I totally was shocked when I read that. Like that lady did you a favor letting you walk a little farther, to help prepare for that baby to come out! Lol
I also am curious of the context. Was OP proud of herself for this reaction? Or super embarrassed and shocked at what came out of her mouth? Are their FFFCs a day early?
Im also club 'everyone deserves respect regardless of age' but holy shit dude. I would give up my seat on the bus/ train for an older person if no one else did, because being pregnant also shouldn't afford me some magical unicorn status (except for maybe not having to smell other people's cigarette smoke, but that's a separate issue). I agree with whoever said she should get a handicap placard if she honestly can't walk that far just because pregnant. Or send other people on her errands if she feels like this is 'lol my hormones make me so bananas lol'. That's just a bit beyond rude and could have been ignored (my first choice) or addressed a zillion different ways (like, excuse me, but that parking is for expectant moms. Oh, you've a handicapped placard, sorry for disturbing you, have a nice day, I'll park over here)
Yup she was totally proud. The elderly person was acting like a witch but I don't think it was that big of a deal to call her a bitch for it at least not loud enough for her to hear.
sunset30 It's funny that you would mention your dad being a doctor and not having to wait, because MH is a doctor. It's probably the only reason why wait time is my main concern. I feel like I get all the necessary medical information from him. So I just want to be able to show up, get what I need, and go (since all the new regulations prohibit him from treating his own wife/children).
Yes, the doctor in the family definitely spoils you! I am the same, I generally just ask my dad most of my questions. When we were young, my dad just had us see doctors who he had good relationships with or other docs in his practice and out of courtesy to him always would see us with no wait time. Hopefully your husband has a few contacts through his hospital that can hook you up!
Hoping my UO doesn't come off as too snarky but I have personally not had experience feeling baby on specific internal body parts so when people IRL say things like, "baby was tap dancing on my bladder all day today" I find it a tad hard to believe because all I can feel is baby moving around in my stomach or pelvic area, I have no idea what internal organs he is or is not in contact with. Maybe I'm taking what they say too literally...
I also never really experienced getting kicked in the ribs...but I do believe women when they say they can feel this being that I think it would be obvious you were getting kicked in your ribs.
I get the kicks to the ribs a lot. It's actually to the point I can't lay on my right side at all because they are so sore from the kicks. Most of the time it just feels like a lot of pressure in my ribs but other times I can definitely feel the kick itself. I can't feel the other ones that people talk about though like bladder or cervix kicks but I'm grateful for that.
Post by zebraleg4lunch on Feb 5, 2015 20:08:58 GMT -5
I have a FB related UO. I'm tired of seeing the majority (I did think the book thing was interesting) of the vaccine posts on the FB group. We all seem to agree that vaccines are important; so to me it just feels like we're patting ourselves on the back.
I also am curious of the context. Was OP proud of herself for this reaction? Or super embarrassed and shocked at what came out of her mouth? Are their FFFCs a day early?
Im also club 'everyone deserves respect regardless of age' but holy shit dude. I would give up my seat on the bus/ train for an older person if no one else did, because being pregnant also shouldn't afford me some magical unicorn status (except for maybe not having to smell other people's cigarette smoke, but that's a separate issue). I agree with whoever said she should get a handicap placard if she honestly can't walk that far just because pregnant. Or send other people on her errands if she feels like this is 'lol my hormones make me so bananas lol'. That's just a bit beyond rude and could have been ignored (my first choice) or addressed a zillion different ways (like, excuse me, but that parking is for expectant moms. Oh, you've a handicapped placard, sorry for disturbing you, have a nice day, I'll park over here)
Yup she was totally proud. The elderly person was acting like a witch but I don't think it was that big of a deal to call her a bitch for it at least not loud enough for her to hear.
Wow. Was she flamed?!
i have a foul mouth and a quick temper, and have previously behaved poorly in public because of my hotheadedness, but NO way would I be proud of myself for that. Usually I speak first and think later, but that's been super embarrassing for me on more than one occasion, and I am too old for those shenanigans now- and further, I'm really working on improving that aspect of myself.
Maybe this was an isolated thing for this mom. If not, the flaming I assume she received may help her get some perspective.
I have a FB related UO. I'm tired of seeing the majority (I did think the book thing was interesting) of the vaccine posts on the FB group. We all seem to agree that vaccines are important; so to me it just feels like we're patting ourselves on the back.
I agree with you on this. It's been established we're pro-vax, people are being stupid right now due to the measles outbreak, we get it.
I agree that everyone deserves respect and that elderly people shouldn't just get a free pass. But on the other hand my gmom was pretty bsc at the end and I got pissed off when nurses gave her attitude.
I agree that everyone deserves respect and that elderly people shouldn't just get a free pass. But on the other hand my gmom was pretty bsc at the end and I got pissed off when nurses gave her attitude.
That's fair.
As a nurse I recognized that I didn't have...a....gift.... for old people. So I left & went to a floor where all my patients were newborns or new moms. There was still some bsc, but I can deal with young bsc people much better than old.
I love him, too! I haven't told DH of my unrequited love because it would be unpopular with him, too
My UO: I don't like electronic readers like Kindle or Amazon Fire. I want to hold my books and smell that new book smell
+1 for real books. I don't know if I'll ever convert...
I thought I'd hate an ereader because I love the smell of my books and there really is nothing like holding them in your hands. But when you wanna read and your feeding a baby (bottle feeding anyway) and you only have one hand available, ereaders are the shit.
IA with the above posts re: vaccine posts on FB. Right now I'm still kind of lost with where to post what, who's on what board, and especially unsure of how to handle the FB group. In my personal FB I almost never post anything, so I am very hesitant to make my own threads there. I think the group will be more fun and useful as people have their babies, when it's full of cute baby pictures & we can all share advice/experience on raising them.
+1 for real books. I don't know if I'll ever convert...
I thought I'd hate an ereader because I love the smell of my books and there really is nothing like holding them in your hands. But when you wanna read and your feeding a baby (bottle feeding anyway) and you only have one hand available, ereaders are the shit.
And for one more (possibly) UO: I will probably never get tired of Bruno Mars. I love him. My husband finds this incredibly unpopular.
DS is in love with Bruno Mars music, and Queen. I consider it a parenting win on my part.
Such good choices! We love Queen and Queen with Adam Lambert!
I was in the car with younger DD yesterday and she heard Bad to the Bone (George Thorogood) for the first time. She started singing along and cheering! I love my kid!
IA with the ladies recycling their boy clothes for their little girls. I've got a few blue-themed aiden & anais sleeps sacks -- you bet your sweet ass I'm reusing those things! They're like $40 apiece!
AFM, I found out today that apparently not everyone was so easy-going with getting a babysitter/doing a night away... I'm not sure if it was b/c my husband was deployed for 7+ months when ds was 4 mo. and family was an $800 flight away, but I was giddy walking down to the car when the babysitter got there.... And our first night away was sneaking off to a b&b 40 minutes away from my parents house (they watched DS) for a night of wine tasting, jacuzzi, and expensive lingerie, after not seeing DH for those long months. Yeah - I was giddy then, too. Apparently, though, some moms go like a year before they ever leave their kid -- even with the other parent. This was totally news to me.
goofygoff it plays before movies when we go on post here. I'm pretty sure that's a regulation though.
jrp I'm with you there. I will have to leave LO with other people sooner rather than later... So a babysitter/night out sounds pretty magical at this juncture. I know you never get the time back- but that goes both ways. DH is gone a lot- I never get missed opportunities at time with him back.
After getting a Kindle (7 years ago!) I can't go back to real books, unless it's a cook book. Finding English books abroad is difficult and they're so expensive, Kindle makes it so easy.
My UO is I refuse to make "freezer meals", the idea of it grosses me out. We have a machine that essentially does everything (unless its something like a lasagne and needs to go in the oven) and we're going to hope that it gets us through the part right after baby.
IA with the ladies recycling their boy clothes for their little girls. I've got a few blue-themed aiden & anais sleeps sacks -- you bet your sweet ass I'm reusing those things! They're like $40 apiece!
AFM, I found out today that apparently not everyone was so easy-going with getting a babysitter/doing a night away... I'm not sure if it was b/c my husband was deployed for 7+ months when ds was 4 mo. and family was an $800 flight away, but I was giddy walking down to the car when the babysitter got there.... And our first night away was sneaking off to a b&b 40 minutes away from my parents house (they watched DS) for a night of wine tasting, jacuzzi, and expensive lingerie, after not seeing DH for those long months. Yeah - I was giddy then, too. Apparently, though, some moms go like a year before they ever leave their kid -- even with the other parent. This was totally news to me.
Ooh, this reminds me. I hate when moms refer to their husbands as "babysitting" their kid. Um, no. He is parenting the child y'all had together. It's a shared responsibility.
After getting a Kindle (7 years ago!) I can't go back to real books, unless it's a cook book. Finding English books abroad is difficult and they're so expensive, Kindle makes it so easy.
My UO is I refuse to make "freezer meals", the idea of it grosses me out. We have a machine that essentially does everything (unless its something like a lasagne and needs to go in the oven) and we're going to hope that it gets us through the part right after baby.
What is this machine? It makes food? I feel like this is something out of The Jetsons
I had my ears pierced at 13. My mom took me to Walmart which was the first mistake. The woman screwed up and they were lopsided. I had them fixed around 17.
I have not read 50 shades nor do I intend to or see the movie. I watched parts of magic Mike but it was horrible.
IA with the ladies recycling their boy clothes for their little girls. I've got a few blue-themed aiden & anais sleeps sacks -- you bet your sweet ass I'm reusing those things! They're like $40 apiece!
AFM, I found out today that apparently not everyone was so easy-going with getting a babysitter/doing a night away... I'm not sure if it was b/c my husband was deployed for 7+ months when ds was 4 mo. and family was an $800 flight away, but I was giddy walking down to the car when the babysitter got there.... And our first night away was sneaking off to a b&b 40 minutes away from my parents house (they watched DS) for a night of wine tasting, jacuzzi, and expensive lingerie, after not seeing DH for those long months. Yeah - I was giddy then, too. Apparently, though, some moms go like a year before they ever leave their kid -- even with the other parent. This was totally news to me.
Ooh, this reminds me. I hate when moms refer to their husbands as "babysitting" their kid. Um, no. He is parenting the child y'all had together. It's a shared responsibility.
I actually squealed out loud reading this. It pisses me off so much. Anytime someone opts to watch my kid so I can go do something, it will probably involve me skipping to my vehicle. If that someone is my husband, it will just be him doing his damn job as a parent.
One of his cousins says this all of the time, but she's also the one that clogs his FB feed with at least 2 pictures and 1 video of her child every day. EVERY DAY. Why!?
+1 for dads don't babysit, they dad. It annoys me to pieces as a SAHM when people ask me where DD is and I say, she's home with her dad, and they make comments about him being mr. Mom, accidentally catching the kitchen on fire, or being a babysitter. Nope, he's her dad, he is just doing what he should as a parent, and he's completely competent and capable of caring for her, cooking meals, doing laundry... He's a grown man FFS.
Oh, ladies -- that is one of my very biggest pet peeves. No. He's an adult. We had sex. Now there are (happily) consequences. Even things like "daddy duty" - ffs is right.
That controversial time mag issue with the cover shot of the woman breastfeeding a 4-yr old came out right around when I had DS. I remember being so pissed because they kept referring to moms "parenting," but as soon as they started talking about dads, they said "fathering." Huh. Apparently having a penis means you're not a real parent...?
The thing that pisses me off, I think, is that it not only paints women into the corner of "the only one who knows how to take care of the baby," thereby applying social pressure to stay at home with the baby, it also discounts the real work of parenting that dads do and are capable of. /end rant (hopefully...)
Re: piercing baby's ears. I reserve no judgment for others who decide to do this but we've decided not to pierce DD's ears until she's old enough to want/ask/care for them. It just didn't feel right to me to make a cosmetic decision based on what I like- it's her body and if she wants to pierce her ears, cool. If not, cool.
I just want it to be her choice and not ours.
I'm not having a girl yet, but if I ever do this is my plan 100%
IA with the ladies recycling their boy clothes for their little girls. I've got a few blue-themed aiden & anais sleeps sacks -- you bet your sweet ass I'm reusing those things! They're like $40 apiece!
AFM, I found out today that apparently not everyone was so easy-going with getting a babysitter/doing a night away... I'm not sure if it was b/c my husband was deployed for 7+ months when ds was 4 mo. and family was an $800 flight away, but I was giddy walking down to the car when the babysitter got there.... And our first night away was sneaking off to a b&b 40 minutes away from my parents house (they watched DS) for a night of wine tasting, jacuzzi, and expensive lingerie, after not seeing DH for those long months. Yeah - I was giddy then, too. Apparently, though, some moms go like a year before they ever leave their kid -- even with the other parent. This was totally news to me.
Ooh, this reminds me. I hate when moms refer to their husbands as "babysitting" their kid. Um, no. He is parenting the child y'all had together. It's a shared responsibility.
My DH actually said those words when we were talking about a bachelorette trip I have coming up in July. I was very very quick to correct him, this is as much YOUR baby as it is MINE. You are NOT babysitting it (team green) you are taking care of your child.
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