~PgAL / PAIF Check in 5/9~

[birch113]

Welcome! This is a weekly check in for those of us who are pregnant after loss and/or infertility. This check in is a safe place to share all things that come with being PgAL and/or PAIF, and to give support to others.
I compiled the information shared last week to create a snapshot of our histories. I thought this might help as we all get to know each other better. If there is anything in your history that is inaccurate or you would like edited, please tag or PM me. I also ordered the tags by EDD, because I’m Type A. If your due date changes, just let me know!

***Loss warnings are not necessary here.***

PAIF Mantras
www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/57254/welcome-paif-read-before-posting

PgAL Mantras
www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/1034/pgal-mantras

~~~If You’re Just Joining in This Week~~~

What is your loss and/or IF history?


What is your EDD?

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How far along are you?

How are you doing physically? Emotionally?

Any appointments or milestones this week?

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans??

mrswillie PgAL / PAIF: 2 M/C, Clomid + TI, DS1 born/2 IUI's = 1 M/C and 1 ectopic, IVF#1 = freeze all, FET#1 = DS2 born/FET#2 / EDD: 12/3/16
trufflefries PgAL / PAIF: TTC for 2 years / Dx: PCOS / Tx: Metformin / Healthy pregnancy, DD born 11/13 / MMC 10/15 @10w5d / EDD: 12/4/16
requiressnacks PgAL / PAIF: TTC since October 2014 / Dx: Unexplained IF / IUI ended in MMC @ 8 weeks / 3rd IUI EDD: 12/5/16
babycowbell PAIF: First BFP on cycle 33 with IVF w/ ICSI / Dx: Unexplained IF, now assumed egg quality issues / EDD: 12/5/16
@becca PAIF: TTC since June 2014 / Dx: Unexplained IF / IUI #3 / EDD 12/6/16
mommytoava PgAL: Daughter passed away suddenly about 20 months ago in her sleep at age 3 ½ / EDD 12/6/16
@usernameedit PgAL: CP March 2016 / EDD: 12/12/16
hmr11913 PgAL: MMC @ 10 weeks / Dx Low Progesterone / Rainbow born 6/15 / EDD 12/13/16
littlelion PgAL: MC #1 @ 9wks 12/12 / #2 @ 6wks 12/13 / #3 @ 9wks 3/14 / #4 @ 9wks 9/15 / #5 ectopic @6wks 11/15 / Rainbow baby #1 12/1/14 / EDD: 12/15/16
lastnamewithheld PAIF: TTC since 2012 / H has MFI and I have PCOS / IVF EDD: 12/17/16
graychloham PgAL: TTC since August 2014 / MC @ 12 weeks in 2015 / EDD 12/17/16
legalbeagle PgAL: MMC @ 8 weeks in December / One DS who is 3.5 / EDD: 12/23/16
crimpgirl PgAL: MMC @ 8 weeks in September 2014 / CP February 2016 / EDD 12/23/16
bootsorhearts PgAL / PAIF: Loss of Harrison Gray at 18 weeks, unknown causes / CP after first IVF transfer / Dx: DOR and perimenopause / DS age 2.5 / EDD 12/24/16
@winenchocolate PgAL: MC Feb 2014 / Feb 2016 / EDD: 12/25/16
sdgal PAIF: TTC since November 2014 / Dx: Unexplained IF / Clomid + IUI # 3 / EDD 12/25/16
@cahistoryteacher PgAL / PAIF: TTC for 2+ years / 6 IUIs / MC @ 7 weeks / EDD: 12/25/16@williefocker PAIF: TTC for 31 months / Dx: Unexplained IF / EDD: 12/26/16
birch113 PgAL: MC @ 7 weeks 2/14 / Rainbow 12/14 / MC @ 13 weeks 11/15 / EDD: 12/27/16
Sunny75 PAIF: TTC for 15 months / Dx: Unicornuate Uterus / Two failed IUIs / Hysteroscopy to remove a cyst / BFP on first natural cycle after that! / EDD: 12/28/16

~Remember anniebn and winewinebustarhyme. Missing you and your sweet angels.~

[birch113]

How far along are you? 6w6d by my apps, 7w by my RE. Not sure what the deal is?!

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically, MS has ramped up and I've thrown up twice. It makes me feel hopeful. I'm still tired, have sore boobs, and am a wee bit emotional. I've been trying REALLY hard to remain positive after last week's crappy scan. Now that the day is here, I'm losing my cool. I just pray we see a LO measuring on track with a nice strong heartbeat.

Any appointments or milestones this week? Ultrasound this afternoon.

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans?? Crazy amazing news: my MIL received a lung transplant on Friday!! She's been very ill for sometime, and this was such an amazing gift. H has been at the hospital a lot, but I got nice cards from him and DS, and pretty flowers. DS and I had a great day, and I totally napped when he napped. It was glorious! As far as spilling the beans goes, we didn't make any announcements. Only my BFF and another really good friend know IRL.

[birch113]

W I am so glad you're enjoying your special announcement! Your first Mother's Day gift made me tear up.

ETA: happy u/s day!!

Re: MIL it was crazy! DH got a call Thursday at 1am Thursday morning and he and his brother got her and booked into the city to the hospital. It was about 25 hours before they were able to do the donor surgery for the lung and another four before all of the tests were completed in the long viable for transplant. Surgery went well. She's in a ton of pain, obviously, but she's on the right track for healing.

[lastnamewithheld]

How far along are you?: 8w2d (!!!)

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Still pretty good. Nothing new to report! This is finally starting to feel real.

Any appointments or milestones this week? I have my first appointment with an OB on Wednesday! (at 3:15pm) ... I hope I can see the HB again

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans?? It was great. I did spill the beans and made it FB official. So many likes. I never knew so many people were paying attention, lol. Anywhoo, H gave me this bib that his mom bought for us a couple years ago (She passed away in 2014) ... so that was sweet. I'm surprised he's kept that from me for so long! I gave my mom a copy of the most recent ultrasound photo and she put it right on her fridge.

birch113 I'm crossing EVERYTHING that you're u/s is wonderful this afternoon! I'm sorry that your MS has ramped up, but I'm glad you're feeling hopeful! Also, that's awesome news about your MIL! Just wonderful!
W, I hope your u/s goes well today, too! What a sweet gift from your H

[birch113]

lastnamewithheld such a sweet story about your H giving you the bib! Thanks for your good thoughts!!!

[lastnamewithheld]

At the beginning of my IVF cycle, I posted a picture of the boxes of meds and syringes with the caption: "please let this work!!"

So, yesterday, I posted this picture (below) with "it worked!!" Simple and to the point. And H didn't like my long drawn out sentimental ones. Dumb H. (Kidding)

[birch113]

@lastnanewithheld what a beautiful announcement!

[requiressnacks]

birch113, I hope your MIL is doing well!!
W, your ultrasound is so late today! HOpe your day flies by.
lastnamewithheld, love your announcement!


How far along are you? 10 weeks today! Holy shit!

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically, just tired and on/off nausea. I ate a little too much at lunch yesterday and I was miserable on the couch all night. My tummy is so weird right now. Emotionally - Feeling good, remaining positive.

Any appointments or milestones this week? None until 5/25

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans??

mother's day was good - I spent it with my mom, sisters, nieces & nephews. My mom and sisters already know my news and I'm waiting until after my 12 weeks scan to tell others. My MIL got me a card for "mom to be" but otherwise, I didn't celebrate Mother's Day myself.

[legalbeagle]

birch113, thanks for starting the check-in! All the good thoughts for your appointment this afternoon. Glad you didn't have to wait two weeks!

W, so glad you shared the good news! Your DH's gift is so thoughtful.

lastnamewithheld, LOVE.

requiressnacks, my stomach is so weird too. I'm nauseated and eating helps, but I can't eat too much. Also still the opposite of constipated and maybe I should be happy for that.

How far along are you? 7 weeks 3 days

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically so nauseated. Lower back hurts and just so tired. Boobs so sore and heavy. Emotionally okay at times and then a total wreck thinking about my appointment on Friday.

Any appointments or milestones this week? First US on Friday at 10:15am! Please send all your good vibes my way then!

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans?? I posted a bit about this already but Mother's Day was great. My DH worked really hard to make it a nice day. The best part (honestly) was checking my mail and realizing a friend of mine (not a super close friend but a good friend) who knew about the miscarriage sent me a Mother's Day card. It was just so so thoughtful. I haven't told her about this pregnancy yet, but I'm excited to after Friday. I have told a couple friends already (but not family) and they've been really excited and supportive.

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birch113 , congrats to your MIL, I hope everything goes well with the transplant.


How far along are you? 7weeks today.

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Physically, meh. I'm tired and a little nauseated  holy crap what are they making for breakfast in the cafeteria? Cue the dry-heaves, may be more nauseated then I thought.. Emotionally, much better since our ultrasound on Friday where everything was measuring right where it should be an we saw a heartbeat. I'll probably still be high stress until our next scan which isn't until 10w3d.

Any appointments or milestones this week? Nope.

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans?? We stayed home. I sent my mom a cookie bouquet for mother's day. We aren't telling anyone until Father's day weekend most likely.

[birch113]

requiressnacks what a sweet gesture from MIL!

@leagalbeagle sending good vibes to you for Friday! what a thoughtful friend!

@cahistoryteacher you had me at cookie bouquet.

[mrswillie]

birch113 good luck with your u/s today and such amazing news about your MIL!
W good luck at your u/s!
lastnamewithheld awwwww I love the bib! And great announcement pic!
requiressnacks we'll be waiting for our next appointment together.
legalbeagle FX for your u/s!
@cahistoryteacher it's almost like people try hard to make the worst smells when you're pregnant. I swear they bring the most disgusting things to heat up in the kitchen next to my office!

How far along are you? 10w2d
How are you doing physically? Nausea, tired and sore boobs are back. The Diclegis has helped a little, but not this am when I was really tired from DS1 sleeping terribly last night.
Emotionally? I think I'll feel better once I don't have a little pudge going and looks like I have a baby in there, not that I want to be bigger soon. I feel a little relieved after telling my parents and brothers/sister.
Any appointments or milestones this week? NT scan isn't until 5/25

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day?
It was kind of low key, which was great. Went to church. DS1 learned how to ride his bike without training wheels while daddy and DS2 were at the store, so I was quite the proud mommy and he was sooooo excited. And DS2 was super proud of himself being able to stack a bunch of blocks. Grilled out for dinner and then took DS2 for a walk while DH took DS1 to ride his scooter.
Who spilled the beans??
We (I) told my family. I had planned to sneak our announcement pic in with DS2's 1 year pics and mail them to our parents, but we didn't get the cd of the pics this weekend like I expected. So I texted the pic to my mom first. It took her a while to get it, but she finally got it. My brothers and sister were a lot quicker. I don't think DH sent it to his mom yet, but he doesn't really care.

[requiressnacks]

legalbeagle, so excited for your ultrasound!!
@cahistoryteacher, it's so hard waiting in between appointments. Ugh
mrswillie, Yay, we can wait together! 5/25 seems so far away...

[mrswillie]

requiressnacks yes it does. It's OVER two weeks! Eeeeek! I'm excited and nervous since it's the NT scan and I *think* I plan on telling the rest of our family (aunts, uncles, cousins) and close friends after that. If I end up putting my cute pic I'm using for family and friends on FB, it'll most likely be much later though.

[birch113]

mrswillie so exciting about DS1 and DS2!

[bootsorhearts]

birch113, glad your MIL is on the mend
lastnamewithheld, I love that picture!

How far along are you? 7+2 based on LMP, but only 6+6 based on last ultrasound. Who knows.

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Ok, still don't have a lot of symptoms and am worried about our next scan (NEXT Wednesday) but you know, no bleeding = no news = good news right?

Any appointments or milestones this week? Nada

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans?? Mother's day was nice, just slept in and went out for brunch with DH, DS and MIL. Low key. My mom knows but other than professionals (my trainer knows, my nutritionist, our travel agent since she had to hastily replan our Disney trip to be this month instead of November when I would be yuuuuge) no one will know until we are a bit more certain of the outcome.

[birch113]

bootsorhearts I've been living by the no bleeding = good news thinking, too. Hang in there! I hope you have a blast at Disney!

[requiressnacks]

May 9, 2016 11:13:18 GMT -5 mrswillie said:

requiressnacks yes it does. It's OVER two weeks! Eeeeek! I'm excited and nervous since it's the NT scan and I *think* I plan on telling the rest of our family (aunts, uncles, cousins) and close friends after that. If I end up putting my cute pic I'm using for family and friends on FB, it'll most likely be much later though.

That's our plan too. We host a big Memorial Day party on 5/28 and many friends/family that we don't get to see very often will be there. It will be the perfect time to tell people, if all is well. 

[legalbeagle]

birch113, bootsorhearts, 100% agree. Stay strong ladies!

[bootsorhearts]

May 9, 2016 11:37:02 GMT -5 birch113 said:

bootsorhearts I've been living by the no bleeding = good news thinking, too. Hang in there! I hope you have a blast fetus at Disney!

That's what you mean right? ;-)

I hope so too! I won't be able to go on the big rides or drink alcohol *weeps* but that's ok, because this trip is all about DS anyway. We had a parents only trip earlier this year so we got in all our debauchery and binge-riding tower of terror then.

[littlelion]

birch113 , so many good vibes to you today!
lastnamewithheld ,, very concise, but wonderful way to announce
bootsorhearts , sending you lots of positive vibes your way for a growing baby...no news is def good.

How far along are you?8 wks 4 dys

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? Good. No really bad symptoms this past week. Emotionally I'm teetering between excited for this baby and fearful of a loss happening soon.  

Any appointments or milestones this week? My weekly appt is on Friday. I turn 9 wks this Thurs which is a loss milestone. Once I see the double digits I think I will breathe easier. 

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans??  Mother's day was good. DH didn't do much for it. But DS woke up and went to bed giving me all the kisses and hugs which is not his norm. I was very happy with that. I did not spill the beans but my brother might have.  I got a text from my sister about something he "sent" or "posted".  I don't have FB. If he posted it, the message alludes to a sister who is expecting. Oh well.  It's not worth getting upset over.  It'll give the family something to gossip (there are 4 sisters).  

[WineNChocolate]

How far along are you? 7w 1d

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? I am tired physically and emotionally. My lil one has HFM, impetigo and ring worm..I am ready to blow up her daycare and the Pedi's office. Drs. (a damn resident, cause my dr was out) saw my daughter and said it was eczema...come two days LATER WRONG ANSWER. Saw our normal Dr. and she called it out loud and clear. I have not been thinking to much about lil bit number 2 with stressing over the pain my daughter is enduring at the expense of all this. I am nausea most of the time unless I eat every 3-4 hours. Probably going to gain unnecessary weight.

Any appointments or milestones this week? Nothing this week next Wednesday is the special day.

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans?? Mothers day was dealing with a sick child and well it just didn't go all that wonderful. I haven't told anyone else waiting for our 8 week scan next week.

[littlelion]

WineNChocolate, I'm so sorry about your daughter. Hope she recuperates quickly! 

[birch113]

May 9, 2016 12:04:45 GMT -5 bootsorhearts said:

May 9, 2016 11:37:02 GMT -5 birch113 said:

bootsorhearts I've been living by the no bleeding = good news thinking, too. Hang in there! I hope you have a blast fetus at Disney!

That's what you mean right? ;-)

I hope so too! I won't be able to go on the big rides or drink alcohol *weeps* but that's ok, because this trip is all about DS anyway. We had a parents only trip earlier this year so we got in all our debauchery and binge-riding tower of terror then.

OMG what a crazy AutoCorrect!

[birch113]

Thanks for all the good vibes!

Well, there is a baby with a heartbeat! The RE has me at 7w by LMP, and my apps have me at 6w6d by LMP. Baby is measuring 6w3d. It was certainly reassuring to see that baby has grown enough to be visible on ultrasound, and that there was a heartbeat, but I am really nervous that I measuring a bit behind, especially since I got such an early BFP and that last Monday my gestational sack was measuring 5w6d. Baby's heartbeat was 115, and we got to hear it, which was great. It's just hard not to worry with all of the variables right now. My next follow-up is next Tuesday, and I'm praying we see 1w1d of growth.

[emilie]

birch113 I've got everything crossed for you. Good luck! And great news for your MIL! I hope the transplant works out.
W thinking of you! good luck today!
lastnamewithheld I like the announcement!
requiressnacks congrats on 10 weeks!
legalbeagle sending you the best vibes. and what a sweet friend you have!
@cahistoryteacher aw, sorry about the morning sickness.
mrswillie sounds like you and your family had an awesome weekend!
bootsorhearts Sending you all the good thoughts. yay for an unexpected Disney trip soon!
littlelion good luck this week! and ugh, siblings can be so annoying

I'm finally joining here this week! Too many check-ins

What is your loss and/or IF history? IF - pulled BCP in March 2014, starting really "trying" in June 2014. This is our first pregnancy after polyp removals and 4 IUIs.


What is your EDD? 12/26 I think?

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How far along are you? 6w6d

How are you doing physically? Emotionally? I feel pretty good! Just a little tired. Even though we saw a heartbeat last week it's still hard to believe I'm pregnant, especially with not many physical symptoms. The symptoms I've experienced (mostly major bloat) seem to be more from the OHSS, not from being pregnant.

Any appointments or milestones this week? 7w ultrasound on Wednesday, just hoping everything is still measuring on track and that the heartbeat is still there!

QOTW: How was your Mother's Day? Who spilled the beans?? yesterday was low-key, H and I just had a lazy Sunday. There will be no bean-spilling until late June/early July.

[birch113]

littlelion thinking of you as you pass your loss milestone this week.

WineNChocolate I hope DD is on the mend soon!

[bootsorhearts]

birch113 , that sounds like good news to me! But I know how pgal/paif brain can make us question everything.

[birch113]

May 9, 2016 12:49:34 GMT -5 bootsorhearts said:

birch113 , that sounds like good news to me! But I know how pgal/paif brain can make us question everything.

Eve. Rey. Thing.

Eta: I meant to say thank you, too. I so hope it's good news. I am just wracking my brain questioning everything right now. Ugh.

[legalbeagle]

birch113, sounds great! but I totally understand about the worry.