We are at SO's aunt and he can barely breathe/ keep coughing. It definitely escalated in the last couple of days. He usually sleep very well through the night even in the pack and play when we're not at home. But I've listened to him cry and try to sleep for the last 4 hours. He doesn't want to be held, rock r given a bottle. He just wants to sleep and he's unable.
We sleep in the same room and I can't sleep when my baby can't sleep. Are we home yet?
Emily nursed again, both sides like it was no big thang. Acted totally normal. No fussing at all. That was the longest 2.5 days of my life. Fx she's completely over it! Thanks for all the kind words and support... Nursing strikes are the worst.
I'm so happy she nursed and I hope she's over her nursing strike!!
Also, we walked through the available house in our new neighborhood that has the courtyard and the movie theater... It's really not that great. Plus, we found a used condom just hanging out on a windowsill in the upstairs gameroom. DNW!!
We walked through one house that I fell in love with, but probably because it is $430K and laughably outside of our price range. It was so amazing, I was walking through the rooms like a kid in a candy store. I kept yelling to DH, "OMG look at this! And THIS!" On the plus side, I now know exactly what I want in my lottery house.
We are at SO's aunt and he can barely breathe/ keep coughing. It definitely escalated in the last couple of days. He usually sleep very well through the night even in the pack and play when we're not at home. But I've listened to him cry and try to sleep for the last 4 hours. He doesn't want to be held, rock r given a bottle. He just wants to sleep and he's unable.
We sleep in the same room and I can't sleep when my baby can't sleep. Are we home yet?
Ugh that's the worst. Emily is restless like that sometimes and that's usually when we all get the worst sleep because she's whining off and on for hours. Poor baby. Hope you all get some rest.
Also, we walked through the available house in our new neighborhood that has the courtyard and the movie theater... It's really not that great. Plus, we found a used condom just hanging out on a windowsill in the upstairs gameroom. DNW!!
We walked through one house that I fell in love with, but probably because it is $430K and laughably outside of our price range. It was so amazing, I was walking through the rooms like a kid in a candy store. I kept yelling to DH, "OMG look at this! And THIS!" On the plus side, I now know exactly what I want in my lottery house.
Omg I wish our house was $430K.
Alberta has expensive homes.
NJ is the same way! I do not miss that at all. I wish I had taken pics of this house. $430K down here gets you a 4,000sqft mansion with a movie theater that has its own attached wet bar/kitchen area, covered patios and porches, gourmet kitchen, grand entry..... It was amazing.
NJ is the same way! I do not miss that at all. I wish I had taken pics of this house. $430K down here gets you a 4,000sqft mansion with a movie theater that has its own attached wet bar/kitchen area, covered patios and porches, gourmet kitchen, grand entry..... It was amazing.
Oh wow. My neighbour is selling his house for 390k and it's a very normal cottage house ~ 1600 feet square.
I can't even imagine what a 4000 square feet house look like haha.
NJ is the same way! I do not miss that at all. I wish I had taken pics of this house. $430K down here gets you a 4,000sqft mansion with a movie theater that has its own attached wet bar/kitchen area, covered patios and porches, gourmet kitchen, grand entry..... It was amazing.
Oh wow. My neighbour is selling his house for 390k and it's a very normal cottage house ~ 1600 feet square.
I can't even imagine what a 4000 square feet house look like haha.
I am terrified of house hunting in San Diego. Looking at the listings the last month I can't find a single home in a kid appropriate/safe area for under $500,000. And a lot of those are like 1200 sqft :/
Just had to say that we took our first plane ride yesterday and not a tear was shed. So relieved, because he has been stuffy for over a month and I expected he would lose it.
NJ is the same way! I do not miss that at all. I wish I had taken pics of this house. $430K down here gets you a 4,000sqft mansion with a movie theater that has its own attached wet bar/kitchen area, covered patios and porches, gourmet kitchen, grand entry..... It was amazing.
Oh gosh, NJ sucks for housing prices. Add property taxes to that too! DH and I purposely looked for houses in south Jersey b/c they are "less expensive" than north Jersey. Unfortunately that makes my commute to work an hour (not so bad when there are no accidents/traffic).
O's fever broke last night before bedtime, but then he woke up with a fever again this morning. At least yesterday he was still acting fine and playing. Today not so much. He has been scream crying since he woke up. He wouldn't even stop crying long enough to drink his bottle. This is the 3rd day having a fever. His only other symptom is a runny nose, and he's had that for over a week. We are debating whether to take him into the walk in today when they open at noon or wait until tomorrow to see his regular doctor. Edit: The crying finally stopped after he had the biggest poop of his life.
NJ is the same way! I do not miss that at all. I wish I had taken pics of this house. $430K down here gets you a 4,000sqft mansion with a movie theater that has its own attached wet bar/kitchen area, covered patios and porches, gourmet kitchen, grand entry..... It was amazing.
Oh gosh, NJ sucks for housing prices. Add property taxes to that too! DH and I purposely looked for houses in south Jersey b/c they are "less expensive" than north Jersey. Unfortunately that makes my commute to work an hour (not so bad when there are no accidents/traffic).
The property taxes are the worst!! We're both from Bergen County, which is the highest taxed county in NJ, or something like that. My parent's townhouse (where you technically don't "own" any yards or property) had a $10-15K annual property tax. On a townhouse!! When my mom sold it there was a bidding war because the taxes were "low."
Hey, so if anyone wants to buy an updated, 3,000 sqft house just north of Houston, for less than $250K, let me know. I just need to live here until my new house is built, cool?
Come to the land of cheap properties.
Or, for $430K, come buy this brand new house that I loved and we can be neighbors... but FYI, I will come by and use your movie theater. I mean look at this house. Please come buy it because it's out of our budget, but I want to hang out here.
I need to come up with $430k just to get a 4 bedroom house with a yard in suburban Philadelphia. The kitchens and bathrooms will be from the 80's though and house projects will cost over $100k. I don't want a 4000 sf house but I don't want a townhouse with no yard so new construction is essentially out unless you go with a custom build and buy the land first (land is $$$$ unless you go way out more rural). I notice all the nice neighborhoods are filled with baby boomers because anyone younger doesn't have any money like that.
We will be renting a few years till we can save 100k while holding onto our condo because of this. At least property taxes are much lower than NJ! My mom pays $8k a year for a small 3 bedroom house!
I feel like I'm at my breaking point. Between C's awful sleep and frustrations between H and I (caused by said lack of sleep) I really feel like I might not want anymore kids. Maybe that's just exhaustion talking but I feel like all we do is argue. I get so mad when he doesn't offer help and he just wants me to ask every time but I don't want to have to ask for everything. Last night I was walking/rocking C for almost 2 hours while he slept. Turns out he wasn't fully asleep. He saw me doing all that and never got up to see if I needed anything. I don't even know if he has a point. I can't think straight right now. I hate to say it but I'm not enjoying being a mom right now.
Going to a brunch at 11 without kids! Not sure what to expect as its at someone's house I don't know. My aunt invited me because she lives in my neighborhood.
This selling on Facebook thing is stressing me out. I should have just donated the chair. Someone will say I want to come over and see it, ok what time. Never hear back. Look I don't like people that much to begin with. Stop ghosting me.
I feel like I'm at my breaking point. Between C's awful sleep and frustrations between H and I (caused by said lack of sleep) I really feel like I might not want anymore kids. Maybe that's just exhaustion talking but I feel like all we do is argue. I get so mad when he doesn't offer help and he just wants me to ask every time but I don't want to have to ask for everything. Last night I was walking/rocking C for almost 2 hours while he slept. Turns out he wasn't fully asleep. He saw me doing all that and never got up to see if I needed anything. I don't even know if he has a point. I can't think straight right now. I hate to say it but I'm not enjoying being a mom right now.
I could have written this myself with a few minor changes in the husband department. I've told him several times recently that we are done. This is huge coming from me because I've always wanted 4 kids. You are not alone. This shit is hard. We don't have to love being mothers every second of every day. So many hugs and all the love coming your way.
And I feel awful because H can be super thoughtful and helpful sometimes but then so thoughtless others. I'm really wondering if the problem is me. I'm so ready for this phase to be over.
I could have written this myself with a few minor changes in the husband department. I've told him several times recently that we are done. This is huge coming from me because I've always wanted 4 kids. You are not alone. This shit is hard. We don't have to love being mothers every second of every day. So many hugs and all the love coming your way.
And I feel awful because H can be super thoughtful and helpful sometimes but then so thoughtless others. I'm really wondering if the problem is me. I'm so ready for this phase to be over.
((HUGS)) But remember, this IS a phase. When I was struggling to get Jacob to nap in his crib I cried and cried and hated every minute of being a Mom, then he figured it out. It's hard not to take these moments personally, but C will figure it out. She can't sleep shitty for forever!
Huge hugs sandj918 and Fearsy. This is a phase but it's so hard to see through the fog. Motherhood can be very isolating and it's okay to not enjoy it. You are both doing a fantastic job with healthy, happy baby girls!
Please vent as much you want and need. That's why this community is for - support in the good and the bad.
Post by swbrigadoon on May 22, 2016 8:44:12 GMT -5
Hugs sandj918 and Fearsy. The sleep thing is sooooooo hard. I remember I was SO exhausted for the first year of A's life and it really does trickle down into the health of your other relationships. But like a lot of other things, it IS a phase and is such a short period of time in the grand scheme of things. Now that it's over, for me the memories have slowly faded from "that was the worst time in my life" to "man, that was hard but I really miss snuggling my baby in the middle of the night".
I know that helps you like a hole in the head right now, but things WILL get better. Keep hanging in there and try to keep open communication with your SO's as much as possible.
Oh wow. My neighbour is selling his house for 390k and it's a very normal cottage house ~ 1600 feet square.
I can't even imagine what a 4000 square feet house look like haha.
I am terrified of house hunting in San Diego. Looking at the listings the last month I can't find a single home in a kid appropriate/safe area for under $500,000. And a lot of those are like 1200 sqft :/
It's bad here :/ The house we own is 1100 sf and Zillow has it worth like 400k. Its definitely not in the shape it's in. We have a "five year plan" to live in it five years and fix it, and then move, but in five years J will be 9 and H 5, and they will drive me batty in that space.
Post by jessiespano on May 22, 2016 8:48:46 GMT -5
Warning! Vomit talk.
So j got sent home from preschool Friday because he vomited. Then continued until about 4pm that same night and then just stopped. Nothing all day yesterday, and then threw up again last night, just once. So now we can't go to church, and that sucks because we were starting to get into a groove. I may send DH still. More importantly, I have no idea what's going on with J. He barely ate yesterday, and I don't think he had enough water. Hopefully that was the end of it. Plus H is still super congested, and literally won't sleep anywhere but on my arms. I just need everyone well!
mowkey, Glen keeps trying to convince me that we can move. Then we look and realize that $450,000 for 2000 square feet is not worth it right now. Our property taxes are certainly not NJ level, but they aren't low either. Glen is from DE, "tax free state" (property taxes are ridiculously low) so when we bought our house he was in serious sticker shock. But we get a lot more for our taxes here which helps.
We have 1200 square feet, 3 br, 1 bath. No garage and no live able bassment. Yet our house has increased in value in the 5 years we've been here because of the location.
We intended to buy in the city at first, but $500K for 1000 square feet with shifty schools? No thank you!
Dani is such a creeper when we take her out. She will stare as hard as possible at people until they pay attention to her. Then she'll smile and wave. We were by a door and anytime people came in, she would swivel herself around in her high chair to do this. She also would only do it to people she hadn't previously received attention from. I feel like she understands concepts that she shouldn't...
DD1 did the exact same thing as a baby. And now, at 2.5, she is seriously the happiest, cheeriest, friendliest kid you will meet.
The dogs escaped. They've been gone four hours. I can't find them. LO gets mad when we look because he's strapped in his car seat. My electricity is out. I can't wash bottles, vacuum, or do laundry (my whole plan for today) No know estimate of when it will be back on.
At least I had coffee before the electricity went out?
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