When the baby is born, what happens? It the process to gain parental rights similar to adoption?
We chose to do a private adoption it's basically already done so the baby's ours the moment it's born plus it's my sister carrying so she would say "take her!" Lol
Post by NariaDreaming on Mar 3, 2016 19:22:16 GMT -5
I know the feeling with lots of appointments. You have a very public job. How did you work with your employer to schedule the never-ending early morning appointments?
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Not completely specific to surrogacy, but how did you come to find you were born without ovaries or a uterus?
It's a syndrome that runs in my family my mother was tested as a carrier of the gene that causes it so she knew to have me tested for it at a young age
I know the feeling with lots of appointments. You have a very public job. How did you work with your employer to schedule the never-ending early morning appointments?
Actually none of the appointments were early and I'm off work around 11am
Post by yogini kiki on Mar 3, 2016 19:24:07 GMT -5
Have you thought about whether or not you will have a conversation with your baby about his /her birth? I imagine that since the gestational carrier is your sister, there will be a unique lifelong bond between you all. I'm interested because my BFF is considering this route and I am strongly considering offering but she seems sensitive to the fact that I would still be a big part of their lives .
Is it sort of bittersweet to see your sister pregnant with your child?
Sometimes a little but then I go for a run or drink a cold beer and feel a little better about it haha I've known for so long I couldn't get pregnant that it's surreal to even have a baby on the way
Have you thought about whether or not you will have a conversation with your baby about his /her birth? I imagine that since the gestational carrier is your sister, there will be a unique lifelong bond between you all. I'm interested because my BFF is considering this route and I am strongly considering offering but she seems sensitive to the fact that I would still be a big part of their lives .
Follow up: how did your sister broach the subject
Oh our daughter will know everything from the beginning we even have photo albums we have made of the journey, I think your friend would feel better when she thinks about how it's not even biologically related to the carrier they are is it an oven for the bun haha
Here's another, feel free to ignore if this is too personal but I'm curious, will your sister do any skin-to-skin or breastfeeding when baby girl is born?
What is the biggest piece of advice you'd give to someone that is considering having a family member carry their child?
Great question!!! Make sure that they understand their role and commitment in the process, I think communication is key, how many rounds of IVF r we willing to try, do we stop at some point, are you comfortable carrying twins or triplets(common in IVF)
It's like being pregnant but having to relay info to three instead of two
Post by NariaDreaming on Mar 3, 2016 19:28:44 GMT -5
Because I've been following your story, I know that this started out as a twin pregnancy. Would you mind sharing a bit about how you have all dealt with the loss of the other twin?
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Because I've been following your story, I know that this started out as a twin pregnancy. Would you mind sharing a bit about how you have all dealt with the loss of the other twin?
I was in a dark place. I was convinced the other baby wouldn't make it even though she was 20 weeks along. I got mean and sassy but then my mom talked to me about it and Jim and my sister and I started to calm down and now in excited for our daughter and am starting to get past it
Here's another, feel free to ignore if this is too personal but I'm curious, will your sister do any skin-to-skin or breastfeeding when baby girl is born?
No I will get the baby from the minute it's born, we will be the first to hold her etc.
Dr and fertility center recommends that experts we have spoken to say that it's better for everyone involved especially be I while the baby is not Danis in any way it can be confusing for the carrier after something so traumatic as child birth to the be holding this little baby
I'm just going to take a second to say I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had losses of my own and it does lead to a dark place. I'm so glad that everything is looking good for your baby girl.
I'm just going to take a second to say I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had losses of my own and it does lead to a dark place. I'm so glad that everything is looking good for your baby girl.
Thank you, I've met so many ppl who have lost a baby I can't believe how common it is. It's so sad
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Post by ldubhawksfan on Mar 3, 2016 19:40:07 GMT -5
Since having your sister as the surrogate means you are able to have a continued relationship after birth, is she considering pumping breastmilk for your baby girl? I've only recently heard about drugs that can be taken to induce lactation independent of pregnancy. Is that something you considered following surrogacy?
Eta: sorry slow typer and this has partially been addressed.
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How has your husband handled all of this? I know that infertilty, and especially our loss (also at 7 weeks) was incredibly hard on him.
Jim has known we wouldn't have our own children since he met me I'm very open about that part of my biology. He was very sad for the loss of the baby but he is so excited for our daughter that he looks at the bright side that's something he's always been good at
Since having your sister as the surrogate means you are able to have a continued relationship after birth, is she considering pumping breastmilk for your baby girl? I've only recently heard about drugs that can be taken to induce lactation independent of pregnancy. Is that something you considered following surrogacy?
Post by reginaphalange3 on Mar 3, 2016 19:42:33 GMT -5
How long are you taking for maternity leave and will your sister take maternity leave too? (Sorry technically two questions, but related...hope that's okay)
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