Bump change of TOU

[karabear4409]

FYI, The Bump quietly changed it's TOU so that anything posted on the forum is their property. So, if you are still posting over there, you may want to be careful when posting pics of LOs.

[Deleted]

What!? I was planning on deleting my account once baby was here (so i could tell the girls who didn't make the move) but this is the last straw.

[NariaDreaming]

***Lurker butting in***

I have a feeling this new TOU will be the final straw for many. I'm braced for another influx of refugees this week.

[Deleted]

I just put my request in to delete my account. I am so upset over this.

[karabear4409]

I deleted mine too. This really bothers me. Make sure you request that all posts and history is also deleted.

[chiwifey]

How do we delete?

[Deleted]

Feb 2, 2015 17:10:24 GMT -5 chiwifey said:

How do we delete?

You need to pm bumpcaitlin and request. Takes a full 48 hrs to complete and you cannot login during that time or it resets the clock.

Check the board, bump hq.

[chiwifey]

Thanks @ducky719 . It makes me sad to leave that board completely though. The IF community was such a haven for me these past several years. Where do I find the new TOU so I can read them?

[NariaDreaming]

Feb 2, 2015 17:13:53 GMT -5 chiwifey said:

Thanks @ducky719 . It makes me sad to leave that board completely though. The IF community was such a haven for me these past several years. Where do I find the new TOU so I can read them?

www.thebump.com/terms.html


Here are some of the creepy highlights:

"If you submit or post any materials or content to the Site, you grant us and our business partners a royalty free, perpetual, irrevocable, transferrable, assignable, sub-licensable, worldwide license to use such materials and content, including alterations thereof, for our business purposes, in any form, in any media, and via any technology we choose, whether it exists now or is created in the future. You represent that any materials and content posted or otherwise submitted by you to the Site is original to you and that you have the right to grant us these rights."

"We do not control the material that you or others may post or otherwise make available in such areas, and you understand that we have no obligation to monitor any such material or to edit or delete it. However, we reserve the right do so. We are not a publisher of user posts, and we are not responsible for their accuracy or legality."

"Although Our Representatives may moderate content, conduct and Terms of Use compliance on the Site at our discretion, Our Representatives have no authority to make binding commitments, promises or representations to anyone that they or anyone else on our behalf will "take care" of any alleged problem or complaint, or that they or anyone else on our behalf will otherwise stop, cure or prevent any problem, content, conduct or purported Terms of Use violation from occurring or recurring. Accordingly, you further agree that any representation (written or verbal) by any of Our Representatives (or by anyone else acting on our behalf or by anyone purportedly acting on our behalf) that we (including but not limited to any of Our Representatives, anyone else acting on our behalf, or anyone purportedly acting on our behalf) would or would not prevent, restrict, redress or regulate content (including, without limitation, screen, block, moderate, review, remove, terminate, delete, edit or otherwise stop, cure or exclude any content), or to implement other enforcement measures against any content, conduct or potential or purported Terms of Use violation is superseded by this provision and is nonbinding and unenforceable."

"YOU AND WE AGREE THAT EACH OF US MAY BRING CLAIMS AGAINST THE OTHER ONLY ON AN INDIVIDUAL BASIS AND NOT AS A PLAINTIFF OR CLASS MEMBER IN ANY PURPORTED CLASS OR REPRESENTATIVE ACTION OR PROCEEDING. UNLESS BOTH YOU AND WE SPECIFICALLY AGREE OTHERWISE, THE ARBITRATOR MAY NOT CONSOLIDATE OR JOIN MORE THAN ONE PERSON'S OR PARTY'S CLAIMS, AND MAY NOT OTHERWISE PRESIDE OVER ANY FORM OF A CONSOLIDATED, REPRESENTATIVE, OR CLASS PROCEEDING. ALSO, THE ARBITRATOR MAY AWARD RELIEF (INCLUDING MONETARY, INJUNCTIVE, AND DECLARATORY RELIEF) ONLY IN FAVOR OF THE INDIVIDUAL PARTY SEEKING RELIEF AND ONLY TO THE EXTENT NECESSARY TO PROVIDE RELIEF NECESSITATED BY THAT PARTY'S INDIVIDUAL CLAIM(S). ANY RELIEF AWARDED CANNOT AFFECT OTHER SITE USERS."

[leahb12]

That also makes me sad. I'm going to request to have my stuff deleted. At least you ladies are here!

[mg0202]

I will also be deleting after this. Will this be retroactive and include pictures we had posted before?

[karabear4409]

mg0202 I'm not sure. I was wondering the same thing. And, I couldn't really tell from the TOU if it was retroactive or not. But, either way, I wasn't going to take any risk with LO's pictures. I didn't want R's photo popping up on any of TB's ads (or any of their business partners, wtf?).

[kmc84]

I just posted a heads up about this on SAIF- lets see if I get booted for it

[richzep]

Just requested to get deleted. Thanks for the info.

[leahb12]

I just put in my request to be deleted. It feels like the end of an era

[bellalou]

So, I put my request in. It was a very bitter/sweet moment. Although I'm sad b/c that was the beginning of friendships and source of amazing support from amazing women, I'm also thinking that TB is now a part of my past. I'm putting it behind me with the thought in mind that I beat infertility. We all beat infertility. I struggle with not allowing infertility to define me and I think ending TB might just help me realize that I need to celebrate what I have in my life. And on top of it all, I still have you all in my life. I'm very fortunate for that, everyday.

[Deleted]

bellalou i couldn't have said it better. I was going to delete my account after this baby was born to help close the chapter of IF. I wanted to be able to tell the girls who didn't make the move that all was well. This just sped up the process.

[blueinred]

i don't think I need to delete my account but will never post photos of LOur on there. I rarely did before the new TOU. Don't Facebook and Instagram have the same TOU.

@ducky719 and bellalou  I'm glad you both feel you've beaten infertility. Unfortunately I am now feeling that IF has beaten me.

[bellalou]

blueinred I can understand. It's definitely something we will always have to live with. I'm still trying to learn to let go. It's really hard.

[Deleted]

Feb 3, 2015 10:37:58 GMT -5 blueinred said:

i don't think I need to delete my account but will never post photos of LOur on there. I rarely did before the new TOU. Don't Facebook and Instagram have the same TOU.

Ducky719 and Bellalou I'm glad you both feel you've beaten infertility. Unfortunately I am now feeling that IF has beaten me.

 I hope one day you can feel as though you have beaten IF.  Lots of hugs and love for you, mama!

[momya]

Thanks for the heads up. I've also deleted my account and while it's bittersweet, I don't feel like I've been very active over there since the twins were born anyway.

[blueinred]

Thank you @ducky719.
I won't delete by account on TB because I feel part of the Secondary IF community at this time.

[chiwifey]

Can we have our current account deleted and then create a new one so that any pics we've posted will be gone but we can still participate in the saif community under a new name? Does that make sense? haven't posted that many of C but still I don't really want to let them have the rights to them.

[cinc1em]

Feb 4, 2015 14:23:10 GMT -5 chiwifey said:

Can we have our current account deleted and then create a new one so that any pics we've posted will be gone but we can still participate in the saif community under a new name? Does that make sense? haven't posted that many of C but still I don't really want to let them have the rights to them.

This is my plan exactly.

[chiwifey]

Just put in my request. I asked for a response letting me know the received my request. Did any of you get a message back from bump Caitlin?

[bellalou]

Idk if I did or not but I googled my bump name and an old post came up. I clicked on it and it said no longer avail. Creepy thing, though, look under google images of your screen name.

[Deleted]

I just googled too and it said deleted...still, I'll check back in on Friday on tb itself.

[cinc1em]

They are acting on the requests very quickly. I'm already done according to Google. Although, I'd prefer no record to "records deleted".

[karabear4409]

bellalou omg. I googled my bump name. Not only is there pictures of R that I posted. But, there's pictures of all of your kids too. That is really, really disturbing.

[bellalou]

karabear4409 I know!! There are pics of all of your kids pics,that I liked. There's a ton of @ducky719 lil girl.