Post by misshart00 on Jan 27, 2015 17:32:26 GMT -5
I asked this on another thread but I think it may be better on its own.
Has anyone had a crappy nurse when going to L&D? I've been a few times and this morning, my nurse just made me feel super uncomfortable, like why was I even there (and my doctor even sent me straight from her office to over there)?
How did you deal with it? Or just any entertaining stories?
Post by mom2xover2002 on Jan 27, 2015 18:11:30 GMT -5
My L&D nurses were freaking awesome. It was my postpartum ward nurses that sucked!! Kept asking for towels for a shower (they never brought them) amongst other things. When the hospital rep came to ask me how everything was I let them know.
I had amazing nurses with my first except for one. She had to be in my room cause I was on pitocin for a few hours and it was policy to be monitored. My epi was delayed for an emergency so I was pretty unhappy and I was just having a moment where I needed to cry and regroup with DH. She was such a peach and said "You are having a baby, what did you think it was going to be like... it hurts." At that point I was on my second day of labour and I screamed "Get OUT!"
Never saw her again. I felt really bad afterwards but yelling "get out" felt pretty good at the time too.
I just want to add that nurses have a important and difficult job and I honestly feel bad looking back that I yelled.
In my general in the hospital experiences, the 7p-7a nurses are always so much better! I guess because they are less busy? Who knows! Curious to know what mine will be like!
Yes. Through all three pregnancies I've had nurses comment on my small belly. I just roll my eyes now but it scared the crap out of me during my first pregnancy and it's extremely unprofessional.
In my general in the hospital experiences, the 7p-7a nurses are always so much better! I guess because they are less busy? Who knows! Curious to know what mine will be like!
I completely agree with this.. I've always had better experiences with the night nurses than the day nurses.
This is one of my fears. I"ve never been through this, but it sounds like the nurses are around SO MUCH more then your dr and really get you through. The 2 nurses I'm met at the hospital are awesome though, so I'm hoping it will be good!
I had some crappy night nurses but this was after delivery. I feel like they were rude and pushy about breastfeeding and I just wanted them to go away. I dealt with it by complaining to my husband when they left the room.
My nurses during and leading up to delivery were awesome so I hope to have the same this go around.
I had a great 7p-7a nurse when I had DS. She was there when I first was admitted. Then I got a not-so-great daytime nurse. She wasn't terribly sympathetic, kept pushing meds when she knew my goal was to avoid them, kept telling me to get back in bed when it was horribly uncomfortable for me to labor in bed, etc. In the overall scheme of things she wasn't awful, just not great. I was thrilled at 7p when the nurse from the previous night came back on shift. She was the one there through delivery and my immediate recovery.
Post by BellinghamMama on Jan 27, 2015 21:22:53 GMT -5
Ug yesssss - seriously awful. I will never forget my nurses with DS; I was in tears multiple times. (**Just know you can request a different nurse! I didn't know that with my first and I totally would've.)
With DS, this lovely nurse checked me in and even braided my hair back from my face all motherly-like. 5 minutes later her shift ended My next nurse was tired, cranky, and had no patience for whining. My plan was med-free and she knew that; despite this, after nearly EVERY contraction she would slip in little comments like, "honestly hon, you don't have to be in this much pain." "this isn't the hill to die on." "do you want me to call the anesthesiologist?..... how bout now?...... now?..... what about now? ....we have other things for pain, like xyx?"
When it was finally time to push, she ignored our requests to keep the room quiet and with only necessary staff. The door was opened, the curtain pushed back, and like an entire gallery of nurses stood in the doorway for the show - like they had literally nothing else to do. About 4-5 nurses just stood there giving commentary on my labor. "Oh look, she's getting up on the bed." "look at that, she's pushing." (seriously- I could see the nurses station from my bed.)
Later the hearing-tech totally botched the exam, and was like "he's not hearing." "You know, it's really important that babies hear for like speech and language development and stuff"... (cue tears). Turns out she stuck the ear buds on incorrectly. I was a hot, hormonal, exhausted mess.
If I could do it over, I would've had someone there to advocate for me - a doula or a close family member or friend. DH and I were both too emotionally and physically spent to have clear minds and consider our options ( like requesting a different nurse, or for the tech to redo the test ).
When I had my daughter my L&D nurse was the most amazing nurse in the world. I was only in the hospital about an hour until the baby came, so I only had that one. All of my postpartum nurses SUCKED. What's up with that? One yelled at me because the room temp was set to 73 degrees when babies need it no warmer than 72. I didn't even know there was a freaking thermostat in there and I hadn't touched it. Jeez.
I spent the night in L&D at 26 weeks being monitored after a car accident. I had a 50% success rate with the nurses there. Unfortunately the one who drew my blood and was with me the longest was the worst! I'm hoping all the good nurses were busy helping moms deliver their babies.
I spent a night at L&D and a few nights at post partum being monitored at 27w for unexpected bleeding. For the most part I had amazing nurses, they really made you feel taken care of. And I agree that the night nurses were the best!
I had one nurse that was a little cranky, but she actually admitted to me that she had been working 10 shifts in a row so I'm willing to cut her some slack for that.
On the other hand, I hated the on call doctor and the one who discharged me, so there's that...
My night L&D nurse was alright, except baby wasn't doing too much. My daytime nurse that I had through pitocin, epi, delivery and immediate recovery, absolutely amazing. I didn't want her to go when I got to recovery.
Although, the nursery nurse that was taking all of my son's vital, whole other ballgame. Her hands were ice cold and she was tying to help with latching during baby bonding. She told me to do the complete opposite of what my L&D nurse showed me. Plus, her method was not working. Then, we get to recovery, I'm tired, 12 family members are crammed in my room taking photos and I am losing my patience. The nursery nurse comes back to take glucose levels and he is sticking my son in the foot with freezing hands and he is screaming bloody murder. Well, her machine decides not to work and she continues to attempt retesting two more times. Well, none of the tests work and she goes "oh, it must be the machine." I'm sitting there ready to lunge at her for all of this. I was so annoyed, I did not want her near my child the entire rest of our stay.
With DS1 our nurse for delivery was wonderful. She took one break and the new nurse came in to monitor the baby, she told me I couldn't sit on the birthing ball while she did it because she couldn't get her arms around me. Making me stand up I thought she was ready but she fumbled it so I made a move it sit back down and she told me to wait for her. I had my first hardcore contraction standing and threw up. My H grabbed a pail so it didn't go everywhere but after that I refused to stand and told her I would be on the birthing ball if she needed me. Also in pp recovery one night nurse came in to check my vitals without talking to, ok no big deal she's trying to be quiet, then she starts to wheel DS out of the room. Umm, hello stranger what are you doing? She said I looked really tired so she thought shed take him down to the nursery. I thanked her for thinking of us but I'd never seen her before and we were both sleeping so she didn't need to take him anywhere without asking me first. She stormed off but not before shoving the cart with my son back across the room. I hopped up quick called the nurses station and complained. That nurse claimed I was seeing things on my meds- hi no meds for me crazy liar pants. We never saw her after that.
My DH is a nurse. They are people too and have crappy days and good days. Yes, they shouldn't take stuff out on patients but like anyone it can come out at the wrong people. They also get shit from superiors and are sometimes told they must do certain things whether it is what they want or not.
Some of the stories I totally get.... But remember emotions are very high during this time and sometimes people don't show their best colors when emotion.
In my general in the hospital experiences, the 7p-7a nurses are always so much better! I guess because they are less busy? Who knows! Curious to know what mine will be like!
Yes! My overnight nurses were amazing with my first.
The nurse who checked us in with DD was a peach. I asked for someone else as it was already 11:30pm and I just didn't want to deal with Ms. Grumpy. Ended up with the sweetest old lady who was just wonderful.
DH and I work for the hospital system so know how it is. When the nurse manager came to check why we asked for someone else we all had a nice discussion, turns out she was already being written up on her attitude towards patients.
The rest of our nurses were great. The nurse manager checked on us everyday until we left.
I'm of the theory nurse are just like all other people, we aren't going to mesh with everyone. Some people will just rub us the wrong way. Its OK to ask for someone else.
Speaking of nurses is anyone making little gifts for them? I thought maybe a gift bag would make every nurse love me but now I'm scared they're going to be horrible no matter what!
I just bought some granola bars and fruit snacks. That way they can grab and go if they want.
Post by wendy46001 on Jan 28, 2015 10:02:51 GMT -5
badw0lf last time I had my mother bring in bagels and coffee after DD arrived, she was born at 5:30am. We'll do the same this go round. Also we were there forever, so we had a pizza party one afternoon for the staff (I wanted pizza so we just got enough for the floor)
Speaking of nurses is anyone making little gifts for them? I thought maybe a gift bag would make every nurse love me but now I'm scared they're going to be horrible no matter what!
I just bought some granola bars and fruit snacks. That way they can grab and go if they want.
DD filled a gift bag with rice crispy treats and mints for the nurses. She wanted to add more but didn't have time. They loved it!
I loved my L&D nurse when I was having DS. She was awesome! The PP/next shift nurse sucked. I felt like I since I already delivered, I wasn't a priority to them. They rarely checked in on me and rushed when they did.
Post by toadandbuggie on Jan 28, 2015 16:52:46 GMT -5
My nurses were all great and helpful, some more so than others. The only complaint I have is that my L&D nurses seemed very unsympathetic towards my pain and were pretty much laughing at me while I was actively pushing (FI confirmed this - I thought maybe I had imagined it). I said something like "this hurts so bad!" and the one nurse goes, "Yeah, we know, we had kids too." Now, wouldn't something like, "It's okay, you're almost there!" be more appropriate?
Post by allonsy221b on Jan 28, 2015 18:06:56 GMT -5
I LOVED the male nurse that was with me during surgery. I had a few good nurses and one that I think was brand new because all her answers were so textbook and she wasn't sure how to elaborate but overall everyone was awesome. Hoping I get a good team this time.
My nurse during labor and delivery drove me nuts with my previous feb baby- but she was really just doing her job. While laboring I was totally in my own zone and really just wanted to be left alone there. Her job required that she needed to check on baby and I every so often, and she had to tell me what she was going to do each time. Totally makes sense, right? It would be upsetting to have them just poke and prod without saying anything first. But I hated her breaking into my bubble and just wanted her to be quiet. Also, she gave me the IV while I was in transition and really wanting to get into the tub, so that wasn't fun.
Meanwhile, I adored my CNM (she really was great) but she also gets the nice, encouraging part of the job - rather than the poking and prodding part.
We LOVED our night nurse. Pretty much anytime DS cried we called her in and she would burp him or change his diaper for us and never made us feel like silly FTPs. (And again, she wasn't stabbing me with IV needles, just loving on my newborn)
Daytime nurses we didn't really get to know, we just wanted to get the process going so we could go home.
One of my best friends is a nurse, who was L & D, I have a few other who are nurses as well (some in L &D).... Their advice to me? If you don't like your nurse, ask for another. It's common practice to ask for another and it's NBD..... Luckily I never came to that, but if you're uncomfortable, ask for someone else!
One of my best friends is a nurse, who was L & D, I have a few other who are nurses as well (some in L &D).... Their advice to me? If you don't like your nurse, ask for another. It's common practice to ask for another and it's NBD..... Luckily I never came to that, but if you're uncomfortable, ask for someone else!
I've heard this. But h and I were talking about it. Who do you ask? It seems awkward and weird to actually ask the nurse.
One of my best friends is a nurse, who was L & D, I have a few other who are nurses as well (some in L &D).... Their advice to me? If you don't like your nurse, ask for another. It's common practice to ask for another and it's NBD..... Luckily I never came to that, but if you're uncomfortable, ask for someone else!
I've heard this. But h and I were talking about it. Who do you ask? It seems awkward and weird to actually ask the nurse.
Great question! I've been wondering the same thing!
You can ask for the charge nurse or have YH go to the nurses station to ask, I think. misshart00 and smyers2girls. I do not have personal experience though with switching.
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