Geez nursemommy13. He really can't keep his shit together, can he? But did the new girlfriend really expect any different? I know you can handle him but I hope he doesn't hurt poor little M's feelings.
pitchslap That's the pic I sent J from Target saying "I can do back to school shopping too, right?" Haha!! And you can't see the stuff that wasn't on hangers.
They have paw patrol clothes?! A would be so excited! Damn, now I'm going to have to go buy some!
Post by nursemommy13 on Aug 24, 2015 13:56:57 GMT -5
cynthia2007 Yes they have Paw Patrol clothes. Our smaller Target had more than our Super Target, but M saw that jacket and loved it so I got it cause it was the last one in 3T. It will probably be at least two more months before she can wear it here. At least.
Geez nursemommy13. He really can't keep his shit together, can he? But did the new girlfriend really expect any different? I know you can handle him but I hope he doesn't hurt poor little M's feelings.
He seems to be sticking to our schedule, but he only sees her on Thursdays and every other Sunday (due to his work schedule, we can't do every other weekend like the decree says). And she doesn't stay the night with him, so he gets her like 830am-730pm. Sometimes he's late and sometimes he drops her off early. Never know. She normally doesn't seem to mind. Except today she kept saying "I want to see my daddy" over and over again at Target. It sucks and she doesn't understand why she can't see him every day.
Post by stargazer763 on Aug 24, 2015 14:03:45 GMT -5
nursemommy13, that situation sounds like what an IRL friend of mine has to deal with. Friend's ex-H pulls the same shit with his kids (3), and it's just so sad. Because it's his fault he's missing out, but the kids suffer, too.
Luckily, both those kids and M have a strong home life outside of shitty ex-Hs. Massive high five to you for doing all that you do!
Post by everydayimshuffling on Aug 24, 2015 14:08:24 GMT -5
anustart1 That would make me so ragey. So so ragey.
nursemommy13 I'm not normally one to wish suffering on someone, but it sounds like your ex is learning a hard lesson. One that he should have learned a long damned time ago. You are much better off without him. I'm so happy that you are happy and enjoying your life with J
nursemommy13 Looks like he's going to have a second child support order soon! Guess he has an expiration date when it comes to relationships. Glad you kicked him to the curb, but I feel bad for M when he doesn't seem to want to be involved in her life
nursemommy13 I feel bad for N that she got the short end of the stick in the bio dad department. You definitely make up for it in being an amazing mom/dad and it sounds like J really loves her.
sctiger not a jerk, just in different places. One of my long time friends and I have drifted apart. It sucks and it took DH telling me she's not worth it (I was the one putting in the effort and still only seeing her once a year).
This. It happened to me too. My friend and I had been friends since middle school. Made it through college, her getting married, and having kids. We'd still have date nights and I'd babysit her kids. Then I got divorced. I last saw her the week I moved out of my apartment. I would text and try to meet up and she'd always have an excuse. She hasn't been to any of M's birthday parties. She didn't even invite us to her sons' parties, even though I always came to all of them prior to my divorce. She posts pictures out with other couple friends all the time. I finally gave up. If she doesn't want to take the effort, then fine.
I gave up on a few friends. After a while you just get tired of being the one always making the effort. If they dont have time for me, i dont have time for them. Theres only so much a person can try.
Yesterday J decided to try to fight his nap after he asked to go nap. Iwas watching on the monitor and in one swift motion he threw his leg over the top! He stopped as soon as i said to put his leg down but im afraid the time to transition is almost here for us too.
I explained to him that he shouldnt try to climb out bc he may fall, hit the floor and get hurt. He seemed to be taking in the info. We shall see.
J has done this too on occasion. I yell so loud when he does this I think it momentarily scares the shit out of him (I'm not usually a yeller.) So far it's held him off from a full escape. So yeah, there's some bad mom advice.
I yell too much. I definitely yelled louder and sterner when he tossed his foot up.
Im working on not yelling. Unfortunately its become the only way he listens sometimes. I figure if i really stick to not yelling then maybe we can go back to not yelling at all? Sometimes its hard. Like today, im not feeling well so i was already in need of a nap. I took my hormones which also knock me on my ass so that just made me even more tired. Trying to get him to nap was like wrangling a snail. He does everything in slow motion to stall. I lost my patience bc i was just so tired that i yelled. I felt terrible but i was about to crash hard.
pitchslap That's the pic I sent J from Target saying "I can do back to school shopping too, right?" Haha!! And you can't see the stuff that wasn't on hangers.
Crap. I need to get J some fall/school clothes. I didnt even think about that. Oy!
nursemommy13 What a jerk. How are you supposed to talk only face to face? Is he going to drive to your place unannounced every time he wants to tell you he is bailing on M?
Guess he had also better start thinking about keeping his dick in his pants, too, so he doesn't end up disappointing more tiny kids.
Thats what i was thinking but when i tried to type it out it got long winded so i deleted it.
I was thinking "he wants to talk about whether or not hes coming on thursday in person??" Ummmmkayyyy
Post by momofcatan on Aug 24, 2015 15:19:59 GMT -5
sympkin, we have not done anything to get her citizenship, customs guys was just being stupid. This is the third time DH has had the border guys give him crap but it was by far the worst. At this point I'm wondering if nexus cards would be worth it. We only go to the US 3-4 times a year max.
melohdy enjoy the crappy TV, it's what the newborn stage was made for.
nursemommy13, no one possibly saw this coming /sarcasm. At this point would it work M if you said "daddy's at work". My mom suggested that's what DH tells DD this week when she asks for me because it's what she always says to DD when she's watching her for us. She understand that it means we can't be there that second but she will see us soon. Obviously only a temporary solution
I had my 8 week appointment today and I hated the OB I saw. It's my first time away from my CNM's who delivered DD (first time ever). And it was the first time I had a male doctor down there.
He was so freaking rough with my PAP and I'm still cramping. And then he made me feel stupid for listing drugs that I have strong reactions to under "drug allergies". According to him, if it's not anaphylaxis, it's not an allergic reaction worth mentioning. So, the med that made me black out and hallucinate during DD'a delivery? Don't list it. Even though I was told by my nurses and CNMs to do so. The drug I've always had to list since I was little that I don't know the reaction to, but was really sucky? Don't list it.
I called DH when I got home and cried hysterically about the visit. I'm aboalutrlu dreading this pregnancy and delivery now. I want my CNMs back.
Ugh im sorry. Are you stuck with this guy the whole time? Can you avoid him?
I had my 8 week appointment today and I hated the OB I saw. It's my first time away from my CNM's who delivered DD (first time ever). And it was the first time I had a male doctor down there.
He was so freaking rough with my PAP and I'm still cramping. And then he made me feel stupid for listing drugs that I have strong reactions to under "drug allergies". According to him, if it's not anaphylaxis, it's not an allergic reaction worth mentioning. So, the med that made me black out and hallucinate during DD'a delivery? Don't list it. Even though I was told by my nurses and CNMs to do so. The drug I've always had to list since I was little that I don't know the reaction to, but was really sucky? Don't list it.
I called DH when I got home and cried hysterically about the visit. I'm aboalutrlu dreading this pregnancy and delivery now. I want my CNMs back.
Ugh im sorry. Are you stuck with this guy the whole time? Can you avoid him?
And id list those meds.
Im sorry. That sounds terrible. I'm with cl8badb Is it a group? And you can request not to see him?
Coming from a nurse, I would definitely list those meds.
Post by nursemommy13 on Aug 24, 2015 15:53:44 GMT -5
momofcatan That's what I told her earlier. I told her he was working and she would see him Thursday. I don't know how long that will work, but we'll see.
And I'm just as confused about the whole texting thing. It's not like I was texting him to shoot the shit or ask him to hang out. It would literally be like 'are you picking M up at this time in the morning' or about when he'd drop her off. I stopped being nice and sending pictures and updates of her life long ago cause I don't get anything in return. Whatever.
She obviously didn't have any problem texting him when he was a married man. **insert eye roll**
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