Post by cwbandthenewbie on Feb 4, 2015 13:32:49 GMT -5
cwbandthenewbie give him some research to help reassure him. VBACs are safer than RCSs. It is a medical myth that they are dangerous and somehow repeat serious abdominal surgery is not. Risk of uterine rupture is ridiculously low. The book Silent Knife has good info, but you can find tons of stuff online to show him, or look through your local ICAN group.
I definitely will continue to educate him. I think it also comes down to how urgently I went into surgery last time, so he already knows the feeling of his wife being whisked away for a procedure within 15 minutes and him not knowing what's happening. Layer that on what happened to my best friend, and I think he's settling into "I just don't want any more scary surprises."
I don't know how it was for you ladies, but in every picture my midwife took during my c section and after while they were holding my son to my face, we were both crying. They were tears of stress and fear. I hate that I didn't feel that moment of joy. That I didn't cry tears of joy, that we couldn't smile. It was just stress and fear. And it took them what seemed like forever to get DS1s apgar score high enough so he would cry and they would let me see him. Geez, I'm tearing up just thinking about it.
But to be honest, H knows that if they give me the green light for a VBAC, that's what I'll be doing. He will support me, although I think he'll be more scared this time.
Thanks for all the kind words ladies. I'm glad I have people to talk to going through similar fears. I'm hoping we all get the birth we've been hoping for, but of course most of all, I hope for healthy moms and babes.