I would include them on the list and let them decide. FWIW, I wouldn't drive that far unless it was a very close friend of mine, but not everyone feels that way. At least giving people the option vs. possibly hurting feelings if they aren't invited and find out, I'd rather just avoid potential hurt feelings.
I woudln't invite them. My take on showers is that they are supposed to be smaller events. If they want to attend a shower for you, then I would expect one of the would offer to throw one,
Showers aren't weddings. It's one thing to invite your mom or sister or CLOSE family to a shower far away. But I woudln't be inviting friends to a far away shower. I DO see it as gift grabby, TBH.
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