So an IRL friend complained via FB about her January 14 daughter having her first tantrum. Is that normal? She's almost 2.5!! I feel like my DD has been dramatically throwing herself to the ground since she could stand up. WTF?
I don't think T has had a tantrum, tantrum. She cries and she might go to slap, stomp or drop to the ground - it's very short. But, she doesn't throw herself down, kicking and screaming - that's what I think of when I think of a tantrum.
Post by younglove316 on May 7, 2016 11:59:34 GMT -5
We have had a few so far, she doesn't really throw herself down but tries to scream as loud as she can to be heard.
In fact today was probably one of the worst. I told her it was time to leave little gym and she wasn't having it. Screaming as loud as she could and smacking me.
We have only had 2 real tantrums. I use timeouts very consistently and am always correcting her. I have also been teaching her self control since she was 7 months old. I think that has helped a lot too.
She has always been very verbal so she has always been able to communicate with me without getting too frustrated. That makes a difference too.
Tantrum: Throwing oneself to the ground from standing whilst screaming incoherently about an imagined offense and staying down and continuing to yell for at least 60 seconds.
Tantrum: Throwing oneself to the ground from standing whilst screaming incoherently about an imagined offense and staying down and continuing to yell for at least 60 seconds.
DD doesn't do this. She will scream in protest and then if she doesn't stop I sit her down and tell her to fold her hands in her lap and when she gains some self control she can get up. It works for us. I highly recommend teaching your toddler to fold their hands in their lap. It works amazingly for us. I started teaching this at 12 months.
I will say my oldest was vastly different. I couldn't take him in public bc of the explosive tantrums he had. Being a btdt mom with a 12 year gap bt the first and second child I have learned what I need to do differently. Bc hell no to having more than one child like that!
Tantrum: Throwing oneself to the ground from standing whilst screaming incoherently about an imagined offense and staying down and continuing to yell for at least 60 seconds.
DD doesn't do this. She will scream in protest and then if she doesn't stop I sit her down and tell her to fold her hands in her lap and when she gains some self control she can get up. It works for us. I highly recommend teaching your toddler to fold their hands in their lap. It works amazingly for us. I started teaching this at 12 months.
If I try to touch her at all she screams harder and squirms like a demon to get away
DD doesn't do this. She will scream in protest and then if she doesn't stop I sit her down and tell her to fold her hands in her lap and when she gains some self control she can get up. It works for us. I highly recommend teaching your toddler to fold their hands in their lap. It works amazingly for us. I started teaching this at 12 months.
If I try to touch her at all she screams harder and squirms like a demon to get away
When she isn't throwing a tantrum start teaching her to fold her hands in her lap. All the teaching parts need to happen when they are calm. Then once they gets used to it you can start using it during times of discipline.
Post by angelsnight on May 8, 2016 22:11:03 GMT -5
E has some wicked tantrums. They don't last long and they're not "laying on the floor kicking and screaming", but she screams, she'll lean over and bonk her head on the floor (sometimes much too hard and then have a tantrum over that) she likes to pull her hair, or she'll start knocking stuff off the table.
It seems like especially in the last month or so she just falls to pieces if something goes wrong. Almost every morning she freaks out when her cereal bar breaks in two and she yells uh oh broken and then she crumbles. I'm really hoping this is a phase and just being a toddler. I really want her to learn that she doesn't have to fall apart over every little thing.
I'm going to try the hand folding thing that @babylentilbean mentioned. She does just ok in time out. I try to get her to sit quietly and calmly for 30 seconds before she can get up, but sometimes it takes 5-10 minutes to get there.
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