^*^* WEEKLY GOAL SETTING 8/31/15 *^*^

[icequeen]

Hi ladies,

I must have completely spaced out last week because I just realized that I made no goals, nor commented on anyone else's goals. UGH! Sorry about that. Hopefully this week will be better! If you made any goals last week, please update us on how you did and list any new goals for this week. Please use the following format below and always be sure to mention trigger warnings where you feel necessary. Thanks

Goal:
Short or long term?
Why is it important?
How am I going to accomplish it?

[bocaburger]

Thanks icequeen! Sorry I have been a bit MIA, I was traveling for a while and then I started IVF last week! So, lots going on and the hormones have started to sap my energy...

Goal: Find a healthy balance between getting things done and taking care of myself.
Short or long term? Both, but especially short term while I'm doing IVF.
Why is it important? I tend to be all-or-nothing, which is not healthy. I made a lot of progress with helping out with chores and being productive, and I don't want to lose that, but it's also important to prioritize self-care right now.
How am I going to accomplish it? Make a plan the night before so I know what I need to accomplish the next day. Be flexible and use positive self-talk to reassure myself it's ok if I need to change plans or rest.

Goal: Get 7+ hours of sleep every night.
Short or long term? Both
Why is it important? For my health!
How am I going to accomplish it? Practice better sleep hygiene. Stop using my phone/computer at least 30 minutes before bed. Read a book in bed instead.

Goal: Walk 2 miles every day.
Short or long term? Short
Why is it important? I was using exercise, especially yoga, to decrease my anxiety but I can't do yoga while I'm doing IVF. Walking is a good alternative and being outside in the fresh air relaxes me.
How am I going to accomplish it? Plan it into my day. So far I've been doing pretty well - I've met my goal for the last 4 days in a row.

[Ray]

Those are some great goals bocaburger! I definitely can relate to struggling with self-care. I also tend to put everyone else - good for you!!

My goals last week were to make it through the week were to not get caught up in negative thoughts re: back to school. I think I did pretty well for the most part. Going in and getting organized helped.

New goal: to get to Friday with a smile.

Short-term

Important because I really need to make myself believe that these are good kids, and my job can be rewarding.

How will I accomplish it? I bought a cute journal book thing and I am going to write down one positive thing that happened each day, no matter how small.

Long-term goal: get better at dealing with the day-day stress.

Important because well stress is no good.

The plan: read the above book when I'm feeling down. I'm going to pack my running clothes so that I can run immediately after class, before I come home to burn off some stress if I need to. I also put CDs in my car to rock out/chill out to on my drive home.

[bocaburger]

Sept 1, 2015 6:43:44 GMT -5 jennykat said:

Hi everybody! Sorry I've been completely MIA as of this past month. We are having severe marital issues presently, so I haven't been on quite as much as normal. I've been lurking and thinking great thoughts for everyone. I hope you are all doing well! I'll try to be better about continuing to support you all.

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you are able to work everything out, and please know that we are here if you need support.

[yoshijo28]

Goal:

Be more flexible with my menu and my day



Short or long term? Long term but especially this week because man, this blows big time.

Why is it important? I've lived my whole adult life with rigid rules and can't function if something goes outside of my plan or doesn't happen as it should. Eating disorder aside, this has been an issue that just manifested itself into an issue with food but exists in many parts of my life.

How am I going to accomplish it? Xanax helps. Fuck,I hate taking medication but I have no choice because today has shown me I'm just not capable. And talking to my therapist team.

[icequeen]

bocaburger, I really like the idea of reading before bed. That is my daily routine and it totally helps! Even if you can't fit in the 2 miles, maybe you can park your car further away or take the stairs at work to get in some more physical activity

Ray, writing in the journal is a great way to have tangible evidence to help you stay optimistic because it forces you to acknowledge the good things that are happening by writing them down. Great job!

yoshijo28, there's nothing shameful about taking medication. You're showing that you are stronger than your ED by taking control of your symptoms. That's what they're there for! I'm proud of you for taking that step.

jennykat, I'm so sorry to hear your marriage has been rocky. I hope things smooth over soon.

Goal 1: Eat 3 meals/snacks per day without purging
Short or long term? long
Why is it important? I need to fuel my metabolism so the baby keeps growing
How am I going to accomplish it? meal planning and voicing my anxiety as it comes up to stay accountable.

Goal 2: Pack up our house for moving to Chicago
Short or long term? short
Why is it important? There is so much to do and I'm overwhelmed just thinking about it.
How am I going to accomplish it? I will do one room per day.