I went to my doctor at 15.5 weeks & after 3 ultrasounds I learned my baby had passed at ~12.5 weeks based on size & they said there was no heartbeat. I called the doctor the day after I learned the baby had miscarried & he confirmed it was gone. I know he doesn't do/support abortions. Without seeing the ultrasound screens & knowing what the doctor does, I'm struggling to believe the baby is gone. My D&C is scheduled in 2 days. I just awoke feeling like something was moving, maybe it was the placenta. I don't want to abort a living baby, and I'm having a hard time believing all of this is real, since I've had no spotting and only mild cramping & it's been ~4 weeks since the baby passed. Do I need another ultrasound? Will they check one last time for a heartbeat before the d&c?
Post by likethewheels on Sept 27, 2015 8:55:21 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you're going through this. In my experience, they checked multiple times to confirm there was no heartbeat. (It sounds like they did for you too.) They did not check right before my d&e but it was less than 24 hours from confirming my loss and the procedure. Can you ask that they do an ultrasound so that you could see what they are seeing? I think that might be difficult to see, but it may also give you some peace of mind.
I struggled with believing that the baby was gone and even after the fact I had moments where I thought to myself, "what if they just missed something?" but I knew that wasn't the case. I saw that there was no movement on the first ultrasound they did, and dh saw the graph (?) they use on the transvaginal u/s that measures the heart rate and he saw there was no reading, after many minutes of trying to find it. I wasn't even trying to look at that point.
So I don't think it's at all unreasonable to ask for another ultrasound if only for your sake of understanding and peace of mind. So, so many ((hugs)).
Post by daystardreams on Sept 27, 2015 9:35:13 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. With my first loss, I wasn't sure either. I was such a wreck after the ultrasound that she told me to come back later. I came back a couple days later and asked for another ultrasound. No growth, no heartbeat. I had a much clearer head the second time so I could ask questions and feel more confident in making the decision to have the D&C.
It's perfectly normal to ask for another ultrasound and I think the doctor should be fine complying with that. However, they did not do an ultrasound at either of my D&C's. Both times I never even saw my doctor until after the procedure. So if you want an ultrasound definitely do it before the day of your D&C.
Post by hollyberry on Sept 28, 2015 7:14:34 GMT -5
I am sorry for your loss, I too never had any sign of misscarrage, at least with my first one. I had my D&Cs both tue same day I found out. But during the ultrasound I could see that there was no longer a HB, when I went to the hospital right after my dr.s appointment they also rechecked to make sure, but again there was nothing.
If you are feeling uncomfortable then I would definitely ask for another ultrasound. Hugs!
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So sorry for your loss! I found out at my 13 week appointment that my baby did not have a heartbeat and was measuring around 9.5weeks-I had my D&C the following day. But, like some of the others I had an ultrasound the day my doctor discovered there were no heart tones and I could see the baby on ultrasound and see that there was no heartbeat and the baby was much smaller than it should have been at 13 weeks. As hard as it was to see my baby, I do believe it brought some closure and I had no doubts going into my D&C. I think if it would be helpful to you at all to have another ultrasound I think you should call your doctor and I'm sure they would repeat it for you. Big Hugs!!
I also meant to add that I too did not have any symptoms at all before my D&C...I know what a terrible shock it is to walk into that appointment to find out your baby had passed. It is truly terrible! So sorry again for your loss!
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I agree with everyone else that you should be able to ask for another ultrasound. Your doctor might already be planning on doing one before your D&C.
I waited 5 days between finding out that I was going to miscarry and having the D&C. I had a very hard time dealing with my pregnancy symptoms in those days. I will share that it became much easier for me to begin processing and healing once the D&C was over.
Im so terribly sorry for your loss. I too had no symptoms of loss other than tiny tiny spotting. I tortured myself googling "misdiagnosed miscarriage" and although i had multiple ultrasounds done, I still wonder months later. If another ultrasound would ease your mind definitely inquire about it. Take it easy!
Me: 36, DH 32 Bfp#1 June 2014 edd: Feb. 22, 2015,mmc: Aug. 5,2014,D&C Bfp#2 Feb. 2015 edd: Oct.12, 2015, mmc: Mar. 7,2015, D&C
DX: Me: slightly hypothyroid, taking meds DH: SA Showed all low levels, urologist appointment showed all was normal, so no reason why the levels were bad.
Plan: IUI #1 Aug. 25mg clomed, to help boost egg quality - BFN IUI #2 Sept. 25mg clomed, BFN IUI#3 Dec. BFP!! TWINS Edd: Aug. 22, 2016
Post by michael24x7 on Sept 21, 2017 23:12:59 GMT -5
Welcome brave sister, the first and foremost thing I want to suggest you to face this difficult situation in positive way. You can start reading positive thinking books that provide sufficient energy to handle this difficult situation in easy way. I can understand your physical and mental stage at this time. You should not panic about this difficult situation in your life. I also face same problem like you in my life just 2 year ago. I want to pray God to provide maximum positive energy to handle this difficult situation in professional way. I want to forget those days of my life that are full of stress and depression due to my miscarriage problem. You should use effective method to overcome negative thinking. You should choose right path with the proper medical checkup. We consult with many popular gynecologists of Kiev to understand my problem in easy way. You should start your planning with real bonding with your partner to provide full cooperation at this difficult situation. This is medical certified fact that stress and depression is responsible for miscarriage problem at early stage. You are not alone there are 20% women all over the world who are facing miscarriage problem in their life. There are many responsible factors of this horrible problem. You should be very careful to know all early symptoms in easy way to our can miscarriage possibility. You can use natural method to overcome this horrible problem with healthy lifestyle that provide sufficient blood supply to and reproduction system for smart working. You should consume balance diet to provide appropriate nutrition to wall body that is beneficial for you and your baby in many ways. You have to accept God wish with strong heart.
To say truth, MC is the worst thing, which could happen to a woman. It is very hard! Try to stay positive as much as possible. You should stay strong. A lot of women go through this issue and most of them give up. You should keep trying. There are a lot of ways to become parents nowadays. I really believe that you can do this. I’ve gone through 3 MCs. It was a real disaster. I thought my life was over. For the first time I miscarried when I was 24. It was my first pregnancy. We were not ttc but we were happy to hear such good news. We were ready to become parents. Unfortunately, it didn’t happen. Next 10 years we were trying to get pregnant with no success. We’ve gone through different treatments but with no result. Next 2 MCs I had after the IVF. We were not ready to give up that’s why we kept looking for solutions. Once we were offered to try the IVF with the help of the surrogate. And it worked! Our baby was born in 9 months after we entered the program. The clinic, which helped us was called [DELETED]. They already helped a lot of infertile couples. I’m glad that we are among them. We are happy parents now. I dream to have one more kid, you know. But, unfortunately, I’m not sure if it is possible in our situation. Surrogacy is pretty expensive. Anyway, we will keep looking for solutions. I really wish you good luck.
Oh God I am really sorry for this thing. I know about this pain exactly looks like. I bear the exact same pain once. I know how bad this is. This is really bad thing. I am again very sorry for your condition. Just try to take care of yourself. Don't worry, Everything is going to be fine for you dear. Just be strong. Seriously it's too much. Try to calm yourself.
Post by clarejames on Apr 14, 2018 13:05:26 GMT -5
Hey there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I know it must be really heartbreaking for you. I know this because I have been through this too. I know it gets devastating. It got to me though. However, you seem to be strong. You are holding well. I think if they did the ultrasounds they must be sure. I would suggest to be strong and try again. Don't lose your hope. Accidents happen but they don't repeat themselves. Take care. Good luck.
Post by rosiejames on Apr 16, 2018 11:09:44 GMT -5
Really, miscarriage is one of the biggest disasters for a woman. It's really hard to keep calm in such situation. You should remain strong and patience. Many ladies have faced these issues in last few years and most of them gave up. You should keep on trying again and again. There are some treatments to become parents nowadays. I'm sure that you can easily cope with it. I've experienced three miscarriages. It was so shocking and disappointing to me. It had m first miscarriage when I was 24. We were not TTC but we really wanted to have children. But we did not lose the heart. Instead, my DH looked for some well-known clinic offering alternative treatments. Finally, we opted one of them as the most optimal. Our appointment is in May. I request to all of you to pray for us. Baby dust at your doorsteps.
I went to my doctor at 15.5 weeks & after 3 ultrasounds I learned my baby had passed at ~12.5 weeks based on size & they said there was no heartbeat. I called the doctor the day after I learned the baby had miscarried & he confirmed it was gone. I know he doesn't do/support abortions. Without seeing the ultrasound screens & knowing what the doctor does, I'm struggling to believe the baby is gone. My D&C is scheduled in 2 days. I just awoke feeling like something was moving, maybe it was the placenta. I don't want to abort a living baby, and I'm having a hard time believing all of this is real, since I've had no spotting and only mild cramping & it's been ~4 weeks since the baby passed. Do I need another ultrasound? Will they check one last time for a heartbeat before the d&c?
Extremely sorry for your losses! Well, dear! It happens after that! As you know that the heartbeat wasn't present...Sometimes, MCs confuse us though. Still, for just your own personal satisfaction! go for an ultrasound...But, still, don't wanna disappoint you. But, there are no wise chances. xx Stay strong!
Post by sarahlietzo on May 12, 2018 0:40:51 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your loss. Its the harsh reality now and you have to face it now. I also miscarried thrice. At the age of 43 years old i'm married for second time. I was married earlier and geting pregnant was not an easy task for me. I had a number of complications while getting pregnant. I conceived for three times but always resulted in miscarriage. Surrogaccy is the best solution for the women who don't have any luck with babies. My husband wants a baby from me and i told him everything regarding my pregnancy complications. So i started looking for some method to have a baby for us. They cleared my confusions regarding surrogacy. They satisfied me and they told us they will find a surrogate for my baby. They have a number of surrogates from their clinic as well. A surrogate will go through proper testing to become a surrogate mother of my child. Via online research i found that surrogacy is the best solution for us to have a baby. So i contacted a number of clinics regarding surrogacy and i am going for it now.
I'm from Japan.We moved to Europe to find our heaven.
Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i'm infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine.
In ukraine we found a very good clinic.
Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters.
Hi dear, really sorry to hear about your loss. I know it must be very difficult for you to cope with this kind of situation. But the thing is that do not get upset by your loss. Stay relaxed. Remain positive. And I suggest you consult your doctor to see if there is any hope. My best wishes are with you. Stay blessed.
Post by Eric Watson on Jun 5, 2018 15:37:19 GMT -5
Hope so you are doing good. I really felt sorry to know about your miscarriage. But these things are the part of life. There could be a reason behind all of this. We should learn from the mistakes. If you feeling any change then you must go for an ultrasound again. It will verify all the things. And be patient, I hope one day you will be successful. You should also consult with some other doctor as well. My prayers are with you.
Post by rhondamoroney on Jun 12, 2018 18:46:11 GMT -5
I was a mess after my first miscarriage too. Mine was a sure and obvious one. I saw the blood before fainting. When I woke up at the hospital after 4 hours, it was the worst feeling. It was like somebody took away a piece of me. Took it far away. I didn't cry for 3,4 days. And then cried like a baby for 4,5 weeks. It was the worst experience. I made my doctors so uncomfortable. I would go in every week even after my dnc to convince them that I have a baby still. I gave up. If it wasn't for my husband, I would be still there. I can't thank him more. He was the best thing that ever happened to me. Thanks honey for everything.
Post by Eric Watson on Jun 13, 2018 20:25:57 GMT -5
Hey dear! I hope you will be fine. After reading your post I really become so sad to know about your miscarriages. But it might be the part of life. Everything happens for a reason. We should learn from the failures. If you feeling any change then you must go for an ultrasound again. It will verify all the things. And be patient, I hope one day you will be successful. You should also consult with some other doctor as well. He will guide you better. My Prayers
I went to my doctor at 15.5 weeks & after 3 ultrasounds I learned my baby had passed at ~12.5 weeks based on size & they said there was no heartbeat. I called the doctor the day after I learned the baby had miscarried & he confirmed it was gone. I know he doesn't do/support abortions. Without seeing the ultrasound screens & knowing what the doctor does, I'm struggling to believe the baby is gone. My D&C is scheduled in 2 days. I just awoke feeling like something was moving, maybe it was the placenta. I don't want to abort a living baby, and I'm having a hard time believing all of this is real, since I've had no spotting and only mild cramping & it's been ~4 weeks since the baby passed. Do I need another ultrasound? Will they check one last time for a heartbeat before the d&c?
mmbp that’s so sad. I am really feeling sad for your baby. the worst thing is he died in your belly. You didn’t feel the baby’s movement. It hurts you. that’s incredible. I can’t explain my grief in few words. Aww, you still have a hope. do what you want to do but do on time. because it will harm you. if you want satisfaction more, visit another doctor. He will make your thorough check-up. This is only for your confirmation. My prayers are for his life. good luck!!!
It looks quite painful. You must be going through a lot of confusion. I think you should make another appointment with your doctor before you proceed. Go for one more scan. Maybe the baby is still alive. I know this hurts. But, dear, keep your hopes high. Sending my prayers for you.
This must be so agonizing. You must be going through a lot of pain. Maybe you should consult another doctor See what he says. Go for another scan before you proceed. Maybe you change your decision. I hope everything goes okay. Stay strong, hon!
I went to my doctor at 15.5 weeks & after 3 ultrasounds I learned my baby had passed at ~12.5 weeks based on size & they said there was no heartbeat. I called the doctor the day after I learned the baby had miscarried & he confirmed it was gone. I know he doesn't do/support abortions. Without seeing the ultrasound screens & knowing what the doctor does, I'm struggling to believe the baby is gone. My D&C is scheduled in 2 days. I just awoke feeling like something was moving, maybe it was the placenta. I don't want to abort a living baby, and I'm having a hard time believing all of this is real, since I've had no spotting and only mild cramping & it's been ~4 weeks since the baby passed. Do I need another ultrasound? Will they check one last time for a heartbeat before the d&c?
hey dear! I am so sorry to hear this. I think they examined you multiple time. So, they found no
heartbeat. Also, you are feeling cramping. Its all the signs of miscarriage. So, it’s hard to say
that you should free yourself from this pain. And don’t lose hope dear. I hope that you will
become a mother one day just carry on your struggle.
Hello darling. Just try to take care of yourself. Don't worry, Everything is going to be fine for you dear. Just be strong. We are here for you. Take care.
Having a miscarriage is a painful thing. It's affects you mentally and physically. Miscarriage is also known as unplanned abortion. Sometimes there is no symptoms or spot of blood. This type of miscarriage is called missedmiscarriage. It mostly happens in early stages of pregnancylike 12 to 13 weeks. Mostly women experienced this type of miscarriage without knowing it. They thought they were pregnant, but miscarriage can be confirmed by an ultrasound or by having a D&C when the doctor cannot find the heartbeat of the baby. It only shows a sac without the existence of embryos in it. One more thing in the start missed miscarriage usually has no symptoms, but after a few days or week women starts bleeding or cramping. As you said that something is moving inside your tummy it might be because of the hormonal changes. But don't lose hope as it is a part of a life. God bless you
Post by Glenna Johnson on Jul 2, 2018 16:29:02 GMT -5
Hi. How are you now? Well, my dear, I am feeling very sorry for your situation. My friend life is like a coin and happiness and sorrow are the sides of it. If sorrow is on upside then definitely the second side is waiting for its turns. You should do another ultrasound so that you don't have any regrets. State of doubtless is the worst thing. My dear stay strong and stay positive. Try again. Things will come to you soon at your time. Wish you best of luck.
It is such a very embarrassing condition. I am very sorry about your loss. I know you are feeling very pain at this time. But dear sister, You have to be strong enough now. You need to take a healthy diet chart. I will suggest you do some walk and daily exercise in your routine. You also should go to the best gynecologist. She will guide you very well. I am so much upset as I have seen your post. It is not easy to fight with this kind of situation. But it is good to share there. You will hopefully guided by the other visitor's good way. According to their experience. But you have to choose the way of hope and strength. That will help you to make you healthy and brave. I will pray for you. I very hope full for you. Good Luck.
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