1/5/2016 Weekly Check-In

[wirt2cute]

Good Morning Ladies!!! This will be my last check-in for a little while and I just want to thank jwinct for taking over this weekly check-in for me. She has graciously accepted my request to take over and I truly appreciate her. 




Status:


What are you doing this month?




Where are you at in your journey?




What is your mood?




QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016?

[Tiger]

What are you doing this month?
Sorting through all the insurance stuff and finances for an IVF cycle starting in February.

Where are you at in your journey?
After 4 failed IUIs, we're moving on to IVF. BCPs start mid-February, egg retrieval approximately 3/12/16.

What is your mood?
Mothereffing excited. I never thought we'd be able to do IVF, so this was a definite bonus (my company changed their health insurance to include some infertility coverage).

QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016?
I'm going to make some small changes to how I eat. More veggies, less processed foods. I need to change my habits as I get older... I need to take care of this body!

[jwinct]

Thanks, wirt2cute. Wishing you the best and hope to see you back here before long!


Status: TTC #3


What are you doing this month? same as always... charting temps & CM, PNVs, sex


Where are you at in your journey? CD2 of cycle #6.


What is your mood? I'm in a pretty good mood, despite all the BFNs. I'm starting to get a cold and it's bad timing because I'm hosting a Traveling Vineyard wine tasting party Saturday. I cannot be sick!


QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016? I don't make resolutions. I do hope to lose some weight, but I'm not making it a resolution. Too much pressure. LOL

[wirt2cute]

Status: Break

What are you doing this month? Nothing


Where are you at in your journey? TBD


What is your mood? Today is a better day then yesterday.


QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016?

SPOILER: Click to show

This new year was not brought in with a gracious happy feelings it was brought in with arguing and hurtful words be said. Through a lot of my marriage and the TTC process my H was there 30% of the time but then he was emotionally absent 70% of time. In the beginning he was willing to do so much more, but over time I have been feeling the absence of my husband and this loneliness in my marriage. How can you feel so alone when someone is sitting right next to you.

I can honestly say that I am a great inspector gadget and I found out he was clubbing a lot after he would get off work and just lying about so much stuff. I hate to be lied to but to do it straight to my face is just too much. So we brought in the new year and the next day he was packing all of his clothes and getting the hell out of my house. The sad part was, I didn't cry when he left, I just didn't have any emotions. Saturday night was amazing and I just felt like this weight was off my shoulders because he was not there. My youngest however keep asking where was daddy and that broke my heart.

Sunday morning he started calling and blowing my cellphone up, talking about we need to talk, lets work this out, can we go to counseling, I love you, blah, blah, blah. By Sunday evening he was at my house looking at me all crazy sad and pleading for me to let him stay and work on us. I don't remember what I said but as of right now we have a scheduled appointment with a marriage counselor that he found through his EAP which includes 6 free sessions. I don't know what is going to happen and I really don't know what I feel right now, but I do know that the one night I was without him, I felt amazing and this is probably not a good thing. So with all that said I have to take a step back from the board and try to work on myself and my marriage.

I will totally be lurking and I am so rooting for all of you ladies. I send all the positive vibes for a whole lot of BFP's!!!!!Thank you so much for being such an awesome support team.

 

[sleepymonkey]

Oh, wirt2cute, I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope counseling can help you and YH decide what you both want from your marriage, whether that be staying or going. You are an amazing woman and have been a great support to everyone on here. I hope 2016 brings you peace and happiness.

[beachdreamer]

I'll be thinking positive thoughts for you, wirt2cute. Hoping for peace and happiness for you.

Status: TTC #2


What are you doing this month? PNVs, green tea, OPKs, sex...


Where are you at in your journey? CD 13 / 1 DPO (I think)


What is your mood? Everything's good. Glad the holidays are over and excited to get the ball rolling on some changes around here.



QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016? I didn't make any actual resolutions but we do plan on big changes here. We will be getting both houses on the market late winter/early spring so we can get into a real house!! That also involves getting our taxes done asap this year so we can be ready when we find something new. (We are usually last minute tax preparers….extension filers more often than not).

[jwinct]

So many hugs to you, wirt2cute.

Good luck, beachdreamer!

Tiger - I'm so happy for you that you're insurance now covers IVF. Best of luck you!!

[Tiger]

So....... just found out that the insurance I thought would cover 90% of IVF is actually only going to cover 20%. Now I need to have a conversation with DH about whether we drop some serious coin on a multi-cycle discount. Does anyone have any experience with those? We'd get two egg retrieval cycles (and two fresh transfers) plus embryo freezing and FET for any remaining embryos. Instead of $3-6,000 OOP, we're now looking at $18k.

[jwinct]

Jan 5, 2016 13:00:47 GMT -5 Tiger said:

So....... just found out that the insurance I thought would cover 90% of IVF is actually only going to cover 20%. Now I need to have a conversation with DH about whether we drop some serious coin on a multi-cycle discount. Does anyone have any experience with those? We'd get two egg retrieval cycles (and two fresh transfers) plus embryo freezing and FET for any remaining embryos. Instead of $3-6,000 OOP, we're now looking at $18k.

Ugh, that sucks. I am so sorry.

[sleepymonkey]

That really sucks, Tiger. I'm so sorry. The cost of IVF is the #1 reason we will not even consider it as an option for us if all else fails.

Status: TTC #2


What are you doing this month? BBT, OPKs, Preseed,


Where are you at in your journey? CD12 WTO, Cycle 8


What is your mood? Like beachdreamer, glad the holidays are over. Having Christmas and DD's birthday so close together is a bit stressful. Add a cold being passed around the whole family and a stomach virus hitting a few people, I'm glad to be done with December. I'm supposed to go see my ob next week to discuss the fact that I'm know KU yet. I'm seriously considering postponing it until next month for what is probably a silly reason. I have gained weight since the last time I was there in June and I am really embarrassed. I just started WW again and would like to drop a little weight before going to the doc.


QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016? I didn't make any resolutions but I have 2 changes I want to make in 2016. The first is to lose weight/get healthy again. I was so proud of myself for losing 70 lbs a few years ago; I was healthy, happy, and had so much more energy. Now I'm back up to probably 10-15 lbs less than my highest and I feel like crap. I'm tired, my BP is creeping up, and I avoid mirrors like the plague. I don't expect to get back to where I was before, but I would like to lose 40-50 lbs.
The second is I want to really work on curbing my spending. I spend a lot of money on stuff. Mostly random stuff that I don't actually need. And sometimes it's bigger purchases that I really don't need. I actually think I might need to contemplate therapy for what I think is a borderline shopping addiction.

[summergirl1211]

Thanks as always for the update this week wirt2cute ! I will be thinking of you and hoping you can come to a place of peace. Sending you many hugs lady.  

GL to everyone!

Status: TFAS


What are you doing this month? Everything's on hold again. I just found out I have Hashimoto's disease, so I have to wait until my thyroid is under control. I have at least another 4 weeks before I can check my levels to see if the current level of medication is enough or if we need to up it. Once they're back to normal I will get the go ahead from my RE to continue TTC (using Clomid, Ovidrel and Progesterone).


Where are you at in your journey? Cycle #9, CD14


What is your mood? Really disappointed that we have to wait again, but looking forward to the plan we have in place once we're off the bench. Also hoping that my H's SA (he's going next week) comes back normal as well.


QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016? Not really. I'm always trying to eat healthier and work out more, but I never seem to follow through with resolutions so I didn't even bother this year.

[tiresiastheblond]

wirt2cute, I'm so sorry. I hope the counseling helps you decide on a good path going forward. Hugs, and thanks for all the support you've given on here.

[caer]

wirt2cute - I'm sending you all the hugs and wishing you peace in the upcoming year. I'm very sorry this is happening.

[tiresiastheblond]

Tiger , That's a big difference in coverage. How frustrating!
jwinct , I hope that cold stays away!
sleepymonkey , I hear you on the weight stuff. Blech. Out of curiosity, was this an issue for you before your LO? I struggled with it a little bit before DD was born, but it's orders of magnitude worse now.
beachdreamer , I hope everything works out perfectly with the house(s)!
summergirl1211 , I'm so sorry about the delay. I'm glad you have some answers, though.

AFM:
Status: TTC #2 for 2 years.


What are you doing this month? Perhaps starting BCPs for FET in Feb? Hopefully RPL testing.




Where are you at in your journey? I have no idea what's going on in there. I actually had a super faint line on an hpt (Answer brand) yesterday (at CD 27, no idea what DPO). But since then I've had 2 stark white negative FRERs and tons of cramping, so maybe a really early c/p? I had blood drawn at the RE's yesterday so they could decide if they needed to induce AF to get me going, but I don't have results from them yet.




What is your mood? Grumpy. I feel like I should go out and do something, but the snow and cold make me want to stay inside until May.




QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016? I need to make LOTS of changes. I need to get back to work, but I need to decide what I want to do, first. This may mean going back to school. I need to get way healthier. And cleaner. And more motivated. Maybe a personality transplant?

***Update***  Re's office just called.  I apparently haven't even ovulated yet.  I should start Provera this week.  Stupid HPT. Stupid body.

[caer]

Tiger - I'm sorry about the insurance update. It makes me angry that there isn't mandatory fertility coverage.

I'm so sorry summergirl1211. (((Hugs)))

Status: Cycle 11 of TFAS


What are you doing this month? Finishing testing with the RE (finally) and all the regular TTC stuff.

Where are you at in your journey? CD 2.

What is your mood? I'm ok. The last month of NTNP was a really nice break.

QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016? Lose the last 10 pounds of baby weight (well, just weight now. It's been 2 years). I'd also like to be more positive this year. I'm a worst-case scenario/glass half empty kind of gal and I'd like that to change.

[sleepymonkey]

tiresiastheblond, I have had weight issues for most of my life. In 2010, I had high bp, borderline high cholesterol, and found out I was pre-diabetic so I had a bit of a wake-up call to do something about it. I lost 70 lbs over the course of the next 2 1/2 years and was in the normal BMI category for about 4 months before I got pregnant with DD. I put on 50 lbs during pregnancy and have gained some on top of that. I'm not sure if it's hormones or age or a combination of both but I feel like it's so hard for me to lose weight now. When I lost weight before, it came off relatively easily, especially at first. Now I feel like it takes a ton of cutting back to lose even a pound. And it doesn't help that making easy, healthy meals and working out while working FT and dealing with a 2 year old seems like a monumental task for me!

[bazinga]

Hugs wirt2cute, I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time but hope you can work things through to reach whatever will be the best outcome for you and your family. Thank you so much for the support you've offered here. I wish you well, and hope to see you again.

Thanks for taking over the check in jwinct.

Tiger, I was excited for you when I read your first post, so sorry your insurance has let you down.

AFM...

Status: TFAS

What are you doing this month? Most of the acronyms

Where are you in your journey? Cycle 4AL, 11 DPO

What's your mood? Cautiously optimistic, but trying to manage my expectations too. I spotted randomly yesterday which is early for me then nothing today. I'm really hoping that was a good sign but haven't mentioned anything to DH. He was really disappointed last cycle which was hard to take...

QOTW: I didn't make any real resolutions, just trying to be healthier and generally more proactive in home life and work so that I enjoy more quality time with my family.

[jwinct]

Um, holy crap you guys. DCF just called us about a 2 month old baby girl and wanted to know if we want to be considered for the teaming and we said yes. There are a lot of families who are interested in her, so the chances of us getting chosen are low, but there's always a chance. I'm not sure when this teaming is actually taking place, but I think it's usually within a week or so.

[wannabmama]

wirt2cute sending so many hugs, I'm hope you and YH can find the best pathway forward, whatever it is. I wish you peace and happiness in 2016.
jwinct thanks for taking over the check in!

We are just waiting now, just had some sex when it might have been my FW, but not temping so not sure.
After this month, we will be in IVF prep.
My mood is ok. I am not looking forward to IVF and am trying to figure out whether to give a couple months to finding a new job first...but then I don't want to immediately go to IVF with a new job, but if I keep waiting to change jobs the situation where I am might get worse. So hard to time everything.
QOTW: new job and lose 30 lbs. I am sending in one resume every week and trying to walk 10000 steps three days a week and do better portion control.

[caer]

That's exciting news jwinct! Thinking of you and hoping all goes well!

[lennonkdc]

***Lurking***

wirt2cute, Hugs. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Tiger, That's quite a leap in cost, but I'm crossing everything for this to work out for you!

[Tiger]

jwinct Thank you and that's great news about the teaming! (Thank you for including the link... it saved me a trip to google!)

sleepymonkey caer bazinga lennonkdc Thank you. DH and I discussed it last night and came to a good compromise that will allow me to feel like we've given it our best shot, while spending an amount that DH is comfortable with. Now... is it March yet?!

[dawnfire]

wirt2cute, it's good to step back so you can figure things out. I hope things work out for a way that is beneficial to both you and YH, whatever that may be.

Tiger, that's a shame the insurance covers so little. I'm pretty sure we'll be in the same boat if we have to go that route.

jwinct, good luck with the teaming and thanks for the helpful link! I was wondering what that was, too. It seems like an awfully long method to get kids who need loving families into those families, but I guess they have good reasons for it.

Now on to me.

What are you doing this month?

TFAS: Just ordered Preseed from Amazon to try. Taking my Metformin. Have an appointment later this month with my OB for a Well Woman. I'll be asking her about a referral to RE at that point.


Where are you at in your journey?

cycle 8 I think/CD10


What is your mood?

**pregnancy mentioned**
Annoyed/jealous. DH told me his co-worker's wife is pregnant. I'm happy for her, but can't help beaing jealous, too. She had a baby a few months before my LO was born (that was her kiddo #2) and then a child after my LO was born. And now she's pregnant again. It stirred up all my jealousy and "it's not fair" whinings.


QOTW: Did you make any resolutions for 2016 or do you plan on making any big/small changes in 2016?

I generally don't make them because I'm not good at keeping them. I'd like to exercise more, but I don't see that happening very soon. I made a goal that I'd like to eat better/meal plan but I need to make a spreadsheet of things I can make that are fast. I'm not big on actually cooking.

[jwinct]

Thanks, everyone. I already found out we weren't selected. I'm not surprised, but still bummed.

[wannabmama]

Sorry jwinct
I think it's amazing you're putting yourselves up for such an awesome opportunity and hope another comes along! Hugs.

[bazinga]

Sorry the process didn't work in your favor this time jwinct.

[tiresiastheblond]

I'm sorry, jwinct. I hope you're matched soon.

[sleepymonkey]

I'm so sorry, jwinct. I hope another opportunity comes along for your family very soon.

[callmeKD]

hi ladies! I miss you! the holidays were crazy and next week we head to Disney with DD.

this month - we are playing it by ear.

we are TFAS.

my mood - I have an ear infection, have been on augmentin since Saturday, but I'm finally starting to feel better!

resolutions - trying really hard to do 21DayFix workouts 3-4x/week plus stick to the meal plan. DH has lost 20 lbs. since Halloween. it's so great to have him on board with healthy eating.

[tiresiastheblond]

Jan 5, 2016 15:51:30 GMT -5 sleepymonkey said:

tiresiastheblond, I have had weight issues for most of my life. In 2010, I had high bp, borderline high cholesterol, and found out I was pre-diabetic so I had a bit of a wake-up call to do something about it. I lost 70 lbs over the course of the next 2 1/2 years and was in the normal BMI category for about 4 months before I got pregnant with DD. I put on 50 lbs during pregnancy and have gained some on top of that. I'm not sure if it's hormones or age or a combination of both but I feel like it's so hard for me to lose weight now. When I lost weight before, it came off relatively easily, especially at first. Now I feel like it takes a ton of cutting back to lose even a pound. And it doesn't help that making easy, healthy meals and working out while working FT and dealing with a 2 year old seems like a monumental task for me!

I hear you about both the changes to metabolism and the difficulty of living a healthy lifestyle. It's kind of funny that a major reason we (I anyway) want to undo all the havoc my (wonderful) little creature wreaked on my body is so I can produce ANOTHER one. It's lucky for the human race that we're gluttons for punishment!