I hope everyone has a great time at their showers and with their friends today!
luckystarz Boo to the pain, yay to the pretzels, and good luck on the van hunt!
I hope everyone feeling pain and swelling can rest and feel better today!
After my earlier post, i fell back asleep and dreamt that I had my little girl! She was so tiny but I swear I could feel the tiny weight of her when I held her on my chest and I could feel her little legs curled up under her! I'm getting so excited for all this!
Add me to can't sleep. Last night was terrible. DH was snoring like mad, I had crazy heartburn, couldn't get comfortable, and little lady was practicing her kung fu. I'm so tired makeup can't even hide these dark circles. When is nap time?
I had dinner last night with a friend who is due in five days.
She told me to be prepared for an upcoming appointment where "someone will stick something up your butt." Um, what?!
What's going to happen to me? Why haven't I heard about this? : (
BAHAHAHA! I probably would have the same reaction if I hadn't just had this done! They swabbed my vag and then they "swabbed" my butt. I say it like that because my butt literally said nope and closed up real tight. The dr just poked at it a few times and them finally said "well I guess that's good enough"
So tell me if I'm being a side eyeing bitch..I have a friend, FTM, who is between 14/15 weeks. She posted on FB last night that she felt the baby move. Now, I didn't feel any movement until well after 20 weeks..and I know that STM+ can feel movement earlier, but it is possible she felt real movement or more likely gas?
I would never tell her she was wrong btw..that would be just mean, if she thinks she felt movement, I'm happy for her.
I felt DS move early and DD a little bit later. With the twins it took forever to feel consistent movement. 14/15 isn't too crazy. If the stick had just dried and she was telling you she KNEW she was KU because of the flutters she felt then I would side eye the shit out of her.
i agree with this^. I felt flutters at 14 weeks and felt a baby kick my hand at 16 weeks. It was sporadic and early but it happens
I had dinner last night with a friend who is due in five days.
She told me to be prepared for an upcoming appointment where "someone will stick something up your butt." Um, what?!
What's going to happen to me? Why haven't I heard about this? : (
BAHAHAHA! I probably would have the same reaction if I hadn't just had this done! They swabbed my vag and then they "swabbed" my butt. I say it like that because my butt literally said nope and closed up real tight. The dr just poked at it a few times and them finally said "well I guess that's good enough"
I'm just glad H is home for the weekend. He's working out of town one more week and I don't like that he's gone this late in the game. Also, I just took a nap with a large puddle of drool on my pillow and a very sore throat. I snore all the time now.
Pretty sure it's just impossible to sleep more then 5 hours. After flipping from side to side at about 4 am both my hips are just done. Yesterday my left hip ached all damn day. Already looking forward to a nap this afternoon.
ugh, this. I can't get past 3 hours on either side. I want all the naps.
My sleeps and naps have gotten better since i got a little wedge pillow for my tummy it reminds me of a big cheese wedge but it makes life better. we do not have these crazy vag/bum swabs here? I dont think im missing much?
Post by luvsponies on Jan 31, 2015 13:41:28 GMT -5
Happy Saturday ladies Just got back from brunch where I ate all the food...it was so delicious. Now we're supposed to be working on the house but we're so full. haha
I feel you guys with the sleeping issues. I got woken up at 5am with the worst charlie horse ever and I was stuck in the Snoogle. By the time I managed to get upright and walking my entire calf was one huge knot. Getting back to sleep after that escapade was pretty much impossible lol.
OK, so a little background. DHs parents are divorced and refuse to be around each other. It was a miracle both of them showed up to our wedding. DHs Dad started dating his current wife 6 months before DH and I began dating, and later they got married. My Dad is divorced and currently engaged to another woman and my Mom passed away 8 years ago.
Yesterday, apparently MIL started crying to DH that she wants to be the only Grandma and does not want us to call DHs step mom "grandma." Literally crying. I asked my DH how he responded and he was thrown so off guard that he was like "uhhh....*pats her back*" He claims he didn't make any promises. I really hope he didn't because I am NOT okay with her "request." She is an adult, she got divorced, she needs to accept that he can go off and remarry. She needs to accept that his wife is now family to our son. She's basically asking us to pretend that she is not family. As someone who lost their mom, it really meant a lot to me to gain TWO mothers when I married DH. I truly feel that both DHs mom and step mom accept me as their daughter. DHs stepmom was crying at the 3d ultrasound when she got to see her grandbaby. This woman really accepts us as her family and she IS one of my sons Grandmas.
I can't even with MIL, I hope she doesn't bring it up again because there is no answer she wants to hear. I will not pretend that a family member is not family.
lionelbtchy - glad your labs are ok. I have a BP cuff and it gives me comfort. Sometimes I feel swollen but my BP will be not scary. Hang in there! Sorry so many of us are dealing with high BP.
babys2015 - I am a FTM and I swear I felt movement beginning at 12 weeks - and was feeling it once a day at 14 weeks. It was like popcorn - but I know it was not gas. I didn't feel true kicks and punches though until about 20/22 weeks.
Post by NatashaBromanoff on Jan 31, 2015 13:55:34 GMT -5
babys2015 I felt movement at 15 weeks (FTM) even with anterior placenta, but my stomach was already big. It had nowhere to grow but out and I could feel the babies movements because of it.
mango that sounds awesome, especially being able to work from home.
saltyfins my doctor told me it would go up both half an inch when I got my strep swab, and from the feel of it that was accurate. But some people were saying they only got a quick rub so who knows!
Post by NatashaBromanoff on Jan 31, 2015 14:03:38 GMT -5
Last night my husband went out with coworkers after a company team building/morale event. Basically the company bought everyone a ton of shots and beer, everyone was wasted, then the younger guys kept going after the older ones went home.
Long story short, my husband came home and had an existential crisis about being a father soon as a result. It's the first time he's opened up to me about how terrified he is he'll be a good dad. Which is strange because I and everyone else we know are positive he's going to be an amazing one and tell him as much. I think his shitty father situation weighs on him though.
ruemorgan the like is for your reaction towards your MILs behavior. I'm sorry you have to deal with that and that she thinks it is ok to put you in that position, but it definitely sounds like you have a good handle on it. Fx she doesn't bring it up again.
ruemorgan I agree with you 100%. I'm sorry your MIL was acting so childish. I understand that it probably isn't her favorite thing in the world, but she shouldn't have projected her emotions about it onto you guys. If you & your H see the step-MIL as family, then she's grandma too. That's the reality of the situation. Period.
My parents are divorced, and both are in serious relationships. I admit that I was happy when my dad's fiancee & my mom's boyfriend both said "I DO NOT WANT TO BE CALLED GRANDMA/PA!" -- I don't see them as family (yet...) so I was afraid I'd have to have the opposite argument. Thankfully they said it (not to me, but to my mom/dad) immediately after finding out I was pregnant! Maybe someday they will naturally become grandma/pa, but for now, my parents will be called Grandpa B & "Susan" and Grandma M & "Joe".
Speaking of this issue -- do you guys think grandmas/grandpas get to dictate what they are called? My mom wants to be "Gramma" -- I think that's stupid & will call her the word that comes out of my mouth easiest, which is "grandma." If my kid calls her Gramma, that's fine -- NBD as it's almost the same word anyway. My aunt is "Mimi" to her grandkids, and asked the other day for us to have our kid call her "Aunt Mimi." I think that is beyond stupid, and I'll never remember to call her that. She's Aunt Ann to me, and I'll call her that to my kid as well. But I figure we'll see her a small handful of times over the next decade, so I'm not too worried.
mango When there are many Grandmas and Grandpas involved, sometimes it's easier to have different names. My FIL is Granddad, my step-dad is Papa, and my dad is Grandpa. My mom is Grandma, step mom is Grandma Dawn, and my MIL was Nana. My former FIL was also Papa and my former MIL (to my GREAT dismay) ended up being Mommom. That is a whole 'nother story.
Only my Grandma is left and she is either Gigi or great grandma. When my dh's grandpa was still around he was Great Papa.
I think it's ok for parents and ILs to have some say but I also think it will depend on what LO calls them from an early age. My niece couldn't say Grandpa when she was younger and it turned into "Bumpa". That has stuck for her and my nephew, even though my kids still call him Grandpa
Post by NatashaBromanoff on Jan 31, 2015 15:12:40 GMT -5
mango agreeing with the above that I think it helps when there's a lot. My FIL lives in a different state and I don't suspect will be around much, but I have three grandmas (one great) to differentiate between, and possibly a 4th if my dad remarries. So I asked all the grandmas what they want to be called for my own sanity. Nana, Grammy, and Grandma so far. We'll see what the kid turns those into haha
I'm so glad that at my Dr's office they have pregnant ladies swab their own parts for the Strep B test. I know it's silly to care about it considering in the grand scheme of things that's the least invasive thing we go through, but still, it feels like I get to keep some of my dignity LOL
Post by coleybug13 on Jan 31, 2015 15:33:11 GMT -5
mango when DS was born my mom felt she was too young to be called grandma or nana or other granny-ish names *eye rolls* but whatever so she insisted DS call her "neener" where the heck she got that from I have no clue and it's the weirdest name to be called but alas, that's what he calls her.. Thank God my dad is normal and wanted to be called papa.
Sorry to everyone having trouble sleeping I don't have any advice on getting better sleep since I'm in the same boat but I do sleep better when SO isn't in bed with me. I need that whole king size to myself..(I don't tell him this though cause he'd be sad, he keeps saying how much he misses being able to squeeze me tight while we sleep)
Everyone with your cobbler, brownies and nutty bars I am now craving all the sweets and baked goods thank you!
I had a great time shopping With my friend! She got us a few Tommie tippie bottles, socks and a baby bath set with wash, lotions and creams. I also stopped at BRU with her and used My gift card for the wrap I wanted and found the most adorable bathing suit!
Also (AW:) I finally got to put up the wall decals in the nursery
ruemorgan I agree with you 100%. I'm sorry your MIL was acting so childish. I understand that it probably isn't her favorite thing in the world, but she shouldn't have projected her emotions about it onto you guys. If you & your H see the step-MIL as family, then she's grandma too. That's the reality of the situation. Period.
My parents are divorced, and both are in serious relationships. I admit that I was happy when my dad's fiancee & my mom's boyfriend both said "I DO NOT WANT TO BE CALLED GRANDMA/PA!" -- I don't see them as family (yet...) so I was afraid I'd have to have the opposite argument. Thankfully they said it (not to me, but to my mom/dad) immediately after finding out I was pregnant! Maybe someday they will naturally become grandma/pa, but for now, my parents will be called Grandpa B & "Susan" and Grandma M & "Joe".
Speaking of this issue -- do you guys think grandmas/grandpas get to dictate what they are called? My mom wants to be "Gramma" -- I think that's stupid & will call her the word that comes out of my mouth easiest, which is "grandma." If my kid calls her Gramma, that's fine -- NBD as it's almost the same word anyway. My aunt is "Mimi" to her grandkids, and asked the other day for us to have our kid call her "Aunt Mimi." I think that is beyond stupid, and I'll never remember to call her that. She's Aunt Ann to me, and I'll call her that to my kid as well. But I figure we'll see her a small handful of times over the next decade, so I'm not too worried.
I feel like since I have control of da baby they can be called whatever they want.... My parents are currently getting a divorce so my dad picked his name (poppy) and my mom didn't want to be left out so she wants to be called naana because she likes naan bread? Whateves my dad just makes fun of her now and walks around their house saying na na na na na na na naaa batman! So meh to each their own she might not even call them that so hopefully they are flexible ha
ruemorgan I agree with you 100%. I'm sorry your MIL was acting so childish. I understand that it probably isn't her favorite thing in the world, but she shouldn't have projected her emotions about it onto you guys. If you & your H see the step-MIL as family, then she's grandma too. That's the reality of the situation. Period.
My parents are divorced, and both are in serious relationships. I admit that I was happy when my dad's fiancee & my mom's boyfriend both said "I DO NOT WANT TO BE CALLED GRANDMA/PA!" -- I don't see them as family (yet...) so I was afraid I'd have to have the opposite argument. Thankfully they said it (not to me, but to my mom/dad) immediately after finding out I was pregnant! Maybe someday they will naturally become grandma/pa, but for now, my parents will be called Grandpa B & "Susan" and Grandma M & "Joe".
Speaking of this issue -- do you guys think grandmas/grandpas get to dictate what they are called? My mom wants to be "Gramma" -- I think that's stupid & will call her the word that comes out of my mouth easiest, which is "grandma." If my kid calls her Gramma, that's fine -- NBD as it's almost the same word anyway. My aunt is "Mimi" to her grandkids, and asked the other day for us to have our kid call her "Aunt Mimi." I think that is beyond stupid, and I'll never remember to call her that. She's Aunt Ann to me, and I'll call her that to my kid as well. But I figure we'll see her a small handful of times over the next decade, so I'm not too worried.
Our parents didn't tell us what they wanted to be called. But it kinda happened in it's own way. My mom is Mama and my dad is Papa. H's parents are nana and granddad. We never told DS to call my mom mama. But it's stuck and I kinda love it.
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