Post by manybellsdown on May 3, 2016 11:34:42 GMT -5
babyzebra, I've also been the only person DD hits. It's so hard! Big internet hugs. Our phase did pass, mostly, but I definitely had to employ leaving her alone in a safe space for a few minutes at times, like Flair said. When it was a communication issue, I found it really really helpful to tell her that I understood she was having trouble communicating (or whatever the problem is, IF you can figure it out), and I know it's frustrating for her. I literally used those words, "I know you're frustrated," or "I understand x must be so frustrating," in the most understanding tone I could muster. She responded well to physical comfort when talking to her, too, which wasn't always natural, especially after hitting. Often I'd ask if she wanted a hug and she'd yell no, but then she'd ask for one herself a few minutes later. Then I'd explain, when calmer (both of us), about how hitting hurts and is not the answer to frustration, etc.
I might be rambling, but I think helping them voice their problems when they don't yet have the vocabulary REALLY helps. Now she actually tells me, "I'm so frustrated!" and we work on whatever it is. It's so adorable at times.
I did not sleep well last night. DD would not go to sleep. She finally crashed at like 11 after a number of different melt downs and tears and in our bed. MH was on the couch watching TV still and I moved her at like midnight. She was back in my bed by 3 but MH fell asleep on the couch so I just tossed her in my bed. I thought it was smart, but then I was getting kicked all night by her and inside baby! They are already teaming up on me. My patience is at a negative 1 today and I'm just trying not to talk to anyone because I'm having an extremely hard time keeping my opinions to myself.
babyzebra - I feel your pain on the meltdowns. I keep telling myself that she's just being 2 and this happens and I'm also assuming she's starting to sense that baby sister is coming soon. I'm trying so hard to keep my cool because I have yelled at her and it has no affect and only fuels the fire. I'm the only one she hits though she did hit her dad last night for the first time in forever. This too shall pass right?! right?! The timing is just horrendous.
Post by Flair Underwood on May 3, 2016 12:11:30 GMT -5
babyzebra - I'll add that the only time DD showed remorse for hitting me was when DH stepped in and corrected her on it. Perhaps bringing in another voice of discipline might help too?! Good luck!!
shoogars which spectra did you get? Do you have any experience with it? I have heard amazing things about spectra pumps and the LC at a local place only recommends them now. So based on that I ordered one. I got the s2 and I was surprised at how light it is.
I am confused on the attachments though. It seems like it would only work with the bottles provided (which I know is not true) I just have no idea how a bag or other bottle would attach to it so I have to research that.
I slept decent last night for once.
It's teacher appreciation week and my bosses have done breakfast for us the past 2 days. Yesterday was dunkin donuts and today they actually cooked us pancakes and sausage. I know on Friday they are getting us lunch. Not sure what tomorrow or Thursday will be. I'm happy to be pregnant and enjoy all this junk food cause typically I would not eat any of it.
2dogs2kids I got the S2 as well. We have a local breastfeeding shop here and they gave it amazing reviews and even sell parts for it. I've heard there is a way to use Medela stuff with it, but haven't really researched it. I'm excited for it, I never really liked either of my Medela's and I'm hoping I find more success with the Spectra.
2dogs2kids I got the S2 as well. We have a local breastfeeding shop here and they gave it amazing reviews and even sell parts for it. I've heard there is a way to use Medela stuff with it, but haven't really researched it. I'm excited for it, I never really liked either of my Medela's and I'm hoping I find more success with the Spectra.
That's awesome that they sell parts for it. I'm surprised the local place I go to doesn't sell parts since they push it so hard. Oh well I plan on ordering parts to have on hand because parts availability was the only negative thing I've ever heard or read about the spectra.
I'm really hoping for more success as well I had the Ameda purely yours last time and it was awful. I liked the medal symphony (the hospital grade one) but it was expensive to rent and it was huge and heavy. Everyone compares the s2 to the symphony so hopefully it's even better!
Thanks everyone for your kind words and commiseration. I really do appreciate it a lot. I cried again about DS's behavior when I talked to DH on the phone this morning (he works nights so he wasn't there during DS's meltdowns).
Flair Underwood he hasn't had any major changes in his life that I can think of, but he's definitely in a developmental leap. I agree that I need to just walk away more. Me getting worked up has a negative effect on the situation. DH does correct him when he hits me when he's there (and he tends to do it much less when DH is there). I need to get him recorded or muster up all my dad vibes or something.
soultrane I do think that he's kind of frustrated with my current physical state. We definitely do have DH do as much of the physical play as possible.
manybellsdown I definitely will work on helping him voice his problems and I'll try to do it before he reaches a level 10 tantrum. All his vocab skills tend to go out the window at that point!
Post by woodengirl07 on May 3, 2016 13:31:59 GMT -5
Went in for an OB appointment this morning. My blood pressure was really high. I take it at home daily and my OB was not too worried since they are normal at home, but wants me to go get blood work done just in case it is the start of an issue so we can nip it in the bud.
I do not want my baby to come early, of course, but I have two weeks left and just want her out of me, since between PgAL, cholestasis, and now perhaps Pre-e, my body is seriously turning on me.
And my MIL can't understand why we're thinking one and done. Ha ha.
Post by broadwaymama on May 3, 2016 13:54:49 GMT -5
Little to no sleep here! Moved out to the sofa to get away from DHs snoring and both kids climbing in bed with us. I'm at the point right now where I'm extremely irritable and I don't want to be poked and kneed while I try and sleep by my outside children as well. I am also not used to night at this house yet so every noise wakes me. I'm drowning my sleepiness in leftover birthday cake from my FIL!
I only had to get up to pee once last night, which is practically a miracle at this point. Today I'm nearly nodding off at my desk, though. So I guess I'm just exhausted no matter what. Yay for teacher appreciation week! The principal brought us pastries for breakfast yesterday. Today the PTO came by and gave me a basil plant. Tomorrow is lunch from parents, Thursday is PTO provided breakfast, and Friday I think we have some sort of raffle. It is such a nice pick-me-up this time of year.
I had my weekly appointment, NST and a growth scan today. My placenta is apparently showing signs of aging/calcification. Coffee bean is estimated to be about 5lbs 1 oz, so he is about a week behind in growth. My AFI was around 15, so the doctor is not concerned at this point. He passed his NST with flying colors. My BP and protein levels are stable.
We go back for another growth scan at 37 weeks, and continue with weekly appointments (only 3 left!!!) until my scheduled c-section at 39 weeks.
I am trying not to google, and trust my doctor. We did get to see that he has a full head of hair and got to see him sticking his tongue out at us. The cutest.
eta: I am having my csection at 39 weeks, not in 39 hours
Sometimes I take a mommy time out instead and just walk away from DS. I've told him that when he hits me it hurts, and I don't want to be around people who hurt me and then I leave. He usually shaped up pretty quickly after that. DS is very physical, so I wasn't the only one he hit, so he was getting consistent messages from us and daycare.
Last night, he was having a hard time listening at the grocery store and I had reached the end of my rope. When we got to the car, I buckled him in, and sat and played on my phone for a minute. He asked why we weren't going and I said, "Mommy's taking a break". He asked why I needed a break and I asked if he remembered how sometimes when you're frustrated you just need to take a break so you feel better. He then asked why I was frustrated and I said because he wasn't being a good listener in the store. He stopped, thought about it, and a minute later said super sweetly and sincerely, "I'm sorry mommy. I'll be a better listener".
I think mommy breaks scare him because he was really good the rest of the night!
Post by frecklesnbrains on May 3, 2016 17:39:27 GMT -5
Andrea, it sounds like you're in good hands. As long as baby is growing (even if a little small) and passing the NST and your numbers look stable then you're in good shape. You're smart to avoid google!
Andrea, it sounds like you're in good hands. As long as baby is growing (even if a little small) and passing the NST and your numbers look stable then you're in good shape. You're smart to avoid google!
Yeah, I just read another article about it. The negative tweets that she got from people who clearly don't understand that her request was a joke were hilarious. She seems to have a good attitude about everything and that's awesome that Honda is helping her out! This situation is kind of my worst fear though!
Yeah, I just read another article about it. The negative tweets that she got from people who clearly don't understand that her request was a joke were hilarious. She seems to have a good attitude about everything and that's awesome that Honda is helping her out! This situation is kind of my worst fear though!
Andrea I'm glad that LO passed his NST with flying colors and that your BP and protein levels were stable! I agree that trusting your doctor and staying off google is the way to go.
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