Declined to go to a baby shower today. Best decision I could have made.
I am going to a baby shower today. I really need to get up and get ready.
I hope I do not regret this decision. I was feeling really ok about it until DH said yesterday he doesn't really want to go. Which is just devastating to me seeing him hurting over this BTW it's a coed shower. With really good friends of ours.
But with the recent loss, and the fact that our CP would have been due in July which is when this baby is due... I don't know if I am just torturing myself unnecessarily. We have already both agreed that the second either of us gets uncomfortable we are out of there.
Post by housecarder on May 1, 2016 11:38:01 GMT -5
nuggetrn hugs lady! Maybe with it being coed it won't be so baby heavy. The coed ones I've been to are more relaxed cookout type parties rather than silly games and baby themed everything. Don't feel bad if you have to leave though.
nuggetrn hugs lady! Maybe with it being coed it won't be so baby heavy. The coed ones I've been to are more relaxed cookout type parties rather than silly games and baby themed everything. Don't feel bad if you have to leave though.
I hope this is the case. I am just glad DH and I are on the same page as each other as far as leaving early goes.
So yesterday it rained all day long in Indy. We were stuck in the hotel room most of the day. Today, it's gorgeous. And we're leaving. Of course.
Boo! What were you in Indy for? The weather was awful yesterday.
We took DD to the children's museum on Friday. We stayed the whole weekend to just walk around and explore. Yesterday was a bust. It did let up enough for us to walk to dinner. Comic con was at the convention center so we saw some interesting characters.
Boo! What were you in Indy for? The weather was awful yesterday.
We took DD to the children's museum on Friday. We stayed the whole weekend to just walk around and explore. Yesterday was a bust. It did let up enough for us to walk to dinner. Comic con was at the convention center so we saw some interesting characters.
We had two parties yesterday so I had to drag the kids out for those in the crap rain. I skipped comic con this year but I heard it's been pretty good.
FF has a huge banner across it reminding me my VIP membership is up in 2 days. Fuck you FF, that just means I started temping a year ago to help time our IUIs, and we're still not pregnant.
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
Declined to go to a baby shower today. Best decision I could have made.
I am going to a baby shower today. I really need to get up and get ready.
I hope I do not regret this decision. I was feeling really ok about it until DH said yesterday he doesn't really want to go. Which is just devastating to me seeing him hurting over this BTW it's a coed shower. With really go friends of ours.
But with the recent loss, and the fact that our CP would have been due in July which is when this baby is due... I don't know if I am just torturing myself unnecessarily. We have already both agreed that the second either of us gets uncomfortable we are out of there.
I'm the one who pays our bills. That's fine. But I wish he'd get off his damn high horse and stop pretending that he is providing everything. He's older than me and was raised with the mentality that the man should provide and make decisions. I don't mind providing. But if he expects me to act like some little 1950s stay-at-home housewife, he better get a god dammed job that pays enough so that I can do that. I should not be running the entire household/chores/errands AND doing my job to pay all the bills.
Fucker, watch me turn off the cable and Internet JUST before football season.
It's not just that I'm furious with him becoming some chauvinistic ass (though I am furious). I'm also really disappointed in myself for letting it get to this point.
Fuck I want some wine but there's none in my apartment and it just started pouring.
Sounds like you guys need to really sit down and hash out the expectations. When H and I first got together I was working and we decided that I would stop working and go to school full time. So I took care of most of the household stuff, the kids, and school work. When I started working after graduation those habits stayed and I had to have a sit down convo about how me working 60+ hours a week meant he needed to pick up the slack around the house.
I don't feel like certain things should ever be just one person's responsibility and that chores should be pretty fluid. I love to cook, so I do the kitchen related chores, unless I'm feeling like crap and H does that for the night. Same thing with "his chores", if I've got time I try to help with things that need done.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on May 1, 2016 12:59:43 GMT -5
No idea how it's already May. DH and I are having a lazyish day.
We made breakfast, watched Netflix, showered, took a nap, and had sex. I feel like the rest of the day is going to be a continuation of those activities with some meal prep thrown in.
I'm so tired I feel like I could sleep forever. I've been really stressed with work, so the first good night's sleep I've had in 3 weeks was on Friday night. And after I injured my ankle, I slept less than 30 mins. A night. (That's why my temps got all messed up for about 5 days.)
I just want to do all the napping, snacking, and sexing I can. I've earned it.
jennykat That sucks, I'm sorry. I agree with housecarder, when you both cool down it sounds like a conversation needs to happen. I kind of lost it on H a while ago when I got frustrated with how much I do around the house. We both work 40+ hours a week and yet somehow I am the only one taking care of laundry, cooking, doing dishes, etc. It's gotten better since I brought it up. Laundry still remains to be my task, but I've chilled out when I realized that 80% of the laundry is mine (how does this happen!?).
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