Post by packerfan4life on Nov 8, 2015 11:48:55 GMT -5
I absolutely get the disbelief. I was convinced when I went in for my appt they'd tell me it was a hysterical pregnancy. We tried for 3 years (including multiple failed IUIs) so the fact that we unexpectedly got pregnant is just really hard to wrap my head around. I still check for bleeding every single time I go to the bathroom. But for now I'm embracing it and I'm going to go buy some comfy maternity pants or leggings because bloating and work pants are a bad combo.
I've been struggling a bit the past few days, because suddenly I feel like a fraud. I don't really believe that I could possibly be pregnant. I think I'm anxious because I have my first OB appointment coming up in a few days, and I haven't seen baby yet, and my symptoms have been waning (now almost 10 weeks). Yes, my period is now over a month late, and yes, I did have a positive pregnancy test, but I just can't shake this fear that it's all not really true. I'm a first time mom and I just don't know what to expect. Anyone else ever feel this way?
Yes. I totally feel this way too. Thinking about you and hoping for a great appt!!
This exhaustion is kicking my butt. I am finding it nearly impossible to do anything. Poor DD and poor DH, I am not pulling my fair share in the family right now. I literally can't step up and do more though. Off to take my second nap of the day while DH and DD are at the park.
You need it, and surely your DH understands! Get all the rest you can!!
This weekend has been the first weekend in two months where nothing was planned - and it's glorious. It's nice not to have obligations. Enjoying this lazy weekend.
I'm sorry and can empathize with everyone worrying about their pregnancy and needing more confirmation. My Doppler helps me - but I will feel a lot better after my first scan. Seeing your baby has such a big impact. Hugs to you all and I'm excited to hear how appointments go this week ❤️
I hear you ladies on the nerves about this being a real pregnancy. I am trying to tell all my immediate family in person, so I told my sister today at brunch with my mom and grandmother. Everyone was really excited, talking about how it was going to be such a fun summer with a baby in the house, etc. etc. I was sitting there resisting the urge to tell everyone to temper their expectations. Like it is somehow going to make a difference if people add "if everything goes well" before each sentence. It makes me feel like it is my first pregnancy all over again, and how sad it will be for everyone if it doesn't work out. I want to just jump in and enjoy it as much as everyone else is.
frecklesnbrains, It is completely normal to feel that way. Especially as you await your first appointment. Hopefully the doctor's visit will put you at ease a little, but there may always be some room for concern or doubt. I've had multiple doctor's visits and ultrasounds at this point and I am still nervous and afraid. I just told my mother today (4 ultrasounds later) and we are SUPER close. My mother and I are like peas in a pod. We talk daily and do everything together, but I couldn't bring myself to deliver the biggest news of my life, because I didn't want her to get too excited. It's hard trying to manage one's own expectations, and those of everyone else too. I'll keep my fingers crossed that we both become less guarded as these pregnancy progress, and just relax into it.
Hi ladies, I haven't been around much this weekend but I wanted to jump on the train of not really letting myself fully believe this is real yet. I'm still super guarded and after each appointment I keep telling myself that maybe after the next one I'll let myself relax a little more. I haven't let my guard down though and I'm not sure that the anxiety will ever really go away so I've been reading the mantras on CAR every few days just to give myself a reminder. Even if you haven't had a loss, some of them apply to general pregnancy anxiety and are a good reminder to take things day by day. Hugs to everyone who needs one!
Post by origamimommy on Nov 8, 2015 21:28:07 GMT -5
I wanted to check in since I haven't really been around since Thursday / Friday. I also couldn't believe this is real, and this is my second. With my first, I never questioned that I was pregnant and going to bring a baby home. But trouble TTC will really fuck with your mind.
I had my first appointment Friday. I was an anxious mess. I get to the OB's office (and this is a new OB, highly recommended, since I hated my other) and it turns out they confirmed my appointment at the wrong location. So H and I had to drive to other side of the city, which certainly did not make me feel better. We got there and were given all of this stuff--baby book, hospital info, pregnancy books, etc and all I could think was, "Why are they giving me this before my ultrasound?" because I was terrified. But we got in there, and we see the baby and I didn't see anything--immediately I tensed up and prepared for the news. When my doctor zoomed in and we saw and heard a heartbeat, I seriously ugly cried and sobbed for ten minutes.
Long story, but the point is, that anxiety is so hard to overcome. It's comforting to go to appointments and know that things are okay. I have been trying to say, "I'm pregnant today. There's no bleeding, I am pregnant today." I hope as the weeks pass on, this will start to pass for all of us. Pregnancy / TTC it's all an emotional shit show.
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