I am applying for another job here. This one is a federal government position, so it would be the same overall employer I have currently. It would be a promotion, but probably less challenging than what I do in Ottawa.
I am feeling good about it because I had a great convo with DH. I overestimated his love of Shittyborough, and he was super clear that me working here doesn't change our plans to go back. Which is a great relief.
Is this the job you talked about a little while ago?
charliefox, A will sometimes do a weird crawl where she only pushes with her right and just kind of tucks her left up. Other times she's even/balanced in her stride. H started freaking out, but I realized she does it when she's got a dress/tunic top on. I think babies just adjust/react to mobility differently than we do until they figure stuff out.
Post by eliza040502 on May 27, 2016 13:40:14 GMT -5
I'm currently sitting in an Uber. I thought it would be cheaper to take Uber to my doctors appointment then drive and park ($37). Because of memorial day traffic and surge pricing it is going o be $60. And I've got an Uber driver from new Jersey. I'm in Boston. Wtf?! I love Uber but you shouldn't be permitted to drive in a different city if you aren't familiar with it. He's been in the wrong lane numerous times and has almost gotten i to several accidents already. And he keeps getting in the slow lane on the right because he doesn't know where he is going.
We have an in ground pool, had it for 6 years (came with the house) and also I grew up with one so I knew what I was getting into.
It is a lot of work, but most of the work is around closing/opening. My pool legit looks like a swamp right now cuz all we have had time for is removing the cover with PL and having a million other needy monsters.
It'll need a few days of scooping, running the filter and tons of chemicals to get it swimmable but I just DGAF right now.
The maintenance over the summer isn't bad, if you stay on top of it. You have to check it daily though.
We have a bromine pool and we do all the work ourselves.
We have been Iiving in our home for 6yrs it came with an inground pool too. I also grew up with a pool, my mom used to sell them!
I just got a call from H. He was going to surprise us by coming home with goodies since he got out early at work. Well he wanted to go see his sister and her baby had a bad night last night after doing so well yesterday. So now he is staying up at the hospital with her since they have to put him back on some sort of breathing thing. She is a mess is so heartbreaking. She told me she doesn't have the strength to deal with all of this. I have been giving her as much support as I can. Do any of our former NICU mamas have any advise to help her see she can do this?
I am applying for another job here. This one is a federal government position, so it would be the same overall employer I have currently. It would be a promotion, but probably less challenging than what I do in Ottawa.
I am feeling good about it because I had a great convo with DH. I overestimated his love of Shittyborough, and he was super clear that me working here doesn't change our plans to go back. Which is a great relief.
Is this the job you talked about a little while ago?
I'm currently sitting in an Uber. I thought it would be cheaper to take Uber to my doctors appointment then drive and park ($37). Because of memorial day traffic and surge pricing it is going o be $60. And I've got an Uber driver from new Jersey. I'm in Boston. Wtf?! I love Uber but you shouldn't be permitted to drive in a different city if you aren't familiar with it. He's been in the wrong lane numerous times and has almost gotten i to several accidents already. And he keeps getting in the slow lane on the right because he doesn't know where he is going.
If you rate him poorly after your trip with this comment, Uber customer service is phenomenal and often issues partial/full refunds or credits for unsatisfactory trips, especially during surge pricing.
I just got a call from H. He was going to surprise us by coming home with goodies since he got out early at work. Well he wanted to go see his sister and her baby had a bad night last night after doing so well yesterday. So now he is staying up at the hospital with her since they have to put him back on some sort of breathing thing. She is a mess is so heartbreaking. She told me she doesn't have the strength to deal with all of this. I have been giving her as much support as I can. Do any of our former NICU mamas have any advise to help her see she can do this?
This is heartbreaking hope the baby will be strong and healthy
I just got a call from H. He was going to surprise us by coming home with goodies since he got out early at work. Well he wanted to go see his sister and her baby had a bad night last night after doing so well yesterday. So now he is staying up at the hospital with her since they have to put him back on some sort of breathing thing. She is a mess is so heartbreaking. She told me she doesn't have the strength to deal with all of this. I have been giving her as much support as I can. Do any of our former NICU mamas have any advise to help her see she can do this?
This is heartbreaking hope the baby will be strong and healthy
Does she have other kids?
Yes her daughter just turned 12 a month ago. She is a good kid so I know she will be a huge help to her mom.
I just got a call from H. He was going to surprise us by coming home with goodies since he got out early at work. Well he wanted to go see his sister and her baby had a bad night last night after doing so well yesterday. So now he is staying up at the hospital with her since they have to put him back on some sort of breathing thing. She is a mess is so heartbreaking. She told me she doesn't have the strength to deal with all of this. I have been giving her as much support as I can. Do any of our former NICU mamas have any advise to help her see she can do this?
Oh man. I needed someone to be my rock - physically and emotionally. For me, that was MH. I knew he was going to be there to put me back together when I started to fall apart.
I just got a call from H. He was going to surprise us by coming home with goodies since he got out early at work. Well he wanted to go see his sister and her baby had a bad night last night after doing so well yesterday. So now he is staying up at the hospital with her since they have to put him back on some sort of breathing thing. She is a mess is so heartbreaking. She told me she doesn't have the strength to deal with all of this. I have been giving her as much support as I can. Do any of our former NICU mamas have any advise to help her see she can do this?
Oh man. I needed someone to be my rock - physically and emotionally. For me, that was MH. I knew he was going to be there to put me back together when I started to fall apart.
She got really down today too since her H had to work. He is self employed he runs his own construction company. I'm glad my H is being a good big brother and staying by her side while BIL had to go.
Oh man. I needed someone to be my rock - physically and emotionally. For me, that was MH. I knew he was going to be there to put me back together when I started to fall apart.
She got really down today too since her H had to work. He is self employed he runs his own construction company. I'm glad my H is being a good big brother and staying by her side while BIL had to go.
So two more thoughts:
1) Does she have a really close friend who could be there? In the absence of MH there would be like maybe 1 - 2 other people I can think of that I would've wanted to be there instead.
2) And the other thing...not sure how you could have any control over it...but we had nurses that were just fine. THEN we had this ONE nurse who really empowered us, was so encouraging about Asher's progress and how we handled things, and we just got it. Both of us felt so much more ready to advocate and handle things after her shift. I don't know how you could make that happen, but... those are the two things that helped me the most.
Well, that and friends bringing coffee and food that didn't suck balls.
She got really down today too since her H had to work. He is self employed he runs his own construction company. I'm glad my H is being a good big brother and staying by her side while BIL had to go.
So two more thoughts:
1) Does she have a really close friend who could be there? In the absence of MH there would be like maybe 1 - 2 other people I can think of that I would've wanted to be there instead.
2) And the other thing...not sure how you could have any control over it...but we had nurses that were just fine. THEN we had this ONE nurse who really empowered us, was so encouraging about Asher's progress and how we handled things, and we just got it. Both of us felt so much more ready to advocate and handle things after her shift. I don't know how you could make that happen, but... those are the two things that helped me the most.
Well, that and friends bringing coffee and food that didn't suck balls.
I'm pretty sure she does have a few girlfriends who might be able to be there with her. On your second thought I have mentioned that to her about really being an advocate for him & that's why she can do this because he needs her too. I really wish I could help her out more, but I'm so on my own with my own kids that finding time to duck out and go help her is hard. She doesn't handle hard situations very well, she usually gets really depressed.
I'm currently sitting in an Uber. I thought it would be cheaper to take Uber to my doctors appointment then drive and park ($37). Because of memorial day traffic and surge pricing it is going o be $60. And I've got an Uber driver from new Jersey. I'm in Boston. Wtf?! I love Uber but you shouldn't be permitted to drive in a different city if you aren't familiar with it. He's been in the wrong lane numerous times and has almost gotten i to several accidents already. And he keeps getting in the slow lane on the right because he doesn't know where he is going.
Especially in Boston! City is so old and nothing like other major cities that are setup like a grid!!!
Post by ugotstarbucked on May 27, 2016 15:43:23 GMT -5
obie1680 NICU stays are rough. I have two friends who have had micro preemies (so long ass hospital stays). It's really emotional. it's normal to have good days and bad. Things that help a lot are food and child care for older kids. And what YH is doing - providing the emotional support, and your offer of milk is perfect.
1) Does she have a really close friend who could be there? In the absence of MH there would be like maybe 1 - 2 other people I can think of that I would've wanted to be there instead.
2) And the other thing...not sure how you could have any control over it...but we had nurses that were just fine. THEN we had this ONE nurse who really empowered us, was so encouraging about Asher's progress and how we handled things, and we just got it. Both of us felt so much more ready to advocate and handle things after her shift. I don't know how you could make that happen, but... those are the two things that helped me the most.
Well, that and friends bringing coffee and food that didn't suck balls.
I'm pretty sure she does have a few girlfriends who might be able to be there with her. On your second thought I have mentioned that to her about really being an advocate for him & that's why she can do this because he needs her too. I really wish I could help her out more, but I'm so on my own with my own kids that finding time to duck out and go help her is hard. She doesn't handle hard situations very well, she usually gets really depressed.
I am a NICU mama, and have worked as a NICU RN, so I have personal experience on both sides of the coin. If you wanted to pass along my contact information I can give you my email or number or whatever and if she wants someone to talk to I would be more than happy.
Otherwise my biggest advice is that we tend to downplay things because someone else could have it worse, or at least xyz was good. Don't. It sucks, and it's allowed to suck. She can cry, she can be upset, she can be whatever the hell she wants. No one should tell her to look for the positives, or that she's "given what she can handle". No. No no no no no. Sometimes shitty things happen, and you are allowed to be upset about it, and you are allowed to tell everyone how you feel, and you deserve hair pats and whatever else you find comforting that isn't someone trying to rationalize what is happening.
Also always be there for rounds. Ask questions, don't be afraid, and stick up for what you think you know. NICU parents are an invaluable resource because even with 0 medical training or knowledge they still know their baby best. You stare at that face, at those lips, that chest rise, everything, in a way that no nurse does. So when you think something looks different - whatever it is - speak up. Parents are such a huge part of the team.
Post by andtheheartbreakers on May 27, 2016 15:45:52 GMT -5
I went to my LLR dealers house, and got three more pairs of leggings, and a classic T. I was only going to buy two pairs of leggings, but then she had a mommy and me set and it's so cute and my little chunker fits the leggings so we match. Sold.
Also, we're striking a deal. I'm going to design her a new logo and do photography for her in exchange for product. It's pretty much the best deal ever.
AND she gave me an Amelia dress to alter into a racerback. For free. Because I mentioned I want to try it.
Post by uclameghan on May 27, 2016 16:03:12 GMT -5
Fuckity Fuck. I need somewhere to dump this and I have to put on a brave face to the outside world IRL.
The person they hired to replace me is going to have it rough. First year teacher. No marching band experience. String bass player; not a band person. Really opposite philosophy as me and I (personally) really disagree with his mentor teacher. It's going to be a rough transition for my kids and I fucking hate it. Fucking. Hate. It.
It's been heavily pouring for 2 hours straight. The lake that feeds into our creeks down here is overflowing it's dam. Because, you know, we didn't just flood last month or anything.
ETA: So, how are everyone's moves to Houston coming along? Excited?
I went to my LLR dealers house, and got three more pairs of leggings, and a classic T. I was only going to buy two pairs of leggings, but then she had a mommy and me set and it's so cute and my little chunker fits the leggings so we match. Sold.
Also, we're striking a deal. I'm going to design her a new logo and do photography for her in exchange for product. It's pretty much the best deal ever.
AND she gave me an Amelia dress to alter into a racerback. For free. Because I mentioned I want to try it.
I'm pretty sure she does have a few girlfriends who might be able to be there with her. On your second thought I have mentioned that to her about really being an advocate for him & that's why she can do this because he needs her too. I really wish I could help her out more, but I'm so on my own with my own kids that finding time to duck out and go help her is hard. She doesn't handle hard situations very well, she usually gets really depressed.
I am a NICU mama, and have worked as a NICU RN, so I have personal experience on both sides of the coin. If you wanted to pass along my contact information I can give you my email or number or whatever and if she wants someone to talk to I would be more than happy.
Otherwise my biggest advice is that we tend to downplay things because someone else could have it worse, or at least xyz was good. Don't. It sucks, and it's allowed to suck. She can cry, she can be upset, she can be whatever the hell she wants. No one should tell her to look for the positives, or that she's "given what she can handle". No. No no no no no. Sometimes shitty things happen, and you are allowed to be upset about it, and you are allowed to tell everyone how you feel, and you deserve hair pats and whatever else you find comforting that isn't someone trying to rationalize what is happening.
Also always be there for rounds. Ask questions, don't be afraid, and stick up for what you think you know. NICU parents are an invaluable resource because even with 0 medical training or knowledge they still know their baby best. You stare at that face, at those lips, that chest rise, everything, in a way that no nurse does. So when you think something looks different - whatever it is - speak up. Parents are such a huge part of the team.
Fuckity Fuck. I need somewhere to dump this and I have to put on a brave face to the outside world IRL.
The person they hired to replace me is going to have it rough. First year teacher. No marching band experience. String bass player; not a band person. Really opposite philosophy as me and I (personally) really disagree with his mentor teacher. It's going to be a rough transition for my kids and I fucking hate it. Fucking. Hate. It.
As the grand poet Elsa said "Let it go, let it gooooo"
It's hard because it's not just a random office job you left, but it's not *your* kids anymore.
I am a NICU mama, and have worked as a NICU RN, so I have personal experience on both sides of the coin. If you wanted to pass along my contact information I can give you my email or number or whatever and if she wants someone to talk to I would be more than happy.
Otherwise my biggest advice is that we tend to downplay things because someone else could have it worse, or at least xyz was good. Don't. It sucks, and it's allowed to suck. She can cry, she can be upset, she can be whatever the hell she wants. No one should tell her to look for the positives, or that she's "given what she can handle". No. No no no no no. Sometimes shitty things happen, and you are allowed to be upset about it, and you are allowed to tell everyone how you feel, and you deserve hair pats and whatever else you find comforting that isn't someone trying to rationalize what is happening.
Also always be there for rounds. Ask questions, don't be afraid, and stick up for what you think you know. NICU parents are an invaluable resource because even with 0 medical training or knowledge they still know their baby best. You stare at that face, at those lips, that chest rise, everything, in a way that no nurse does. So when you think something looks different - whatever it is - speak up. Parents are such a huge part of the team.
I don't know why, but this made me cry. It's nice to hear that sometimes things are just shitty and it's okay to be pissed/upset.
Just called sprint to inquire about using the phone internationally. I had Verizon last time and it was too expensive. So sprint has free texting, unlimited data, and only $0.20 per minute to USA and local phones. This is so awesome!
After swim class, I was in the changing room with a and I got naked to dry while I was changing him. As I was putting his diaper and was above him he pinched my nipple so hard!!! Omg kid, wtf!
Also - It's was such a good idea to Pinterest his room and put book shelves on one side of his crib and a giant giraffe on the other. On top of standing in his crib, he nows reach and push the books on the floor or pet the giraffe. Meeeeeh
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