2.0+ Check-in

[RandomName]

I'm up so I figured I'd start the check-in. I'm not sure what all questions you want me to put in so any ideas let me know. Also if I forgot anyone let me know.

1. How old is your new LO / how far along are you?
2. Age gap between kids.

3. How is your M14 toddler doing with the changes (pregnancy or new baby)?
4. What are you currently struggling with?
5. Share a special sibling moment, or something new that your kid(s) are doing?

6. Questions/advice? Or anything you want to talk about?

pearlvirus
lakecountrygal
younglove316
katka512
fishbulb
fish8412
mrssmith613
@babylentilbean
newmomma8
babycaps

[newmomma8]

Jan 18, 2016 23:18:09 GMT -5 RandomName said:

I'm up so I figured I'd start the check-in. I'm not sure what all questions you want me to put in so any ideas let me know. Also if I forgot anyone let me know.

1. How old is your new LO / how far along are you?
Gray was 2 weeks old yesterday (Monday).

2. Age gap between kids.
About 22 months

3. How is your M14 toddler doing with the changes (pregnancy or new baby)?
T absolutely loves G. She wants to hold him all the time and tells him bye every morning on her way to daycare and runs to him when she gets home.

4. What are you currently struggling with?
Dealing with swelling from c section, it's more of a vanity thing at this point. I am very self conscious about having such a pooch from my belly button down.

5. Share a special sibling moment, or something new that your kid(s) are doing?
As I was nursing G, T freaked out saying "Gray biting Momma", then once I told her it was ok she tried to bite my cleavage. Lol

6. Questions/advice? Or anything you want to talk about?
Not much, just adjusting to nursing, been a new adventure for me.

[Deleted]

1. L is 9 weeks.

2. 13 years and 20 months

3. E loves L. She also loves holding him and she will give him her dolls if he is laying in his bouncer on the floor. She even calls out for him when she is fighting naps.

4. I have been struggling with vomiting. He was diagnosed with pyloric stenosis and we are getting it correcting today.

5. E will help me pat L's back when I'm trying to burp him. It is so sweet. She also mimics what I do with L when she is playing with her dolls. It is so cute!

[katka512]

1. I'm 34.5 weeks along. Due end of February
2. They will be nearly exactly 2 years apart.
3. DD is doing fine with the pregnancy. She knows "baby sister" is in mommy's belly but has no idea what's coming!
4. I feel like I need to do all this fun stuff with DD before LO gets here because I'm afraid we'll have hardly any time together. I also am getting frustrated more easily and I get really upset with myself because that's not how I want to have our last few weeks of just us go.
5. DD hugs and kisses my belly and says "hi baby sister. Come out." It's adorable. She came to an ultrasound yesterday and was so excited to see LO on the screen.
6. I'm so worried about DD feeling neglected once LO is here. I'm also afraid I'll miss her terribly. I'm a SAHM so we spend almost all our time together. I cry when I think of that ending/being different. And then I feel terrible and like I should be more excited for LOs arrival. Any advice?

[younglove316]

1. 10 weeks on Friday
2. 20 months
3. She absolutely loves her little sister. When DD2 cries, DD1 will run up to us all concerned saying uh oh sissy. She also loves giving her hugs and trying to put her paci in.
4. Sleep. We are finally getting longer stretches but it's only one. After her first wake up, she won't go more than an hour unless she's in bed with me. So if her first wake up is at 130-2, the rest of the night is horrible. I dread looking at the time when she wakes up.
5. DD2 was playing on her mat last night and DD1 laid down next to her, hugged her, and put her head on her chest.
6. What kinds of gifts are you getting or telling family for 2nd birthdays?

[RandomName]

1. How old is your new LO / how far along are you?
5.5 months

2. Age gap between kids.
17 months

3. How is your M14 toddler doing with the changes (pregnancy or new baby)?
DD is doing really well now. She gives DS kisses every night before bed, asks where T-O is every morning and loves to bring him toys and help with diaper changes. She very affectionate toward him now.

4. What are you currently struggling with?
Sleep. DS doesn't sleep more than 2 hr stretches. He will do a night of two hours and then a few nights of 45 mins to 1 hr. I think I've created this problem by being to quick to respond to him. We get possession of our house tonight so I'm looking forward to having him in his own room and sleep training soon!

5. Share a special sibling moment, or something new that your kid(s) are doing?
If DD is sitting on the couch, she I'll pat the spot between her legs and say "T-O ici" and then cuddle him once I put him there. When she's done cuddling she'll push him away and jump down so I can't go to far but it's pretty cute.

6. Questions/advice? Or anything you want to talk about?

[fish8412]

1. How old is your new LO / how far along are you?
DD2 is 11 days old

2. Age gap between kids.
22 months

3. How is your M14 toddler doing with the changes (pregnancy or new baby)?
DD1 is doing pretty well. She likes to hold the baby and give kisses. But then she doesn't like it when I nurse the baby. She climbs all over me.

4. What are you currently struggling with?
My husband just went back to work yesterday. He took off 6 days of work which was amazing. So it's really hard balancing my time between the two girls. I feel like I'm always neglecting one of them.

5. Share a special sibling moment, or something new that your kid(s) are doing?
DD1 learns so many new words all the time. It's amazing how fast she catches on to new words and concepts. Of course when DD1 holds/hugs/kisses the baby, my heart just melts.

6. Questions/advice? Or anything you want to talk about?
I need to start using the wrap so my hands are free to play with DD1. I have the solly wrap and I haven't even opened the box. (Used the moby with DD2 and didn't like it). Is there a weight minimum for using a baby wrap? DD2 was half an ounce from her birth weight of 5 lbs 11 oz as of last Thursday. We go for another weight check this Thursday.

[Deleted]

fish8412, you would want to use a wrap and not a carrier. Mostly bc it is more supportive and secure for the baby. The moby is actually a good option for this size.

katka512, I felt the same way about not being there for DD. She was the center of my world. I try to give her my undivided attention as much as possible. That first month I wasn't really able to and I had lots of guilt. L has been high needs too since he had undiagnosed pyloric stenosis. I literally couldn't put him down all day long or he would vomit. I kept him in my wrap all day so I could give each of them what they needed simultaneously.

[lakecountrygal]

1. How old is your new LO / how far along are you? I'm 20w4d with 2.0

2. Age gap between kids. There will be 2 years 3 months between them

3. How is your M14 toddler doing with the changes (pregnancy or new baby)? He's more clingy and gets upset easily. Trying to push my belly out of his way when he wants to snuggle. I think we will have a hard adjustment.

4. What are you currently struggling with? Having the energy to deal with DS. I'm exhausted by the end of the day and super short tempered. I feel horrible but all I want to do is go to bed.

5. Share a special sibling moment, or something new that your kid(s) are doing? He's talking more and will point to my belly and say baby, but then proceeds to kick or hit it.

6. Questions/advice? Or anything you want to talk about? How did everyone rid their M14 LO of the pacifier? We want to break DS of the habit before 2.0 arrives but naps and night are horrible without it.

[katka512]

@babylentilbean,that sounds so tough. I'm glad you have a diagnosis now and I hope he's doing better. I think I'll be using a carrier a lot. It seems like the only way to get somewhat of a balance.

[Deleted]

Jan 19, 2016 19:57:44 GMT -5 katka512 said:

@babylentilbean,that sounds so tough. I'm glad you have a diagnosis now and I hope he's doing better. I think I'll be using a carrier a lot. It seems like the only way to get somewhat of a balance.

He had surgery today and he has nursed for the first time without vomiting everything all over the place. I feel like everything is going to be just fine now. I just wish I took him in earlier.

[fish8412]

Jan 19, 2016 20:16:30 GMT -5 @babylentilbean said:

Jan 19, 2016 19:57:44 GMT -5 katka512 said:

@babylentilbean,that sounds so tough. I'm glad you have a diagnosis now and I hope he's doing better. I think I'll be using a carrier a lot. It seems like the only way to get somewhat of a balance.

He had surgery today and he has nursed for the first time without vomiting everything all over the place. I feel like everything is going to be just fine now. I just wish I took him in earlier.

I'm glad that surgery was successful!

[pearlvirus]

1. How old is your new LO / how far along are you? She will be 11 weeks tomorrow.

2. Age gap between kids. 19 months

3. How is your M14 toddler doing with the changes (pregnancy or new baby)? In general it's going well. DD1 is sweet with DD2 and generally gentle. Sometimes it gets tough when there is just not enough mama to go around though.

4. What are you currently struggling with? Colds, always colds. DD1 is so sensitive, whenever anything is slightly off, she stops sleeping. It's terrible, I hope DD2 will be a little more easy going.

5. Share a special sibling moment, or something new that your kid(s) are doing? DD2 is rolling front to back! And I realize I mode no record of when DD1 did anything, so I have no idea how they compare, lol.

6. Questions/advice? Or anything you want to talk about? DD1 never wanted a paci, but DD2 is loving them... How bad is it trying to lose them later? And is it worth the less crying / more sleep now?

[RandomName]

pearlvirus DD also wanted nothing to do with paci but DS is all about it. I'm going with it. Best case, it will be fun to compare which is harder to break. In my non- experienced opinion, I think DD sucking her fingers will be harder to stop.

[Deleted]

Jan 20, 2016 15:22:18 GMT -5 RandomName said:

pearlvirus DD also wanted nothing to do with paci but DS is all about it. I'm going with it. Best case, it will be fun to compare which is harder to break. In my non- experienced opinion, I think DD sucking her fingers will be harder to stop.

Exactly this! You can't take away fingers but you can take a paci.

When DS1 was an infant he liked his paci but I took it away at 4 months to keep him from creates a huge attachment. It worked for us.


DS hated the paci. I tried all kinds too. I was her paci. It was bad bc it got to the point I couldn't get her to fall asleep and stay asleep without my nipple in her mouth. We had to sleep train but now she sleeps 10-12 hours regularly.

[fishbulb]

1. How old is your new LO / how far along are you?
I'm 25 weeks with #2

2. Age gap between kids.
They'll be 2 years and a month, month and half apart

3. How is your M14 toddler doing with the changes (pregnancy or new baby)?
He's not loving that momma can't carry him everywhere. At the AS I was diagnosed with borderline placenta previa (it may still move though). My OB didn't put me on hardcore restrictions but I was explicitly told no heavy lifting and I'm guessing a 30 lb. toddler qualifies. He does like cuddling with the belly though and lifting my shirt to look for the baby.

4. What are you currently struggling with?
So many colds here too pearlvirus. I'm currently on my 4th cold since Dec. 1. This seems to be a mild daycare cold though and not the exotic airplane variety that sent all of us to the doctor or urgent care over Christmas.

5. Share a special sibling moment, or something new that your kid(s) are doing?
Not 2.0 related, but J is starting to string together 3-4 word sentences. I know some kids have been doing it for a while, but I'm still proud.

6. Questions/advice? Or anything you want to talk about?
Has anyone tried the baby K'tan? I'd like to wear 2.0 fairly regularly so it's easier to keep up with J. I'm intimidated by wraps and our ergo seems like a little much for a newborn, infant insert or not.

[pearlvirus]

fishbulb I have a k'tan and love it. So much easier than moby style wraps. My only advice is that it feels way too tight when you first put it on. Pop baby in and get settled before giving up!

[pearlvirus]

Jan 21, 2016 9:01:53 GMT -5 @babylentilbean said:

Jan 20, 2016 15:22:18 GMT -5 RandomName said:

pearlvirus DD also wanted nothing to do with paci but DS is all about it. I'm going with it. Best case, it will be fun to compare which is harder to break. In my non- experienced opinion, I think DD sucking her fingers will be harder to stop.

Exactly this! You can't take away fingers but you can take a paci.

When DS1 was an infant he liked his paci but I took it away at 4 months to keep him from creates a huge attachment. It worked for us.


DS hated the paci. I tried all kinds too. I was her paci. It was bad bc it got to the point I couldn't get her to fall asleep and stay asleep without my nipple in her mouth. We had to sleep train but now she sleeps 10-12 hours regularly.

My DD1 actually dropped the finger sucking really easily. A couple months ago she had a sucking sore (on her favorite finger) that got infected, so we had to wrap it up in a bandaid and tell her not to mess with it. She pulled the bandaid off a few times and then gave up. After it was healed she just didn't want to suck then anymore...

[katka512]

fishbulb I used the ktan all the time when DD was an infant. I think I stopped when she was around 5 months and went to the ergo but I loved it

[RandomName]

Jan 19, 2016 20:16:30 GMT -5 @babylentilbean said:

Jan 19, 2016 19:57:44 GMT -5 katka512 said:

@babylentilbean,that sounds so tough. I'm glad you have a diagnosis now and I hope he's doing better. I think I'll be using a carrier a lot. It seems like the only way to get somewhat of a balance.

He had surgery today and he has nursed for the first time without vomiting everything all over the place. I feel like everything is going to be just fine now. I just wish I took him in earlier.

How's he doing today?

[RandomName]

Jan 19, 2016 6:59:56 GMT -5 katka512 said:

3. DD is doing fine with the pregnancy. She knows "baby sister" is in mommy's belly but has no idea what's coming!
4. I feel like I need to do all this fun stuff with DD before LO gets here because I'm afraid we'll have hardly any time together. I also am getting frustrated more easily and I get really upset with myself because that's not how I want to have our last few weeks of just us go.

6. I'm so worried about DD feeling neglected once LO is here. I'm also afraid I'll miss her terribly. I'm a SAHM so we spend almost all our time together. I cry when I think of that ending/being different. And then I feel terrible and like I should be more excited for LOs arrival. Any advice?

I could have written this before DS was born. And I won't lie, at the hospital after delivering DS I wanted to get home asap because I missed DD. Even at home, I was jealous at the start bc my BF got to spend so much time with DD and I missed her so much (it's strange to miss someone when they are in the same room - I just felt different). It did get easier and now I cherish the time my DD got to spend with her Dad. You find a balance and everything does fall into place. It may take some time but she loves you and that won't change.

[RandomName]

Jan 19, 2016 7:07:52 GMT -5 younglove316 said:

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6. What kinds of gifts are you getting or telling family for 2nd birthdays?

We are asking for kitchen supplies for the kitchen well get her. And costumes. Although I may now wait until Christmas for dress up stuff bc she's so into playing kitchen and having tea parties with her dolls.

[RandomName]

pearlvirus I'll have to try the bandaid thing. That's fantastic LO dropped it so quickly!

fishbulb yay for 3-4 word sentences! DD is still on 2 words if we're lucky or a lot of jumble that we don't understand.

[Deleted]

Jan 21, 2016 20:39:48 GMT -5 RandomName said:

Jan 19, 2016 20:16:30 GMT -5 @babylentilbean said:

He had surgery today and he has nursed for the first time without vomiting everything all over the place. I feel like everything is going to be just fine now. I just wish I took him in earlier.

How's he doing today?

They ended up keeping us another night bc he started vomiting again. They wanted to make sure he was staying hydrated. We got home this afternoon and so far he is doing good. He still has vomiting episodes but they are less frequent and much less forceful and not as much coming out.

I swear he is a different baby. He is more alert throughout the day. He has smiled more in the last 2 days than I have ever seen him do. It's amazing how different his personality is. It has opened my eyes to how sick he really was. I just wasn't aware of his discomfort bc he never cried much.

He should quit vomiting within the next few weeks. The dr said it should slowly get better and better.

[Deleted]

Jan 21, 2016 20:44:08 GMT -5 RandomName said:

Jan 19, 2016 6:59:56 GMT -5 katka512 said:

3. DD is doing fine with the pregnancy. She knows "baby sister" is in mommy's belly but has no idea what's coming!
4. I feel like I need to do all this fun stuff with DD before LO gets here because I'm afraid we'll have hardly any time together. I also am getting frustrated more easily and I get really upset with myself because that's not how I want to have our last few weeks of just us go.

6. I'm so worried about DD feeling neglected once LO is here. I'm also afraid I'll miss her terribly. I'm a SAHM so we spend almost all our time together. I cry when I think of that ending/being different. And then I feel terrible and like I should be more excited for LOs arrival. Any advice?

I could have written this before DS was born. And I won't lie, at the hospital after delivering DS I wanted to get home asap because I missed DD. Even at home, I was jealous at the start bc my BF got to spend so much time with DD and I missed her so much (it's strange to miss someone when they are in the same room - I just felt different). It did get easier and now I cherish the time my DD got to spend with her Dad. You find a balance and everything does fall into place. It may take some time but she loves you and that won't change.

Exactly this! This is exactly what I went through. It got better after the first month.

[RandomName]

Jan 21, 2016 21:09:24 GMT -5 @babylentilbean said:

Jan 21, 2016 20:39:48 GMT -5 RandomName said:

How's he doing today?

They ended up keeping us another night bc he started vomiting again. They wanted to make sure he was staying hydrated. We got home this afternoon and so far he is doing good. He still has vomiting episodes but they are less frequent and much less forceful and not as much coming out.

I swear he is a different baby. He is more alert throughout the day. He has smiled more in the last 2 days than I have ever seen him do. It's amazing how different his personality is. It has opened my eyes to how sick he really was. I just wasn't aware of his discomfort bc he never cried much.

He should quit vomiting within the next few weeks. The dr said it should slowly get better and better.

Awe, that's so cute his personality is showing through, those smilies are priceless. He must be feeling better. I'm glad to hear the surgery went well and he should continue to improve.

[Deleted]

Hope your s continues to improve @babylentilbean, !

[katka512]

RandomName, @babylentilbean, thank you for saying what you did and making me feel normal for feeling this way. I'm happy to hear it didn't take too long to adjust.

[younglove316]

katka512 sorry I didn't see your post when I was reading but I also had the feelings of guilt. I'm also a SAHM so for the 20 months the before DD2 was born, it had always been just the two of us. I've started leaving DD2 with my husband for a little bit, even if it's just an hour, and we go to the store or do something quick but it's just the two of us. I'm also trying to make a better effort of trying to get DD2 down during the day and just playing with her for a little bit at a time.

I won't lie, it was really hard at first but it has gotten a lot easier!

[fish8412]

DD1 has started to act out the past few days. It has been horrible. She is making messes all around the house. She is refusing to nap and waking up at night multiple times. I feel like I have 2 newborns to take care of. So tired and running low on patience. Ugh. When is the adjustment phase over!? (For the older sibling)