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[summergirl1211]

Mar 7, 2016 14:51:25 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Its Monday, but this happened yesterday, so I need to add it because its ridiculous:

My SIL posted a fake pregnancy announcement on FB yesterday.

Why yesterday? Because my brother (her H) told her that it was not a good idea to post it on April 1.

I can't even with this chick sometimes...

Um, there's never a good time to post a fake pregnancy announcement. JFC.

[paddyb]

Mar 7, 2016 14:51:25 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Its Monday, but this happened yesterday, so I need to add it because its ridiculous:

My SIL posted a fake pregnancy announcement on FB yesterday.

Why yesterday? Because my brother (her H) told her that it was not a good idea to post it on April 1.

I can't even with this chick sometimes...

I am very confused by her thought process.

So much dumb.

[paddyb]

Speaking of dumb (and racist and all kinds of bad). I saw post with the hashtag fatlivesmatter. Gems from the post included an assertion that fat people have it worse than "the blacks" (their words)

[somethingcleverer]

Mar 7, 2016 15:50:29 GMT -5 paddyb said:

Speaking of dumb (and racist and all kinds of bad). I saw post with the hashtag fatlivesmatter. Gems from the post included an assertion that fat people have it worse than "the blacks" (their words)

Whoa. What kind of responses did that get?

[paddyb]

Mar 7, 2016 16:09:17 GMT -5 somethingcleverer said:

Mar 7, 2016 15:50:29 GMT -5 paddyb said:

Speaking of dumb (and racist and all kinds of bad). I saw post with the hashtag fatlivesmatter. Gems from the post included an assertion that fat people have it worse than "the blacks" (their words)

Whoa. What kind of responses did that get?

Thank god a lot of wtf is wrong with you type stuff.


Eta: and a bunch of people saying I bet she votes for Trump

[trixi282]

Mar 7, 2016 14:51:25 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Its Monday, but this happened yesterday, so I need to add it because its ridiculous:

My SIL posted a fake pregnancy announcement on FB yesterday.

Why yesterday? Because my brother (her H) told her that it was not a good idea to post it on April 1.

I can't even with this chick sometimes...

[MissMusic]

Mar 7, 2016 15:50:29 GMT -5 paddyb said:

Speaking of dumb (and racist and all kinds of bad). I saw post with the hashtag fatlivesmatter. Gems from the post included an assertion that fat people have it worse than "the blacks" (their words)

I...

There are no words.

[MissMusic]

Mar 7, 2016 16:18:01 GMT -5 trixi282 said:

Mar 7, 2016 14:51:25 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Its Monday, but this happened yesterday, so I need to add it because its ridiculous:

My SIL posted a fake pregnancy announcement on FB yesterday.

Why yesterday? Because my brother (her H) told her that it was not a good idea to post it on April 1.

I can't even with this chick sometimes...

Because they adopted a 2nd dog and it seemed HILARIOUS to do an announcement!  ISNT THIS FUNYN YOU GUYZ!

She had 2 photos up in the morning: one of the current dog wearing a sign around his neck "I'm getting a sibling!" and another of her 2 yr old holding a sign "I'm getting a sister!"

Then, later in the evening after about 200 congrats and HOLY COW comments, she posted a photo of the new dog with a sign "I'm joining the family!" with the caption "Happy Gotcha Day!"

I could fucking slap her into next week

[MissMusic]

Ah, here we go. I was a little off on the signs but there they are:

[paddyb]

Mar 7, 2016 17:30:01 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Ah, here we go. I was a little off on the signs but there they are:

You have got to be kidding me. I mean I know you aren't...but how did she think this was a good idea?

[MissMusic]

Mar 7, 2016 17:47:31 GMT -5 paddyb said:

Mar 7, 2016 17:30:01 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Ah, here we go. I was a little off on the signs but there they are:

You have got to be kidding me. I mean I know you aren't...but how did she think this was a good idea?

...because it wasn't done as an April Fools Day joke, so that makes it ok?  I think?

I can't wrap my brain around this.  There's another photo but I'll spare you.
Edit: looks like she worked really hard on those signs, though!

[trixi282]

MissMusic , the fact that it wasn't done on April fools day makes it even more stupid. People can be really stupid sometimes.

ETA: I can't believe I used the word stupid in two short sentences.  There are no other words apparently....

[starfishy]

MissMusic - I'm just rolling my eyes.

[MissMusic]

Mar 7, 2016 18:14:40 GMT -5 trixi282 said:

MissMusic , the fact that it wasn't done on April fools day makes it even more stupid. People can be really stupid sometimes.

ETA: I can't believe I used the word stupid in two short sentences.  There are no other words apparently....

"Stupid" pretty much sums that whole thing up though, so you're on to something.

[vanessalc]

Mar 7, 2016 17:30:01 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Ah, here we go. I was a little off on the signs but there they are:

That's the kind of thing I'd expect from my fb feed- mostly vet med/ animal people.

[snickers4everyone]

Mar 7, 2016 17:30:01 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Ah, here we go. I was a little off on the signs but there they are:

I swear, even the dog is looking at her like, "this is such a bad idea."

[mommymadness]

When you said your sister in law made a fake pregnancy announcement I was thinking ok that's really bad but after you went into more detail and with the pictures, I don't think what she did was horrible. I mean she didn't really say she was pregnant at all. Lots of people think of pets as their babies. I guess that makes my opinion actually unpopular!! Lol

[aimeefarrahfowler]

Mar 4, 2016 19:10:25 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Oh I have another one:
We are staunchly atheist, but Lillian goes to a Methodist preschool. Recently she announced that we were going to say a prayer over dinner.

I was so surprised, a lot disappointed, and I did a shitty job of hiding it. I tried to brush it off, and made a clunky Pete the Cat analogy to explain why we don't pray.

...I basically compared Jesus with Pete the Cat.

I think atheists and believers alike would be offended by that. I need to get better at thinking on my feet in those situations.

(It's Thursday again so I'm resurrecting this thread)

I understand this. I am not religious/agnostic and A attends a Christian preschool. They don't require the kids to pray (and A usually just sits there), but lately he's been asking me to read to him from his kid bible and david and goliath story books someone gave him. I'm really considering hiding them because (1) a lot of the stories are awfully violent, and (2) I don't feel comfortable teaching him things I don't really believe in.

[MissMusic]

Mar 10, 2016 12:08:44 GMT -5 aimeefarrahfowler said:

Mar 4, 2016 19:10:25 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Oh I have another one:
We are staunchly atheist, but Lillian goes to a Methodist preschool. Recently she announced that we were going to say a prayer over dinner.

I was so surprised, a lot disappointed, and I did a shitty job of hiding it. I tried to brush it off, and made a clunky Pete the Cat analogy to explain why we don't pray.

...I basically compared Jesus with Pete the Cat.

I think atheists and believers alike would be offended by that. I need to get better at thinking on my feet in those situations.

(It's Thursday again so I'm resurrecting this thread)

I understand this. I am not religious/agnostic and A attends a Christian preschool. They don't require the kids to pray (and A usually just sits there), but lately he's been asking me to read to him from his kid bible and david and goliath story books someone gave him. I'm really considering hiding them because (1) a lot of the stories are awfully violent, and (2) I don't feel comfortable teaching him things I don't really believe in.

I totally hear you on this.  If you don't mind, let me give you my perspective.  If you DO mind, I understand and you can just skip my reply

I agree that the stories are violent.  Some of them are utterly ridiculous and some are downright scary.  I think that is a matter of judgment for you.

As for some of the stories, I'm ok with my kid knowing them. IMHO, so much of our culture has religious references, symbolism, etc that she needs to know where these things are rooted.  The difference is, we talk about the stories AS STORIES, and NOT AS FACT.

Art, music, casual references, icons--I couldn't imagine looking at the ceiling of the Sistine and thinking "wow thats pretty".  For me, it was a deeply moving experience made even more rich because I knew what I was looking at, even if I didn't believe in what the scene was showing me.  I can't listen to the first (or last) 16 measures of Brahm's Requiem without crying.

I don't want my kid thinking a Jewish guy was killed because she was a bad kid.  No way.  I'm ok with her hearing parables like The Widow's Offering, because the lesson is excellent AND there's no crazy stuff in there.

My kid is going going to see cartoony pictures of the animals going 2 by 2.  She's going to hear the word "Amen".  She's going to sing "This Little Light of Mine" at some point.  Maybe she'll get enthralled by the possibility of the walls of a city that come tumbling down magically.  I think its 10% the story and 90% how you spin it.  So if you really love your kid's school, just know that YOU are the bigger influence and YOU can help shape how she mentally processes what she's hearing.

[MissMusic]

Argh, sorry there's more aimeefarrahfowler:

I just wanted to say that after months and months of school, my kid's most burning question was "Did baby Jesus wear diapers"?

So fear not

[aimeefarrahfowler]

MissMusic thank you for your perspective. It sounds like you are an educated atheist. I am a lazy agnostic. I literally just do not care. I don't even know most of the stories, despite the hours I spent in church as a kid. I've never felt moved in a church service, and the bible has never been important enough to me to learn it, so I feel like I am not the right person to teach him those things.

H is the more religious of the two of us (not that he is particularly religious, but does identify himself as a christian) so he is in charge of any kind of religious education he thinks the boys should have.

Personally, I have a problem telling LO "these are just made up stories and jesus actually doesn't give two farts about what you do", just because that's how I feel. I think he should get to decide that for himself. So we'll send him to his christian preschool and he'll probably go to camp at church again this summer.

I guess I just need to find a way to tell him that some people believe in what he learns at school/church and some people don't and some people believe in other things all together, and whatever he wants to believe in is up to him.

[MissMusic]

Mar 10, 2016 13:09:06 GMT -5 aimeefarrahfowler said:

I am a lazy agnostic. I literally just do not care.

I guess I just need to find a way to tell him that some people believe in what he learns at school/church and some people don't and some people believe in other things all together, and whatever he wants to believe in is up to him.

Those first 2 sentences might be the best 2 sentences on religion that I have read in my ENTIRE life!  LMAO I love it!

The last paragraph seems to sum up what you've said.  How, when & why is all completely up to you and YH.  Everyone has an opinion on religion, and you just have to find what you guys are ok with and how to convey that to a kid.  Easier said than done--but its always a matter of personal choice!