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[rslh10]

Feb 19, 2016 18:52:03 GMT -5 @sarahwithanh said:

elliecat17 no I was not benched for 3 months. He actually didn't bench me at all, because I miscarried almost entirely naturally and he said there was just the sac remaining. I don't really know why he wanted to wait 3 more months. I have two theories:
A- he thinks I didn't have good timing since i was not using opks.

B- he is just collecting data. (I have to do this when I have concerns about students)

Although it could be something different. I also think that I put on a good face and he doesn't really understand how much I'm struggling with this emotionally.

My husband thinks we don't need a referral. I am confused as to what to say to my doctor. Will he just forget that I'm suppose to be messaging him?

You don't owe your doctor any explanations. I would make the RE appt, and forget about the doctor. Just my opinion. But if you need to tell him something, just tell him to mind his fucking business...haha no I'm kidding. Just tell him you're ready to move on to a specialist because it's been X amount of time and that's what you and your H decided. But really, you owe him zero explanation.

[cali]

@sarahwithanh, it literally broke trees on my block in half. F-ing crazy!

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Crazy winds here too, I could barely sleep it was so loud on the windows etc.!

@sarahwithanh, you don't need to say anything - honestly he probably doesn't even remember you are supposed to follow up with him unless he looks up your chart. At this point, his only recommendation should be to refer you to a RE, he shouldn't be trying to manage your case himself.

[cali]

Feb 20, 2016 22:05:31 GMT -5 @sarahwithanh said:

So I used the online system to request an appt with an RE. This is really scary.

ETA: thank you so much to everyone who offered advice and reached out. It was the push I needed.

Good for you!! Good luck and let us know how it goes!

[muscari]

*hugs* for all you ladies! I'm not in a good place right now to be reading&responding, I'm so sorry I suck. But I wanted to let you know I read your responses to my post I really appreciate the support and advice!! We recieved paperwork from the RE yesterday which sort over both excites as overwhelms as frustrates me and I need to sort through all these emotions before I can make sense of myself again I think. So I'll be afkish for a little longer, so sorry. Much love!

[rslh10]

@sarahwithanh so proud of you for taking that step!

[muscari]

Meep. Not sure what the purpose of this post is, but I just had to share lol. Sorry for being all AWish:(

So just when I thought it was going to be months before we could take our next step (which most likely will be IVF) and I had actually found peace with that more or less ... we recieve the invitation letter for our first consult with the RE on March 10th. Y'all, that's less then 2 weeks from now!!! Just last week we were looking at 3+ months from now...

I actually was looking forward to some low-key months and hopefully the headspace&concentration to pick up my research again and finish writing my dissertation, but now I just don't know what's gonne happen..? And my thoughts&feelings are once again all over the place LOL. Timing feels a little too perfect since I'm just finishing up my current round of IUA treatement, which makes me way too hopeful somehow.. I'm eager and excited and scared and nervous and all and everything in between.

I keep opening CAL and 3T/IF and want to join in on the check-ins and other threads but whenever I start writing I just get stuck. I want to talk about this all, ask some questions, read about your experiences, etcetc but I just don't know how or where to start. There's like a ton of different thoughts circling around in my head right now. I'm so overwhelmed! (edited: words!)

[rslh10]

(((Hugs))) muscari! I think taking the RE step is hard at any time you choose to do it. I hope you and your H are able to decide easily what is best for you .

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[glb30]

@elida I am so sorry you have another round of miso! I hope this is it.

And I'm so sorry about your experience at the RE. I would have cried too.

[muscari]

Feb 28, 2016 15:21:24 GMT -5 rslh10 said:

(((Hugs))) muscari ! I think taking the RE step is hard at any time you choose to do it. I hope you and your H are able to decide easily what is best for you .

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Thanks rslh10, hugs right back atcha. Last time we took the plunge to see the RE we ended up with a surprise
BFP which is f*cking with my mind a little bit but I doubt we'll be able
to repeat that trick There have been many long, deep talks between MH&myself these past months and we have it pretty clear what we would like to do, which is straight to IVF (depending on test results and whether my adhesions now stay away of course but trying to stay positive:)). Now it's a matter of waiting out time for testing and results etc and then hopefully we can come up with a solid plan together with the RE.. It's a little scary, but I'm also ready to get this show on the road. Even if the outcome is far from certain right now, at least we'll be moving forward again and in the end will have more certainty about lies in our future, one way or the other. I can't live like this for much longer, we need some clarity even if it means focussing on living childless. But I have to admit I'm feeling all silly hopeful now, which I'll take as a good thing