Post by manybellsdown on May 9, 2016 21:14:39 GMT -5
Seems like third tri is getting to some of us, understandably. I'm trying my best to think positively when possible (it is not often possible). So is there anything about being pregnant that you're going to miss? Or, that isn't the worst thing in the world to experience for 9 months?
I was going to make a poll but feel like this could go anywhere.
And maybe this goes without saying, but I'm thinking beyond the "I get a baby squish" part of this whole deal.
Post by manybellsdown on May 9, 2016 21:17:50 GMT -5
I shall start. It's not perfect, but my skin is actually miles better while pregnant, because I don't have the cycle-induced cyst or two that usually happen juuuust as I'm thinking, hey, my skin doesn't look so bad right now. And then sticks around for 2 weeks. I don't miss it. At all.
Feeling the baby move is pretty sweet as well, but he's getting so strong that I'm ready for the snuggles and kisses part.
I do like feeling him move and being around him all day and night. I think I'll miss him a lot when I go back to work at 4 months. It's kinda awesome to not be on any diet or have any thoughts of "this is fattening I should skip it." (This mentality is actually probably pretty bad and why I've gained 35+ lbs. but hey I may only do this once I might as well get to enjoy it right?)
I do like feeling him move and being around him all day and night. I think I'll miss him a lot when I go back to work at 4 months. It's kinda awesome to not be on any diet or have any thoughts of "this is fattening I should skip it." (This mentality is actually probably pretty bad and why I've gained 35+ lbs. but hey I may only do this once I might as well get to enjoy it right?)
awww, this is such a great point! He's awesome company every day at work.
Right now? Not really. Aside from the fact that babies are way easier to take care of when your body is automatically doing all that work. But I am not comfortable and I'm stressed about movement and childbirth and needing everything to be ready (even though I know everything we need will come together). I did enjoy 2nd tri. That nice interlude between nausea and being too big to do anything comfortably was pleasant and I hadn't yet decided "how are you feeling?" Was the worst question ever invented ever.
After a year of ttc, a loss, and this pregnancy, I'm actually kind of looking forward to being able to have periods and spotting without it being a big drama every time. Being able to just not worry about what my uterus is up to for awhile will be downright liberating. I'm not saying I enjoy periods, but it's been basically two years of "I should have my period and I don't, I shouldn't have it and I do, I shouldn't be spotting, now I have to spend two hours on google and webmd". I'm hoping that I can just spend some time not caring if it is around or not.
I will definitely miss the movements. I will miss my only child. That is what I struggle with the most. The fear of loving two. I will not miss the stress of this pregnancy.
Dh just said to me tonight "but won't you miss being pregnant, even a little?" He is right, I will. Sad to think this might be the last time too. Definitely love no period, no birth control, and my increased sex drive. I love being disciplined and taking care of my body because the life of a little boy depends on it. I'll miss looking at my belly and watching this miracle unfold. I bitch a lot but it's truly amazing and I'm proud of my body. The big movements are starting to hurt but I love watching my belly take on crazy shapes as he rolls around in there. I think I'll miss ds giving baby kisses the most but i know he'll be loving on baby brother on the outside too.
Exactly what greysonsmom said. I am so excited, but nervous about 2 kids (although mine won't be 2 under 2).
Other than that, I am not one to enjoy being pregnant. This pregnancy has been especially hard with how sick I was at the beginning and all of the things that have come up/seeing a specialist/being PGAL/etc.
That being said, being PGAL and trying for a year for this one, I am more aware of the true miracle of life and of a healthy baby. So I will miss that, but hopefully I will be able to see that miracle daily in the face of my child, and hopefully I won't ever forget the pain of loss/time spent trying to get pregnant. I really like everything vivela said about not caring what my uterus is up to and looking forward to that-so in that sense, I'm not dreading periods or anything like that. I just feel so truly aware and grateful with each kick/punch/symptom, even though I feel miserable, and I'll miss that, but not miss it in the sense that I will want it back!
Whenever we were going through our loss and trying to get pregnant, I always told myself, " I need to remember what THIS sadness feels like when I'm vomiting in the first (and 2nd, this time around!) trimester of pregnancy or MISERABLE at the end of pregnancy, and be grateful that I feel those ways because of something truly miraculous and to be thankful for...."
I like not having periods, not being on BC, and not worrying about getting PG. I also am enjoying not BF, because I know that's the next big thing that's coming. Last time, I remember feeling such a sense of relief and like my body was my own again after a year of BF following 9 months of pg last time.
I'm also enjoying the last little bit of having an only child. DS is so fun now and at such a good, fun age, I'm going to miss being able to be totally devoted to him.
I'm going to miss the movements and being able to indulge when I eat.
I'm actually really looking forward to getting my period back and not TTC for a couple years. I'm tired of being terrified that I'll see blood every time I go to the bathroom. It's been an emotional and physical roller coaster for me since 2013 and I need a break.
...and because I'm super emotional and cry about everything, I thought I'd leave this video here. I love this song and the title of this thread made me think of it.
Post by frecklesnbrains on May 10, 2016 6:01:03 GMT -5
I'm still sleeping pretty well most nights, so I'm definitely going to miss that. Last night I slept 9 hours and got up only once to pee. It was beautiful.
And like manybellsdown my terrible acne-prone skin has been perfect since the beginning of 2nd tri.
As difficult and uncomfortable as this pregnancy has been, I know that I'll miss being pregnant. The movement, the hiccups, the random elbow to the ribs...I love that stuff. After my loss last spring I've been trying to enjoy this as much as I can despite the discomfort, knowing it's my last and knowing that I'm pretty darn lucky to have this little guy on the way.
I'm also going to miss my one-on-one time with DS. We were cuddling this morning before I left for work, and just knowing that I won't have as many opportunities to give him that undivided attention breaks my heart. But I'm also looking forward to seeing him as a big brother because I know he'll be wonderful and sweet and caring. And now I'm crying at work so I'm going to stop now.
I'm enjoying all the movement. I think I'll miss that.
I'm also trying to enjoy the last little bit of time that we have as a family of 3 (me, DH, and the dog of course). I wish I could do more with this time than be on bed rest, but I'd take this any day over having micropreemies in the NICU.
I've enjoyed not having to worry about timing sex and getting pg like I did for almost a year before this pregnancy.
And I suppose I'm also enjoying my sleep. It's not as comfortable or as restful as it once was, but I have a feeling it is certainly better than it will be once the twins arrive.
I think a lot of the STMs are feeling the same way. I'm getting teary over the fact that DS won't be my only baby. I'm worried that he will never love me the same way again, which is totally crazy and selfish.
I'll miss her little wiggles after I have a snack, or seeing DS rest his hand on my belly and say, "Hi baby!".
I will not miss the pain, poor sleep, awful veins and blinding headaches. Nope.
I will miss the movements. I remember holding A freshly swaddled DD in the hospital, and she wiggled and I felt it on my tummy and hand...it reminded me so much of inside wiggles.
I will miss having LO all to myself, I'm not looking forward to sharing
Post by littleducky on May 10, 2016 9:22:00 GMT -5
I will miss DS being my only baby. He's 5 and totally gets what is going on, and we've talked about it together and how some things will be different but he will still be my baby always. Honestly I think I'm having a harder time with it than he is.
I will miss feeling baby kicks, for sure. This is almost definitely our last baby.
I'll miss the movement for sure. I am also one who loves the anticipation of things, so I'll miss the anticipation of thinking about what he is going to look like, what it will be like, etc.
This might sound weird, but I'm going to miss my bump. I've always had a distinct roll on my stomach and tighter shirts are always difficult because of the way they hit my roll. I like being able to wear shirts that are tight and have a smooth, albeit big, stomach.
Post by woodengirl07 on May 10, 2016 9:45:57 GMT -5
I am thankful for being pregnant, but after all the issues and anxiety, I feel like I will be much happier with an outside baby. But, I think I will miss it just being DH and me sometimes. we've been just a couple for 12 years, so I can see a big change from being adults who can run out and do whatever (either together or alone) to a family with a baby, which requires more planning for sure.
I have nothing new to add. Like most of you, I will definitely miss the movement. I waited a long time to feel the rolling of a little life in my belly, and it will be missed. Even when she hurts me, I've loved every kick, punch and headbutt. I will miss the guilt free eating. I will miss not having to worry about BC.
Like woodengirl07, I will also miss time alone with DH. We've done A LOT and had so much fun. Our life has been pretty care free compared to a lot of our peers. But I know our future as a family of three (or more) will rival the last 10 years we've had as a couple.
Like woodengirl07 , I will also miss time alone with DH. We've done A LOT and had so much fun. Our life has been pretty care free compared to a lot of our peers. But I know our future as a family of three (or more) will rival the last 10 years we've had as a couple.
This was one of the hardest adjustments for us with DS. We had had so long as just the two of us and were able to do so much (almost 13 years). Having DS really did change things, and there was a transition period, but we found a new stride and it's been great! So great that we decided to do it again
Post by cattuccino on May 10, 2016 11:23:08 GMT -5
After DD was born, I missed her movements and hiccups the most. This ones movements are more violent, right now I'm looking forward to them being gone, but know I'll still miss them.
Also going to miss being a mom to just one - getting really anxious and emotional to the idea of feeling split, or that first time I need to say no to DD because of DS...
I will also miss my hair. It's soft and shiny, but I know those days are numbered.
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