Oh and I want to puke at the news this morning. They are reporting the fact that Amber Heard, Johnny Depp's wife have asked for a domestic violence retraining order against him.
They are saying that it is very surprising because Johnny Depp is famous and she's probably a gold digger.
We've been up since 6(normal wake up). Just getting him settled for his first nap. I'll probably try to get ready in that time. I need to run to target this morning for a bday present for the party we're going to this afternoon. It's for our friend's son who is turning 4. We haven't seen them in since Christmas and haven't met their little girl who was born in Feb. I'll need to wrap both their gifts (we got welcome gifts for the little girl along with something for her baptism a month ago that we missed due to a family commitment). We'll need to leave by 11:30 since the drive is about an hour.
And of course Z is still congested and has his cough. Residual from his cold along with teething.
We have our first date night tonight since M was born. My inlaws are coming to our house, which is a first. But Glen is driving me crazy insisting on scrubbing the house top to bottom for their arrival. We (he) keeps a pretty clean house so this is overkill. I really don't want to clean baseboards and window blinds so my inlaws can babysit.
Oh and I want to puke at the news this morning. They are reporting the fact that Amber Heard, Johnny Depp's wife have asked for a domestic violence retraining order against him.
They are saying that it is very surprising because Johnny Depp is famous and she's probably a gold digger.
ON THE NEWS! Victime shaming much?
This was awful. As much as I don't want to believe Johnny is that kind of guy, we have to stop victim shaming. Especially when the alleged is a celebrity. We don't see everything even though their life is on the public eye. I feel bad for her.
C only had two wake ups again last night, but was up for the day at 5:30 again. That wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't up for a couple of hours during the night with annoying back pain. DH and I are celebrating our anniversary today. He's taking me somewhere that's a surprise… Can't wait to find out what it is! Happy weekend!
Got a call from daycare yesterday that C had a fever of 101. Left work early and took her to the doctor, possible ear infection. She slept like shit last night (and the several previous nights). I'm glad to know why now. I'm sooooo nauseous. Our folks are coming over for a late lunch BBQ today and we're telling them about the pregnancy. AW moment: Charlotte's shirt came in
I finally got to see my nephew for the first time in person! H handled bedtime alone with both kids for the first time, he did great. Val was a bit of a fussy pants since it wasn't me putting her to bed but she slept without any issues for the win.
When I got to the NICU to see SIL the first thing that hit me so hard was how much that baby looked like my babies. I wasn't with H when she had her oldest so I never saw her as a newborn. Seeing that little guy with his head full of brown hair just made me cry. I told SIL god he looks like Max so much, she told me she has caught herself calling him Max a few times. He is just so cute & perfect. SIL had to go back to get her meds and asked me to stay with him while she was gone and would be right back. She let the nurse know I was staying & the nurse told her they would wait for her to come back and they would let her hold him after they weighed him & cleaned his bed.
I sang him a few of Val's favorite songs. He gripped my finger in his hands while I rubbed his tiny head. I told him all about his crazy cousins who can't wait to meet him. His nurse told me I was doing a good job keeping him calm & I was hired lol. SIL was gone a bit longer than expected since her nurse wanted her to wait and let her meds kick in before she got up again. She has got some crazy swelling in her legs so I see why they want her to take it easy but I know she won't.
So once she got back they were getting everything ready so she could hold him. It took them a minute to figure out the best way due to the equipment. SIL told me she feels bad about asking to hold him because of all the work it takes to get him ready. I looked at her told do not feel bad about that!! That's their job, they want you to have that time with your baby it's good for him to have his mother hold him. She was so happy holding him the look on her face was awesome it was the first smile I saw while I was there.
I stayed with her for a few hours. I got home I was beat. I was so happy to snuggle up & nurse Val this morning. I hope their lil man is on the up & up now so they can take him home soon.
H and I went out last night for our anniversary. It was so great to have a date. It's been too long since we've hung out as a couple.
Unfortunately, we came home to two sick kiddos. They both have miserable colds. DD was up crying and congested for most of the night. And Nolan woke also congested and miserable at 4.40. Ugh :-(
Good friends don't ask questions, they help hide the body.
He's just getting on my nerves. It's not 100% his fault some of it is the frustration of my sisters wedding tomorrow and how she's done NOTHING to plan and now wants me to do all these last minute things. Ryan has to go to the farm to get our trailer because sister wants to get ready in it at the hall. Then he informs me he invited his friend to go with him so they can go quading, which means I have to hem my sisters dress, make floral arrangements, favours, and much more while solo parenting a baby that's been up since 5 and is a teething mess. Plus the original plan was he would go pick it up tonight after she went to bed so he could watch her today while I ran errands.
We finally got her down for a nap and now he just wants to sit and relax for a bit and go out sometime after she wakes up. No dude. You do not get to sit and relax before going out quading. You can help with all the crap we have to do or you can go now so you're back early afternoon and are here to help. I keep asking when he's leaving and he just says he'll go when he feels like it. I'm so glad his day revolves around whatever schedule he would like.
I realize typing this out how dumb it sounds but I'm actually almost in tears over how shitty this day is.
Post by crystaleyes138 on May 28, 2016 8:23:45 GMT -5
obie1680, glad you told your SIL to not feel bad about holding her baby. I hope he's on the mend and can go home soon.
sandj918, she looks so happy despite being sick! love the shirt!
I have a stomach bug Different symptoms than what Jacob had, but it hit me around 4pm yesterday. Thankfully DH stepped it up and gave Jacob his nighttime bottle and woke up with him this morning.
Not dumb, andtheheartbreakers, I'd be mad and frustrated too. Did you tell him to go so he can be back early afternoon?
It isn't on you to make this wedding perfect. Especially if the bride hasn't been interested in working on it, herself. Do what you can and don't go crazy over it. (Hugs)
sandj918 - squee!!!! Can't wait to hear you family's reaction!!!
Today the pool opens here and it's gonna be a scorcher so will pop down.
I'm starting to organise & pack what I can for the move, I've just spent an hour in the guest closet and only managed to pack one box of baby gear. Urgh. Lucky I still have two months!
Not dumb, andtheheartbreakers, I'd be mad and frustrated too. Did you tell him to go so he can be back early afternoon?
It isn't on you to make this wedding perfect. Especially if the bride hasn't been interested in working on it, herself. Do what you can and don't go crazy over it. (Hugs)
I keep telling him to just go now, and why I want him to go now, and he's just sitting here saying how he can't go because I'm just going to be angry. And he should've known that he can't have fun.
I told him that it really sucks because I try to plan things but I have to make sure Layla is looked after. He plans things at his own leisure because of course I will look after Layla. I hate that for me it's just obvious and he doesn't need to check with me.
He knew what the plan was for today and how I needed him to look after Layla, but it's like it's nothing for him to just decide to go quading instead.
And it sucks because he got up with Layla this morning when she decided to try standing at 4 and cuddled he back to sleep, then was trying again at 5. I woke up thinking how lucky I was and then he took a sludgehammer to my happy bubble.
andtheheartbreakers, I don't want to murder my DH often, but when I do it is because he manages his time without factoring in A. He will spend the first 45 minutes of her nap staring at his phone (I do very much want to kill the guy who invited The Chive) and will then start a chore or project just as she's about to wake up. Which means I have to solo parent while he finishes says chore or project. And when I say chore/project it's usually something he enjoys anyways, like gardening.
I liken it to another step that secondary caregivers adjust to more slowly than primary caregivers. Which I get, not all brains are hard wired to immediately consider nap schedules when they plan every detail of their day. But it's not ok for him to be a cranky jerk about it. That's never ok.
I honestly suggest an ugly cry in front of him, hopefully he realizes how down and stressed you feel and will be more willing to spring into action.
andtheheartbreakers hugs. It sucks guys can be so frustrating. They just assume that they can go on like life hasn't changed sometimes. H did it a lot after DS was born. Every time he did it I would really lay into him about it. I hope your day starts going in a better direction.
andtheheartbreakers, I don't want to murder my DH often, but when I do it is because he manages his time without factoring in A. He will spend the first 45 minutes of her nap staring at his phone (I do very much want to kill the guy who invited The Chive) and will then start a chore or project just as she's about to wake up. Which means I have to solo parent while he finishes says chore or project. And when I say chore/project it's usually something he enjoys anyways, like gardening.
I liken it to another step that secondary caregivers adjust to more slowly than primary caregivers. Which I get, not all brains are hard wired to immediately consider nap schedules when they plan every detail of their day. But it's not ok to be a cranky jerk about it. That's never ok.
I honestly suggest an ugly cry in front of him, hopefully he realizes how down and stressed you feel and will be more willing to spring into action.
The Chive needs to die a slow fiery death. I swear it is the reason the man poop is 30 minutes long. Five times a day.
obie1680 You are making me tear up with your NICU posts. That little fella is so loved. You are a truly amazing sister in law, I wish I had one like you.
andtheheartbreakers, I don't want to murder my DH often, but when I do it is because he manages his time without factoring in A. He will spend the first 45 minutes of her nap staring at his phone (I do very much want to kill the guy who invited The Chive) and will then start a chore or project just as she's about to wake up. Which means I have to solo parent while he finishes says chore or project. And when I say chore/project it's usually something he enjoys anyways, like gardening.
I liken it to another step that secondary caregivers adjust to more slowly than primary caregivers. Which I get, not all brains are hard wired to immediately consider nap schedules when they plan every detail of their day. But it's not ok to be a cranky jerk about it. That's never ok.
I honestly suggest an ugly cry in front of him, hopefully he realizes how down and stressed you feel and will be more willing to spring into action.
The Chive needs to die a slow fiery death. I swear it is the reason the man poop is 30 minutes long. Five times a day.
Ps I edited my original post to clarify it is not ok for HIM to be a cranky jerk. But you had already quoted me so just wanted to make sure that was clear!
The Chive needs to die a slow fiery death. I swear it is the reason the man poop is 30 minutes long. Five times a day.
Ps I edited my original post to clarify it is not ok for HIM to be a cranky jerk. But you had already quoted me so just wanted to make sure that was clear!
andtheheartbreakersLondon I just leave the house and let SO with A when he does stuff like that. I over manage my time and I know exactly where I need to be when and how. So if he doesn't hop on my schedule train, I don't let him a choice.
Like when he had to finish cutting wood for my garden with Arthur strapped to his back haha
andtheheartbreakers, Definitely don't take on the burden of trying to make everything perfect for SIL. That's not a fair demand to put on someone, especially last minute.
Afm, we took M to the long beach aquarium and she loved it! It was such a good day. Hoping we can just relax today and catch up on sleep since we didn't get to bed until after midnight and M decided 6:30 is wake up time.
andtheheartbreakersLondon I just leave the house and let SO with A when he does stuff like that. I over manage my time and I know exactly where I need to be when and how. So if he doesn't hop on my schedule train, I don't let him a choice.
Like when he had to finish cutting wood for my garden with Arthur strapped to his back haha
I do sometimes as well, but it's hard when I need to get stuff done around the house.
Also, that picture is EVERYTHING. Papa-ing at its finest.
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