Don't apologize jt2378 , we've all been there. I'm sorry that you're struggling right now. I haven't done research like doglover31 , but agree that it can take a long time for some people to get back to "normal," whatever that is for you. Have you thought about talking to your OBGYN? There could be so many reasons so it might be worth having a talk with the doctor just to see if this is a normal thing that has come along or if there is something else to try.
Thanks, yes I went in for a check up about 9 months PP because it was still painful and she said having sex more would help that like doglover said but here I am 9 months later and the pain is gone but so is my sex drive.
Thanks, yes I went in for a check up about 9 months PP because it was still painful and she said having sex more would help that like doglover said but here I am 9 months later and the pain is gone but so is my sex drive.
It still hurts for me too! Did you get stitched up at all? My OBGYN said I was fine but my therapist said sometimes they can stitch you too tight after a tear. I think that's what happened to me.
Yes second degree tear. It doesn't hurt anymore though and has been better for awhile now. I just meant I still don't have any sex drive 9 months later
@adulruna, I knew what you meant, yes the poor guy is definitely struggling, lol....after I battle this round of sickness I really am going to try and make more of an effort
Post by judyblume14 on Mar 11, 2016 16:59:11 GMT -5
I hope I can catch up on this thread tonight... WHY AM I SO BUSY AT WORK. I meant to leave at 3:30 today for a pedi. It is not 5:00 and I'm ALMOST ready to head out.
I'm always amazed when you ladies say it's been months since you've had sex. If it's been 4-7 days, my H is freaking out. My libido hasn't been the same either, but it has improved since I had the Mirena removed. Now, I seem to only be interested during my fertile period and then I'm good for the rest of the month haha. In my eyes, sleep surpasses sex. I don't think guys see it that way...
This is my H too. He will start to get very pissy if we haven't had sex in awhile (a week or so to him). I don't have a big sex drive in general so we kind of have to compromise a bit. Sometimes I just go with it and sometimes I just shut him down, depends on my mood.
Post by judyblume14 on Mar 11, 2016 20:29:05 GMT -5
Not caught up but jt2378 - I'm right there with you on the crummy sex life. If I'm outside of my fertile window, I'm just not interested. If we're in the fertile window, it's forced. I'm just assuming it gets better when the stress goes away.
I need to get G some short sleeve shirts and shorts. No more cold weather here it seems.
I went shopping for spring/summer clothes for C this afternoon. This is the first time I've gotten to actually shop for my own kid, more than one or two outfits. Most of the clothes have some sort of sea creature, boats, or anchors on them. Oops...
Not caught up but jt2378 - I'm right there with you on the crummy sex life. If I'm outside of my fertile window, I'm just not interested. If we're in the fertile window, it's forced. I'm just assuming it gets better when the stress goes away.
love tit for commiseration. I'm sure I would be raring to go if we were TTC (well raring during fertile times) I guess the other stresses in my life right now could be contributing to it
I need to get G some short sleeve shirts and shorts. No more cold weather here it seems.
I went shopping for spring/summer clothes for C this afternoon. This is the first time I've gotten to actually shop for my own kid, more than one or two outfits. Most of the clothes have some sort of sea creature, boats, or anchors on them. Oops...
I just bought H a cute summer suit even though we have barely touched on spring yet here, I couldn't resist! I hardly ever get to shop for her either
Post by judyblume14 on Mar 11, 2016 20:53:41 GMT -5
I'll almost always choose sleep over sex. My poor H. Tough titty.
I had a pretty bad tear. Got stitched up too tight. Sex was painful for about 9? 10? months. I think my sex drive disappeared and just never resurfaced, even after the pain was gone.
I'll almost always choose sleep over sex. My poor H. Tough titty. I had a pretty bad tear. Got stitched up too tight. Sex was painful for about 9? 10? months. I think my sex drive disappeared and just never resurfaced, even after the pain was gone.
Post by designaddiction on Mar 11, 2016 21:26:28 GMT -5
Sometimes my drive is bigger than my H. If I don't initiate it won't happen. I'm trying to get over that and just keep initiating. I get angry that he doesn't want to try.
Post by spacedcadet on Mar 11, 2016 21:34:26 GMT -5
I like the outfit @adulruna. I don't think it is too girly. I like the colors. G's coming home outfit was footy pajamas. I couldn't be bothered to get an outfit for it. I think it will work just fine.
MH will be extra pissy about this because then it will be all " you only want to because you want another baby"
um yes basically
This was my H too so I had to be kind of "sneaky" about it. "What do you mean? I have no idea when I should be ovulating." Lol. I don't think he was fooled.
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