on fabulous 2nd tri sex! whew I get excited just thinking about how awesome it was1

[babycaps]

&newmomma8, I hope you get lucky!!!

We are in overdrive here TFAS and so far no luck. So we just keep going!! In away, it's a little overwhelming. There has been A LOT of sex and its wonderful but also a little exhausting and then no BFP yet.

[ellabee]

Sept 5, 2015 15:02:22 GMT -5 babycaps said:

&newmomma8, I hope you get lucky!!!

We are in overdrive here TFAS and so far no luck. So we just keep going!! In away, it's a little overwhelming. There has been A LOT of sex and its wonderful but also a little exhausting and then no BFP yet.

Same thing here with us. It's kinda exhausting lol. We are definitely more active than we otherwise would be now that we're TFAS. I think I got my hopes up a bit too much because we conceived E our first month trying and now no bfp yet for us this time around.

[babycaps]

Sept 6, 2015 19:26:27 GMT -5 ellabee said:

Sept 5, 2015 15:02:22 GMT -5 babycaps said:

&newmomma8, I hope you get lucky!!!

We are in overdrive here TFAS and so far no luck. So we just keep going!! In away, it's a little overwhelming. There has been A LOT of sex and its wonderful but also a little exhausting and then no BFP yet.

Same thing here with us. It's kinda exhausting lol. We are definitely more active than we otherwise would be now that we're TFAS. I think I got my hopes up a bit too much because we conceived E our first month trying and now no bfp yet for us this time around.

Yup!!!! That's exactly what's happening here, word for word!!! I'll POAS this week I think Thursday. Will be CD 27.

[newmomma8]

So, I thought my chance was gone last night. We came home from my parents without any dirty play because T refused to sleep anywhere other than with me.

BUT, last night T fell asleep on the couch with me so we put her in her room for the first time (I know, I'm stupid for letting her sleep in our room), so all in all,...I GOT LUCKY!!! First time since June 20th! Granted for a while 1st tri kicked my butt and I was sick the whole time, but as soon as 2nd tri hit, this Momma was ready to go! Lol

Edited: Phone typing is hard!

[RandomName]

I'd like to inset the nope octupus here. No sex over here until I figure out what I'm doing for birth control. I do not want 3 under 2.5-3 yrs.

For other stuff, we both initiate but have been slacking lately and opting to just sleep.

[ellabee]

Sept 7, 2015 10:26:21 GMT -5 RandomName said:

I'd like to inset the nope octupus here. No sex over here until I figure out what I'm doing for birth control. I do not want 3 under 2.5-3 yrs.

For other stuff, we both initiate but have been slacking lately and opting to just sleep.

I got you.

[lakecountrygal]

^^^^ that gif always makes me smile!!