I'm sending hugs to all of you dealing with weight and other concerns with outside babies. I remember how much the weight loss bothered me with DS. He lost 12% of his body weight by his pedi appointment on day 3 after being born at 39 weeks. It's a horrible feeling as a new mom, but we both got through it with a lot of persistence. Hang in there ladies and babies!
I hope all of the outside babies & mamas are doing good tonight. Hugs to you guys.
I'm up tonight, crying because my everything hurts and my pillows are in the wrong position and it is too hard to move them. DH is trying to be helpful but I'm just hurting and emotional. Thanks for listening to my rant.
Post by broadwaymama on May 28, 2016 0:52:45 GMT -5
GOmamab15 I'm right here with you, except I don't want to wake up DH because there isn't much he can do! I'm also having those weird half awake nightmare things where every sound seems amplified and I keep waking up in a panic. I can't wait to be up with a newborn rather than in pain and super uncomfortable!
broadwaymama +1 on all of that. I hate those kind of nightmares. Sorry you're having them. I'm pretty much over all of the super vivid pregnancy dreams. They were fun for the first few months but I miss how it was to not remember dreams.
I'm lucky my DH is a night owl so he's almost always up. The trade off is he sleeps in late.
broadwaymama +1 on all of that. I hate those kind of nightmares. Sorry you're having them. I'm pretty much over all of the super vivid pregnancy dreams. They were fun for the first few months but I miss how it was to not remember dreams.
I'm lucky my DH is a night owl so he's almost always up. The trade off is he sleeps in late.
frecklesnbrains Hugs lady!! I'm right there with you on the husband resent... Mine was complaining about the same thing the other night cause he is getting what a few less hours of sleep?!? I was like you can't be serious...I'm literally the only food source for a human being! He went back to work this week so I know this is an adjustment for him too but I was so mad! We did have a good talk about it yesterday when I was calmer so I am feeling a bit better about it. Throwing something would have felt really good though
Mind if I join you ladies in the land of middle of the night feedings/pumpings?? I'm up pumping trying to get something moving and my milk is starting to come in!! I've been worried about it since we haven't had as much 1:1 time as I would like so I'm pretty pumped (pun slightly intended). Never thought I'd be so excited about sore milk boobs!
frecklesnbrains and titania, some of the biggest arguments DH and I have ever had were when we were adjusting to the newborn stage and I started to resent him. My best advice is to let it all out to them, and let them see your frustration so they understand how their actions and comments are coming across to you. Hugs to you guys!! And if throwing something helps, I'm all for pillows and baby lovies! DH most definitely got a stuffed giraffe to the head once or twice in those early days.
At this point MH has to get up with me every three hours. Between me having to pump and her only tube feeding while nursing this is a two man job. I am dreading doing it by myself!
Sorry I've been MIA since the birth! I promise I'll update and post pictures of my perfect little girl when I can. Labor and recovery have gone so well, but sleep is so bad. Haven't slept yet. The nursery nurses took her for 3 hours and I never fell asleep. It's like with the adrenaline and hospital noises and, "holy crap I just had a baby"...I couldn't, so frustrated.
I'm amazed at how little I remember about breastfeeding. I thought it would all come back to me but definitely hasn't. If she's latching and feeding fine, is there any reason I should start pumping anytime soon?
txmommy14 no apologies needed... You just had a baby! I have the same fear about breastfeeding that it won't just come back to me.
frecklesnbrains our biggest fights were all focused around sleep. I don't know if you remember but i said a while back I'm having dh sleep in the basement this time around so he gets sleep and keeps his effing mouth shut about being tired. He'll be rested and then hopefully less of an a hole and maybe less fighting. You have every right to be furious. This stage is so hard. Hugs to everyone up in motn.
Post by frecklesnbrains on May 28, 2016 6:01:21 GMT -5
txmommy14 I totally know where you are! I didn't sleep a wink in about 48 hours. That first day adrenaline is so powerful! Just lean on being in the hospital as much as you can. Also, don't worry about pumping yet.. only if you're trying to build up a supply. If no one has advised it then just bring the baby to your breast as much as possible. And lots of skin-to-skin.
soultrane YAY for milk!!! I was soooo relieved when mine started coming in.
Thanks everyone about the sleeping arguments commiseration. My DH really wants to help, and I know he feels really guilty. Last night he got up with me for one feeding and just sat next to me on the couch, but there was nothing for him to do. Eventually the power of sleep carried him off. I just need to come up with some concrete tasks for him and we'll both be better off. I just have no idea what those are right now...
Post by Outofhiding on May 28, 2016 6:11:55 GMT -5
frecklesnbrains the sleep deprivation is real. When we had DD both my husband and me woke up with her. Though it was nice that we were in it together, we were both always exhausted. If DD needed a diaper change or threw up, DH would take care of it but other than that there was not much for him to do. I think the approach this time will be to wake him at night on a need be basis so that one of us will be semi functional during the day. I say this now before the baby gets here but I hope it works out better that way than both of us being awake with the baby at the same time all the time.
txmommy14, is there a lactation consultant at the hospital you can chat with who might be able to give some advice? I didn't start pumping with DS1 for quite a while - he was at least a few weeks old and it was just to build up my supply and to allow others to feed him so I could get a break. With this guy, the only reason I started pumping right away is to make sure he's getting the benefits of the colostrum/milk and so we can measure exactly what he's taking in.
soultrane so glad your milk is coming in! And thanks for the advice! I definitely need to work on communicating instead of seething in silence.
bighair12 that sounds so hard - you are a total rockstar - so glad YH is able to help!
txmommy14 no apologies!! You just had a baby! I remember trying to sleep knowing I needed it, but being wide awake cause of all the adrenaline. As for pumping I think they will advise you if you need to start now... I still don't actually have a pump (thanks Kaiser) cause E was latching and feeding pretty well.
I'm resurrecting this thread. It's 3:30am and we've been in bed trying to get baby to settle since 10:30pm. She seriously has her nights and days mixed up. Will not wake up during the day but has been awake all night fussing! DH and I keep saying, "Omg, our toddler is waking up in 3.5 hours....how will we possibly survive?" This is only a phase. This is only a phase. I won't be a zombie forever.
I'm resurrecting this thread. It's 3:30am and we've been in bed trying to get baby to settle since 10:30pm. She seriously has her nights and days mixed up. Will not wake up during the day but has been awake all night fussing! DH and I keep saying, "Omg, our toddler is waking up in 3.5 hours....how will we possibly survive?" This is only a phase. This is only a phase. I won't be a zombie forever.
Hang in there txmommy14 . I'm in the same boat. I can only imagine it being harder with a toddler to contend with. I keep telling myself that DD will get her days and nights sorted out soon enough.
I'm up for the day with the dog and toddler. My reflux was a lot better last night than the night before. I've been waking up in a panic feeling like the acid is right at the top of my throat. Last night that only happened once though and I was able to sleep with the recliner almost the whole way back. Some day I will sleep again, but not any time soon!
I'm just up with pregnancy insomnia & a snoring DH, no cute outside baby to feed, yet.
First world "problem": I was trying to start watching Netflix but I accidentally hit install software update on my iPad so now it's updating and I can't use it for a while.
Ouch!!! I just ran into the pull-out cutting board super hard with my belly right below my belly button on my really tender skin. Ow ow ow. I hope I didn't poke the baby too badly. He's moving around, hopefully that means he's ok.
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