Post by 2dumbdogs on Jan 29, 2015 11:00:17 GMT -5
I didn't want to start a new thread and I need some PGAL advice.
I had a talk with my husband this morning. When we woke up he said good morning and I said "good morning! Baby says hello!" He didn't even react. Not a smile or anything. I asked him if he was excited for this baby and he said "I'm happy. But I'm not excited. I want to be. But it's hard to be. I don't want to be extremely excited to have that excitement crushed again like last time."
I completely understand where he's coming from. I'm scared and nervous to get my hopes up too. But...I wish he was just a little more excited. He doesn't even want to go with me to my appointment today for an ultrasound. (We've had three ultrasounds already and he's been to all of them so it's not a huge deal, but I'm 13 weeks now so baby will probably look like a baby now.) I want to be sensitive to his feelings as he is to mine, but I also want him to be happy and excited with me. It's hard to stay excited when he's being a downer, ya know?
I can't speak for your husband, but i know i am not excited at all about being pregnant. I don't know that i will be until i have the baby home safe. Everyone deals with loss differently.
That said, my husband actually is excited, so our dynamic is opposite of yours. I try not to crush him with my negativity (i save that for a few lucky girlfriends) and he tries to respect my anxiety. You will have to find a balance.