C-Section Ladies - How you healin?

[jennyinheaven]

Feb 6, 2015 2:28:20 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Feb 5, 2015 21:12:41 GMT -5 jennyinheaven said:

I'm sorry but labor was terrible, I labored for two days before finally being rushed to an emergency c, trust me it hurt you dodged a bullet in my book:)

I totally can see why you think that, but it really fucked with my mind not going through the labor process. I showed up at the hospital without feeling a twinge of anything and left with a baby. I know it might seem like a dodged bullet but I was sad about it for a long time. Still am a little bit.

I'm sorry your labor was so tough. 2 days sounds awful.

I understand the mind thing completely, I felt weird that after laboring two days next thing I know a mask was on my face, then DH was waking me up telling me I had the baby three hours before:/ I guess like others have said it is weird when it isn't what you plan or picture in your mind but I think I got over it when I bonded with DD.

[jerssey]

Feb 6, 2015 2:28:20 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Feb 5, 2015 21:12:41 GMT -5 jennyinheaven said:

I'm sorry but labor was terrible, I labored for two days before finally being rushed to an emergency c, trust me it hurt you dodged a bullet in my book:)

I totally can see why you think that, but it really fucked with my mind not going through the labor process. I showed up at the hospital without feeling a twinge of anything and left with a baby. I know it might seem like a dodged bullet but I was sad about it for a long time. Still am a little bit.

I'm sorry your labor was so tough. 2 days sounds awful.

Totally understand where you are coming from. I had two scheduled c sections because I was not supposed to go into labour but I feel like I missed out on that part of having my babies. I have no issues with my c sections at all but would have at least liked to have experienced the surprise of labour starting not on a pre planned day but when baby was ready. Even a fee painful contractions would have been nice. I do know what they feel like because I had a bad miscarriage and had a day of bad contractions with hemorrhaging but I wanted to feel like this time was for my take home baby.

[kat8805]

I can't answer half these cause I'm too fat bwahaha. Drastic weight loss seemed to remedy the "mother's apron" last time, hopefully the same will happen this go around. No pain, but I do get random angry pockets in my skin that make me uncomfortable. Could be mostly weight related, but they are typically along my scar. I feel fantastic otherwise, in relation to my CS.

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Feb 6, 2015 2:28:20 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Feb 5, 2015 21:12:41 GMT -5 jennyinheaven said:

I'm sorry but labor was terrible, I labored for two days before finally being rushed to an emergency c, trust me it hurt you dodged a bullet in my book:)

I totally can see why you think that, but it really fucked with my mind not going through the labor process. I showed up at the hospital without feeling a twinge of anything and left with a baby. I know it might seem like a dodged bullet but I was sad about it for a long time. Still am a little bit.

I'm sorry your labor was so tough. 2 days sounds awful.

Susan0utLoud - I totally understand what you are saying.  I was planning for a natural birth, and while I did labor naturally for awhile and pushed, I ended up with an emergency c-section and never got to feel DS enter the world.  That was difficult for me to process - I was actually a bit depressed about it.  One of the hardest parts was that no one understood why.  People kept saying "what is there to be sad about?  you and the baby are safe at home".

 I still get a bit sad as well and also plan on a VBAC, un-medicated again.  Luckily several hospitals in our neck of the woods are very supportive of that.

jennyinheaven - I am sorry you had a tough labor - two days is a lot to take.  

[SpinsOffResonance]

Feb 6, 2015 9:10:44 GMT -5 jerssey said:

Feb 6, 2015 2:28:20 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

I totally can see why you think that, but it really fucked with my mind not going through the labor process. I showed up at the hospital without feeling a twinge of anything and left with a baby. I know it might seem like a dodged bullet but I was sad about it for a long time. Still am a little bit.

I'm sorry your labor was so tough. 2 days sounds awful.

Totally understand where you are coming from. I had two scheduled c sections because I was not supposed to go into labour but I feel like I missed out on that part of having my babies. I have no issues with my c sections at all but would have at least liked to have experienced the surprise of labour starting not on a pre planned day but when baby was ready. Even a fee painful contractions would have been nice. I do know what they feel like because I had a bad miscarriage and had a day of bad contractions with hemorrhaging but I wanted to feel like this time was for my take home baby.

Exactly this. I feel like I missed out on childbirth because I have never experienced labor. At the same time, I'm glad I didn't.