TTMA Custody
Sept 17, 2015 13:29:13 GMT -5
Post by lolo918 on Sept 17, 2015 13:29:13 GMT -5
Let me preface this with the fact that I have started a new post for awhile now and I still have no clue what my priority questions or issues are so it may get long.
So I felt ready to at least open online dating profiles again. BD saw my profile on OKCupid around 12:30a Wednesday- I was using the same profile I had when we met and he had a new profile. I got messaged from this profile that just had the north face logo instead of a profile picture, first to say hi and then saying my profile is the best this dude had seen; that he saw I had graduate studies, and from what schools. When I woke up in the morning I had two missed calls from a number I didn't have saved in my phone- thankfully I have nighttime settings so the calls are silenced if I don't have the number saved- he didn't leave a message either. Something that I couldn't explain didn't feel right (had seen missed calls at about the same time as okc messages), so I didn't respond to either. That afternoon I got a few quickfire, impatient feeling messages from the same OKC profile saying: he didn't have a picture up because of his job that he could send me one through email or text if I wanted, if I was busy, and finally a message saying, btw how old is your Daughter. I was feeling uneasy at this point, like something was telling me it was him but I tried to underplay it so I wouldn't freak myself out too much. I still hadn't responded or engaged in any conversation with the online profile message, when I got a text from the number I do have for BD that basically said the reason why we can't work things out is because I just had a baby and already have a dating profile up, that I was doing what I do best. Really did not want to engage at that point so I didn't respond, and he really escalted in insults around 11pm. Between messages on OKC and texts, he called me a whorebag, slut bucket, bitch, said he knew he would find me on there, accused me of trolling on sites looking for a new BD, that I'd meet this new guy and start giving out BJ's, and he wasn't giving me a dime until we had a blood test done. I reported the OKC profile for offensive messages to me, but wonder if legally there is anything to protect myself and DD. She doesn't need that kind of influence in her life and I shudder to think of her possibly being in that environment as a helpless baby who can't speak up for herself right now.
So, last night at first I was mostly annoyed. Then the more I thought about it, it actually scared me. Unless he is somewhere that specifically prohibits guns, he is always packing heat and last night with no input from me his behavior really escalated in an abnormal way. I want to file for custody but I don't really even want to give him the chance to contest anything if that makes sense. So what do you do when the behavior of your co-parent begins to make you wonder if you are safe around them or in general makes you want to cut off all communication with them?
So I felt ready to at least open online dating profiles again. BD saw my profile on OKCupid around 12:30a Wednesday- I was using the same profile I had when we met and he had a new profile. I got messaged from this profile that just had the north face logo instead of a profile picture, first to say hi and then saying my profile is the best this dude had seen; that he saw I had graduate studies, and from what schools. When I woke up in the morning I had two missed calls from a number I didn't have saved in my phone- thankfully I have nighttime settings so the calls are silenced if I don't have the number saved- he didn't leave a message either. Something that I couldn't explain didn't feel right (had seen missed calls at about the same time as okc messages), so I didn't respond to either. That afternoon I got a few quickfire, impatient feeling messages from the same OKC profile saying: he didn't have a picture up because of his job that he could send me one through email or text if I wanted, if I was busy, and finally a message saying, btw how old is your Daughter. I was feeling uneasy at this point, like something was telling me it was him but I tried to underplay it so I wouldn't freak myself out too much. I still hadn't responded or engaged in any conversation with the online profile message, when I got a text from the number I do have for BD that basically said the reason why we can't work things out is because I just had a baby and already have a dating profile up, that I was doing what I do best. Really did not want to engage at that point so I didn't respond, and he really escalted in insults around 11pm. Between messages on OKC and texts, he called me a whorebag, slut bucket, bitch, said he knew he would find me on there, accused me of trolling on sites looking for a new BD, that I'd meet this new guy and start giving out BJ's, and he wasn't giving me a dime until we had a blood test done. I reported the OKC profile for offensive messages to me, but wonder if legally there is anything to protect myself and DD. She doesn't need that kind of influence in her life and I shudder to think of her possibly being in that environment as a helpless baby who can't speak up for herself right now.
So, last night at first I was mostly annoyed. Then the more I thought about it, it actually scared me. Unless he is somewhere that specifically prohibits guns, he is always packing heat and last night with no input from me his behavior really escalated in an abnormal way. I want to file for custody but I don't really even want to give him the chance to contest anything if that makes sense. So what do you do when the behavior of your co-parent begins to make you wonder if you are safe around them or in general makes you want to cut off all communication with them?