cwbandthenewbie - sorry things are so uncomfortable ...and that is sucky about the e-mail. I have done similar. I have also eaten like that without doing anything too bad - so don't worry about it!
jennypm - love the nursery! I am so far behind on curtains - I always have trouble pulling the trigger!
And I forgot everyone else I wanted to tag...
AFM - I got nothing. I am dressed all in black today and just feel like a big bowling ball.
pearsforpoops - I highly recommend paying someone to do taxes! Especially state - I screw mine up every year - I am just too cheap and only really screwed things up once.
Good morning. I hope to keep up better today, but work has been crazy. I'm currently eating second breakfast before heading in for another jam-packed day.
MauiBliss I feel you on the client annoyances today. The latest recurring thing is my clients telling me they've sent stuff that they have not. We keep meticulous records of the mail. If you sent it, we didn't get it. They just want someone else to blame for why their case is taking so long. Just get me what I'm asking you for! Gah!
Sooo much this. Dude, I can tell if you've responded or read my emails. Don't pretend.
pearsforpoops I guess I just always assumed when you get married you file together. I will definitely be looking into this for sure!
There can be options to file separately but they usually come with a penalty tax rate or reduced exceptions. My understanding for the ability to file married filing separately is for one spouse to avoid penalties that could apply to the other spouse. For example, if my H was getting paid under the table and not reporting income, I could be held responsible for any and all liability - by being a spouse and signing the return. By filing separately you are relieved of some of the liability of your spouse filing a correct return - although each state probably has different rules.
I don't know about state, but I know that our federal tax liability would be a good bit higher if we filed married filing separately than just married.
Yesterday we got started on packing a hospital bag. The fact that this baby could be joining us really any time at this point (with my PTL issues) has my mind blown. I just can't believe it.
Post by pearsforpoops on Jan 29, 2015 12:07:20 GMT -5
No state income tax?! Holy shit that'd be awesome.
And based on what I've just read, I told DH we need to rethink and file jointly. So there's that.
I feel very strongly it's worth the ~$100 this lady charges me (which includes filing fees). I trust her completely and am terrified of when she retires. I have NO IDEA how to do my taxes, and mine are a complicated mess. I'd never trust myself.
coozieinmypurse our older dog has been a huge asshole lately. Sooooo over it. He just barks at nothing and last night when I tried to clip he nails he yelped like he was being killed (he hates having his paws touched). Ugh. How old is your guy?
Our older dog is about 14 (a rescue, so hard to tell for sure). He's actually pretty good about telling us when he needs to pee, which is nice; he just can't hold it for long periods. When it gets warmer, he will probably return to sleeping outside (he's an 80 lb German Shepard-mix), but I also hate to make him do that. The real problem is pooping in the house. He's losing the ability to tell when he needs to poop. He's got arthritis, hip dysplasia and is losing muscle mass at a rapid rate. We are in pain management mode and will probably have to make hard decisions soon. It's really sad.
Awwwww. I'm sorry . Sounds like yours is making an effort! He's lucky to have you to take care of him!
Ours is about half that age but he has deformed hip joints and front ankle joints (dunno what you call those?) plus ataxia, so he's a mess. Most dogs like him don't survive puppyhood so he's a lucky duck I guess? But he's getting to the point where it's hard for him to poop so he just goes wherever he feels like it instead of waiting to go outside. He's also just generally grumpy, probably because stuff hurts...
Our older dog is about 14 (a rescue, so hard to tell for sure). He's actually pretty good about telling us when he needs to pee, which is nice; he just can't hold it for long periods. When it gets warmer, he will probably return to sleeping outside (he's an 80 lb German Shepard-mix), but I also hate to make him do that. The real problem is pooping in the house. He's losing the ability to tell when he needs to poop. He's got arthritis, hip dysplasia and is losing muscle mass at a rapid rate. We are in pain management mode and will probably have to make hard decisions soon. It's really sad.
Awwwww. I'm sorry . Sounds like yours is making an effort! He's lucky to have you to take care of him!
Ours is about half that age but he has deformed hip joints and front ankle joints (dunno what you call those?) plus ataxia, so he's a mess. Most dogs like him don't survive puppyhood so he's a lucky duck I guess? But he's getting to the point where it's hard for him to poop so he just goes wherever he feels like it instead of waiting to go outside. He's also just generally grumpy, probably because stuff hurts...
It's funny, but a year ago, right around the time I moved in with DH, I would have told you I couldn't wait for Big Dog (his very imaginative name) to go. But now that I've gotten to know him, I'm so sad about his condition. He's on Rimadyl (sp?) for the pain and something else to help ease his joints. I vacillate between wanting to see him not in pain and wanting to ease our burden to prematurely grieving for him.
Your pup sounds lucky to have you, too... The poop issues are so frustrating, but I know they can't help it and it's easier to clean up than pee, at least! It's so hard to have to make these decisions!
Post by pearsforpoops on Jan 29, 2015 12:20:17 GMT -5
So totally random but freaking me out: I was in the bathroom at work just now and there are something like 7 stalls + 1 HC stall. So it's me and 1 other girl in stalls. I get done, flush, open stall door to head to sink. Another girl who has just walked into the bathroom like bumps into me, literally, and I say oh excuse me then she just looks at me weird and goes into the stall I just came out of. All happening so fast the toilet is still flushing.
Like is that YOUR STALL or something, weirdo? WTH just happened?
I feel like shit today. I am sore all over. My head hurts my stomach hurts. I don't feel like doing anything, but I really need to clean and do more laundry... Just over 4 weeks to go and I am so over being pregnant!!!
I'm still waiting on a w2 and its annoying me. I'd like to get our taxes filed ASAP.
Add me to the list of people that had some fairly serious BH last night. Remember even when they feel serious though, if they aren't real contractions, its all good. I just tried to rest and have a ton of water.
My pelvic floor pain has been absurd the past few days, it is hard to imagine going a month like this still. And then, on the other hand, I need like two months to finish getting ready and am by no means wanting LO to show up early.
I have to do something with E this morning after keeping her home yesterday morning. I wish I had some energy! I think I'll just take her to the library.
We are in the same boat with the taxes waiting on DH's W2 and a 1099 from my dance teaching job. I have everything else my W2, the tax paperwork from the state and the mortgage and all the other paperwork I have to bring in. I'm antsy to do this before LO gets here.
Edited for typos its hard to type without using my right thumb
No state income tax?! Holy shit that'd be awesome.
And based on what I've just read, I told DH we need to rethink and file jointly. So there's that.
I feel very strongly it's worth the ~$100 this lady charges me (which includes filing fees). I trust her completely and am terrified of when she retires. I have NO IDEA how to do my taxes, and mine are a complicated mess. I'd never trust myself.
Totally worth $100!!!!! That's a good price and there is some protection with having a paid preparer. My filing fees are that alone because I am in so many states.
Move to Fla - no personal income tax there and great weather!!
I had our weekly NST this morning and our second growth u/s. They said the fluid levels look fine but LO is not growing enough. She only gained 2oz in the last 3 weeks. They did a bio-physical and said she looks healthy. Now H & I are going back this afternoon to speak with a Dr. about the scan results and some type of plan. Then at 6 tonight I go see my OB. I'm trying not to stress, but at my 34w apt last week the OB said if she wasn't growing enough they might need to take her early.
Post by melissat2742 on Jan 29, 2015 12:38:42 GMT -5
I am irrationally mad today. Not sure what my problem is but everything is making me mad today. suzyq0525 happy for a good appointment. hope everyone has great appointments today!
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No state income tax?! Holy shit that'd be awesome.
And based on what I've just read, I told DH we need to rethink and file jointly. So there's that.
I feel very strongly it's worth the ~$100 this lady charges me (which includes filing fees). I trust her completely and am terrified of when she retires. I have NO IDEA how to do my taxes, and mine are a complicated mess. I'd never trust myself.
$100 is a great fucking deal! Good for you.
Our last CPA charged about $300 (I think) and he was fantastic. Our income situation has changed a lot, though, so I've been filing for us online. Usually it is OK but we are still working through a small audit from 2013. What a pain in my ass. It's really bullshit, too - as far as our income bracket goes, it's not like we're a big fish for them but I imagine we're an easy target considering we have no professionals to back up the work.
Now I just try to maximize deductions and cross my fucking fingers.
So kids... if you can afford a good CPA, it's worth every penny.
I had our weekly NST this morning and our second growth u/s. They said the fluid levels look fine but LO is not growing enough. She only gained 2oz in the last 3 weeks. They did a bio-physical and said she looks healthy. Now H & I are going back this afternoon to speak with a Dr. about the scan results and some type of plan. Then at 6 tonight I go see my OB. I'm trying not to stress, but at my 34w apt last week the OB said if she wasn't growing enough they might need to take her early.
Sorry it didn't go better, but at least she is looking healthy on the biophysical and your fluid levels are good! That is great news.
Try not to worry too much until you've spoken with everyone about all the options. Having a plan in place will make you feel better. I hope she can stay in as long as possible and your conversations go well today.
I had to have Haden early due to numerous factors, but small size/minimal growth was one of the big ones. Hugs to you. Hang in there and keep us posted.
Post by zebraleg4lunch on Jan 29, 2015 12:48:30 GMT -5
Basically my dream job just popped up in my email alerts except that they want the position filled immediately for a project in March. I'm bummed out since there's not even a point in applying for it now and I've been waiting for this to open up for over a year.
Basically my dream job just popped up in my email alerts except that they want the position filled immediately for a project in March. I'm bummed out since there's not even a point in applying for it now and I've been waiting for this to open up for over a year.
Damn that sucks. Shit like that always happens to me. I have the worst luck with timing.
Post by huggabugga11 on Jan 29, 2015 12:58:10 GMT -5
Sorry for the drive-by post today, but will be back later to get caught up.
DS chipped his tooth on the cement at the park yesterday. Now we get an unexpected dentist apt. And this comes after H decided to try and scare the bejesus out of him about the dentist about a week ago. This should be fun.
On a brighter note, we got a new car yesterday! Still only a sedan, but bigger and definitely a hell of a lot safer than what he we had previously. We decided it was time when the car broke down on H on Tuesday leaving him stranded on the side of the highway for an hour until I could get out there to pick him up. Fun shit man.
And for a random, I have been obsessed with all scents coconut lately. However, I am not 100% if they smell as good on me as I think they do. I am beginning to wonder if my body chemistry is trying to reject all things coconut. Not fun wondering if you stink all day.
stepherly Thinking of you and LO! Let us know if there are any more updates.
pearsforpoops I'm *kind of* weird about the bathroom stalls at work. There is one that I always go to so if someone is in there, it throws me off. But I wouldn't like, glare at someone who had it, that's odd.
What really drives me bonkers is that our work bathroom has 10 stalls. There have been more than a few times where I've been the only one in the bathroom, someone comes in, and goes in the stall right next to mine. Seriously, you couldn't have kept one stall between us as a buffer?
stepherly Thinking of you and LO! Let us know if there are any more updates.
pearsforpoops I'm *kind of* weird about the bathroom stalls at work. There is one that I always go to so if someone is in there, it throws me off. But I wouldn't like, glare at someone who had it, that's odd.
What really drives me bonkers is that our work bathroom has 10 stalls. There have been more than a few times where I've been the only one in the bathroom, someone comes in, and goes in the stall right next to mine. Seriously, you couldn't have kept one stall between us as a buffer?
I think I might be weird.
No, I get it. I feel this way about bar stools and that's supposed to be a social place. I certainly like having a buffer in a bathroom stall.
stepherly Thinking of you and LO! Let us know if there are any more updates.
pearsforpoops I'm *kind of* weird about the bathroom stalls at work. There is one that I always go to so if someone is in there, it throws me off. But I wouldn't like, glare at someone who had it, that's odd.
What really drives me bonkers is that our work bathroom has 10 stalls. There have been more than a few times where I've been the only one in the bathroom, someone comes in, and goes in the stall right next to mine. Seriously, you couldn't have kept one stall between us as a buffer?
I think I might be weird.
I'm with ya. I usually go in the same 1 or 2 based on availability. But I don't break into a sweat if I have to choose a different one.
I do also get really freaked out when it's just me and someone comes in the stall RIGHT next to mine. I seriously wonder about them. And if they come in and choose the stall right next to me and start pooping I get seriously annoyed.
Also don't talk on your damn cell phone in the bathroom! UGH.
AFM I had some brown spotting last night and then it magically went away. I put in a call this morning, because they're in the office now and I don't want to ignore it if it's something serious due to my previa and my fall last week. I really didn't think it was a problem since it was so little and totally brown, but I googled this morning and got scary results.
I'm glad everyone is having awesome hospital tours. H and I went on our Tuesday, but we felt it was useless. L&D is great, we already knew that because of our unexpected visit, but they let volunteers run the tour and they apparently can't answer questions. We got to listen to the head nurse of L&D, but she didn't allow Q&A. I asked a few simple questions of the volunteer after the tour, because she mentioned a few things I was unaware of or concerned about. I asked what the state mandated tests were and she couldn't tell me, but she condescendingly said, "This must be your first." I then asked her if the baby had to go to the nursery for his first bath. She put on this sassy ass sour puss face and told me, "You know babies are pretty gross and covered in quite a bit when they come out of the birth canal." I let her know, "the baby won't be coming out of my vagina." That shut her the fuck up. Anywho, now I need to figure out who the hell I can call to get some real answers.
I had to do this last year. For Federal you can file jointly, but for state you have to file separately. At least that's what I had to do last year since my H never officially changed his address and we were technically living in different states while married. Andplusalso, its a huge pain in the ass if you are using turbotax.
Be careful filing state separately ...most states still require you to file as a married couple (not aware of exceptions) - but income for one of you will be resident income - or usually only income for one will be apportioned to the other state. It doesn't matter what your official address is - or where you have your driver license. If you own a home or have investments things get really messy if you are claiming different states of primary residency. I have to report income in 10+ states a year but always file married nonresident (except for the state in which I am claiming residency) - and even did so when one of us was only a partial resident in our primary state.
I'm curious why your H is not a SC resident (although know it is none of my business!!!) - if you both own your home and claim a homestead or other homeowner exemption and/or register a vehicle in the state that could raise a question with revenue authorities if they ever cross referenced. And from what I understand, state residency audits are painful and require quite a bit of documentation. There may be military exceptions though it would depend on the state. (Disclaimer - not professional advice - just based on my experience!)
Personal taxes are so not fun. I expect to break even so I may file an extension and procrastinate for an additional 6 months...
He only moved to SC because he got stationed here for the military and he has always claimed residency in ID, even though we do own a home here and his vehicle is registered here. Both of our names end up on the ID taxes and it carries over our joint income but I only put in the amount of his income as for what the ID income taxes applied to since I pay mine to SC. I did get a message from H&R Block when I finished everything saying that I am supposed to send copies of the other state's return to each state. This is the fourth year I guess that we have done it like this and we've never had problems in the past, it's just always weird to me each year when I have to figure it out again. He doesn't have to pay car property taxes here in SC either since he is military (I have to though, boo).
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