DS is still a little young to be "spoiled", but I don't think it'll be an issue. I'm cheap AF because of how I grew up, so I can't see myself buying him a bunch of stuff all of a sudden. Neither DH nor I have any family with any money, so no worries of spoiling there.
By some kind of magic my kid is snacking on baby carrots.
Usually it's goldfish or marshmallows by now.
I feel you! Last night, DD ate SALAD and wanted MORE and I almost cried. I legit felt proud. It wasn't pasta!
DS's favorite food is broccoli. I have no idea how this happened and I did nothing to encourage it. He is meh about fries, but will pound some steamed broccoli. Weird kid.
babyzebra I'm the same way. These days I generally feel better if I snack in the afternoon and eat a good dinner. But the nausea isn't around at all in the early morning (which is good for teaching), then starts to increase after lunch and is at its worst in late afternoon.
One of my coworkers knows I'm pregnant. We were quietly chatting about it in my classroom after most people went home. Then JUST as she says, "When are you going to tell [principal's name]?" the principal popped into the room behind her. There is no way he didn't hear it, but we all just pretended it hadn't happened. Eek. He's a nice guy, I'm not concerned it will be a problem. It was just a tad awkward and I'm not ready to share yet.
Question: Would it be bad form to let him know at our weekly meetings with all my grade level team when I decide to go public? Or should I make a private appointment in advance and let him know one on one? There is something weirdly intimate about telling people I'm pregnant and I kind of want to tell everyone in a crowd.
I'm in the tell-the-boss-personally camp. I can't really tell you why, it just seems appropriate to me. Doesn't make it fun though! I love love love my boss and I was still blushing like mad, and don't ask me why.
I worry about my kids being spoiled. I'm pretty conservative about money and spending. But DH is a sucker for his little girls. When DD was 3 she asked for just DH to take her to Target...she knows who will buy her stuff! The worst of it is MIL. She cannot stop buying stuff for the girls...and it's all crap. All characterized cheap, plastic crap. And tons of it. It's gotten to the point that any time we see her my now 4 year old asks what she brought her. It absolutely makes me sick. I do not want greedy kids.
My mom said when she was a kid that the tradition was that before they went to Christmas Eve church they would leave a doll ( or toy) out on their bed, and while they were at church the elves would come collect them to give to less fortunate kids. I really like the idea of doing something along these lines with my kids.
Post by ArgyleEnigma on Dec 2, 2015 18:35:29 GMT -5
As far as donating what they have, I prefer not associating it with receiving. I'd rather keep them separate, don't really have strong reasons why but I like it that way. I guess either one could be adulterated by association with the other, and I prefer to emphasize doing them each--giving and receiving--separately and for their own sakes. Maybe I'm still revolting against the absolute shitty junk my grandpa once "gave" to poorer children who "should be grateful because it's better than nothing." No, a used McDonald's toy is not better than nothing, it is a reminder that you don't value them like the kids who get real toys. (My mom gave him hell, yay Mom!) So I like framing giving old toys as housecleaning, and giving new toys as remembering the less fortunate.
Holy gratuitous rant Batman. Anyway.
I will probably give my kids an angel tree ornament each and a budget and take them shopping to choose something. With parental interference as necessary for the littles My mom did this with me a couple times and I LOVED it.
I worry about my kids being spoiled. I'm pretty conservative about money and spending. But DH is a sucker for his little girls. When DD was 3 she asked for just DH to take her to Target...she knows who will buy her stuff! The worst of it is MIL. She cannot stop buying stuff for the girls...and it's all crap. All characterized cheap, plastic crap. And tons of it. It's gotten to the point that any time we see her my now 4 year old asks what she brought her. It absolutely makes me sick. I do not want greedy kids.
My mom said when she was a kid that the tradition was that before they went to Christmas Eve church they would leave a doll ( or toy) out on their bed, and while they were at church the elves would come collect them to give to less fortunate kids. I really like the idea of doing something along these lines with my kids.
Post by origamimommy on Dec 2, 2015 19:55:29 GMT -5
broadwaymama do you have the tapatalk app? It's way easier!
Also-- I need to go back and read everything, but o wanted to let you guys know... I accepted the job! They're giving me 12 weeks (unpaid) off!!!! I accepted right away! I'm so excited!!
And lastly, one of my friends husbands worked for the company in San Bernardino. She hasn't heard from him yet. I'd ask for thoughts and prayers but at this point we should all know, thoughts and prayers aren't enough. When will we act?
As far as donating what they have, I prefer not associating it with receiving. I'd rather keep them separate, don't really have strong reasons why but I like it that way. I guess either one could be adulterated by association with the other, and I prefer to emphasize doing them each--giving and receiving--separately and for their own sakes. Maybe I'm still revolting against the absolute shitty junk my grandpa once "gave" to poorer children who "should be grateful because it's better than nothing." No, a used McDonald's toy is not better than nothing, it is a reminder that you don't value them like the kids who get real toys. (My mom gave him hell, yay Mom!) So I like framing giving old toys as housecleaning, and giving new toys as remembering the less fortunate.
AACK!!! The shelter I work at (homelessness and domestic violence) gets some lovely donations - and also people who give absolute SHIT. Each Christmas, we get tons of packages from this one woman... last year it included (and I am NOT exaggerating) used eye lash curlers, used body puffs, used lipstick, used nail polish, used hairbrushes and calendars that were a year old.
We get a ton of used nasty old dishes that have been sitting in people's basements (covered in mildew and mouse poop) and old bedding. it's so hard for me to think that people think they're doing people in crisis a service. no, you're making them feel like crap even more.
babyzebra I'm the same way. These days I generally feel better if I snack in the afternoon and eat a good dinner. But the nausea isn't around at all in the early morning (which is good for teaching), then starts to increase after lunch and is at its worst in late afternoon.
One of my coworkers knows I'm pregnant. We were quietly chatting about it in my classroom after most people went home. Then JUST as she says, "When are you going to tell [principal's name]?" the principal popped into the room behind her. There is no way he didn't hear it, but we all just pretended it hadn't happened. Eek. He's a nice guy, I'm not concerned it will be a problem. It was just a tad awkward and I'm not ready to share yet.
Question: Would it be bad form to let him know at our weekly meetings with all my grade level team when I decide to go public? Or should I make a private appointment in advance and let him know one on one? There is something weirdly intimate about telling people I'm pregnant and I kind of want to tell everyone in a crowd.
I've always told my principals privately before the rest of the staff.
As far as donating what they have, I prefer not associating it with receiving. I'd rather keep them separate, don't really have strong reasons why but I like it that way. I guess either one could be adulterated by association with the other, and I prefer to emphasize doing them each--giving and receiving--separately and for their own sakes. Maybe I'm still revolting against the absolute shitty junk my grandpa once "gave" to poorer children who "should be grateful because it's better than nothing." No, a used McDonald's toy is not better than nothing, it is a reminder that you don't value them like the kids who get real toys. (My mom gave him hell, yay Mom!) So I like framing giving old toys as housecleaning, and giving new toys as remembering the less fortunate.
AACK!!! The shelter I work at (homelessness and domestic violence) gets some lovely donations - and also people who give absolute SHIT. Each Christmas, we get tons of packages from this one woman... last year it included (and I am NOT exaggerating) used eye lash curlers, used body puffs, used lipstick, used nail polish, used hairbrushes and calendars that were a year old.
We get a ton of used nasty old dishes that have been sitting in people's basements (covered in mildew and mouse poop) and old bedding. it's so hard for me to think that people think they're doing people in crisis a service. no, you're making them feel like crap even more.
It really grinds my gears when people treat donations like a garbage dump. I always do a "would I wear/want this?" mental check. Some of that stuff makes the McDonalds stuff look like the minor leagues of shit donations. Holy crap.
Even when the stuff is reasonable, people should be sensitive. My ILs foster, and I remember 2 of their foster daughters being so excited to give to the coat drive for once. Then the drive turned right around and tried to give them coats...they were so upset. My ILs were providing that stuff, they didn't need it. They were so upset that they couldn't be the philanthropists just once, always the charity cases. I always think of this when I hear those self-congratulatory SleepTrain pajamas ads.
origamimommy, congrats on the job, and I am sorry about your friend. We should not have to live with this kind of violence, but it's so ingrained. I don't feel much hope.
Post by lakecountrygal on Dec 2, 2015 21:36:59 GMT -5
It's been a crazy busy day here so I haven't read any of this yet, but....
I started my Invisalign braces today and my mouth hurts something fierce and because of the braces I'm not allowed any pain relievers. The next 6 months are going to suck.
I'm behind but I'm glad I'm not the only one with insomnia! My husband has recently started to seriously snore and I'm struggling to get any sleep between those 2 factors and the 11 month old.
In regards to spoiling, I'm trying really hard to gently direct all the grandparents to either experience gifts like a zoo membership or practical items like clothes to replace what LO is growing out of and his favorite baby snacks. Especially at this age! I ordered clothes on cyber Monday for LO and they will be wrapped under the tree. I wasn't shopping for gifts so much as just clothing my kid. I had a friend growing up that needed a new bed so for her 15th birthday her parents bought her a new bigger mattress. It seemed weird to me at the time but it was something she really wanted/needed and that bed got her through her college years and beyond which she really appreciated when furnishing her first place on her own. I want to buy things for my kids but i also went them to be appreciative of a gift that isn't shiny and noisy etc.
Watching the news today really upset me because I don't think that we'll ever reach a point where enough is enough and that's a really scary thought.
I read something once that resonated with me. "In retrospect, Sandy Hook marked the end of the US gun control debate. Once America decided killing children was bearable, it was over." Someone named Dan Hodges said it. While I hope it isn't true, it makes a certain horrible sense. What will it take?
Watching the news today really upset me because I don't think that we'll ever reach a point where enough is enough and that's a really scary thought.
I read something once that resonated with me. "In retrospect, Sandy Hook marked the end of the US gun control debate. Once America decided killing children was bearable, it was over." Someone named Dan Hodges said it. While I hope it isn't true, it makes a certain horrible sense. What will it take?
I know, I wonder what exactly will it take for things to actually change.
We do the 4 gift bday and Christmas for DS, plus one big santa toy.
So it's 1 Want, need, wear, and read. Since his bday and Christmas are 3 days apart, it's still excessive, but it's at least limited and mostly stuff we'd buy anyway.
I read something once that resonated with me. "In retrospect, Sandy Hook marked the end of the US gun control debate. Once America decided killing children was bearable, it was over." Someone named Dan Hodges said it. While I hope it isn't true, it makes a certain horrible sense. What will it take?
I know, I wonder what exactly will it take for things to actually change.
I agree. I don't know how people can be so against gun control. Most of my family in the midwest hunts for meat to provide for their family (they eat it all), so i get their need for guns. But those aren't the guns killing people. I also get that it's a bigger social issue with mental illness not being effectively treated, because healthy people don't kill people. I don't have an answer, but the status quo is not okay.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Dec 3, 2015 9:00:02 GMT -5
I'm okay with hunting rifles and (maybe) personal handguns, but there is absolutely no logical, sane, or valid reason why a civilian should have access to an assault weapon. 70% of America agrees with this, but the laws cannot be passed because a lobby of lunatics has too much power. There, I have said my peace.
I'm glad that mass shootings are bringing this to the attention of the public and triggering (pun intended) debate, but I also think it's important to recognize that the vast, vast majority of gun deaths in this country are not from mass shootings. At some point we have to address those issues too. But we have to start somewhere (anywhere?).
Post by Flair Underwood on Dec 3, 2015 9:10:10 GMT -5
frecklesnbrains, amen. The national organization that my employer (we have a domestic violence shelter and program) is lobbying that all DV offenders be prohibited from having guns. But at my local level, people don't understand why I don't want to include guns in our upcoming auction. I have a lot of opinions about guns - and I'm not for taking them away from law-abiding, permit carrying hunters. But - I do believe that people who keep guns around their home or conceal carry all the time are a wee bit paranoid.
Lobbies with too much buying power terrify me. I'm such a believer in medical marijuana - especially for children - but God forbid anybody take a dime from big pharma and save children from suffering. (I hope this doesn't offend you! I'm not sure if it would based on your experience and line of work!).
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