Like I explained in this weeks check in, I've been having a significant amount of bh mixed with some period-like cramping on and off every day, and Sam is ridiculously low and head down. My question for those of you that have been through pregnancies before is: did you have these symptoms at 32/33 weeks? Am I off in la-la land in thinking it might mean he comes earlier than his due date?
I think it is a total crapshoot. My son was head down for a while and I had BH somewhere in the early to mid 30 week range, and he was born at 41 weeks (in my mind, I was convinced I'd give birth around 38 weeks so it was annoying!). I never had an internal check until I was in the hospital so I have no clue when I started dilating. And don't get too invested in how dilated you are at a certain week. You can be at 3 cm for weeks - that's one reason my practice never checked unless there was reason to do so.
Post by rungirlrun on May 31, 2016 17:53:00 GMT -5
The whole mucus plug/bloody show/water breaking is so foreign to me despite having given birth before. I never had any sign of labor coming except for contractions. Even when I was in the hospital, there was some confusion with the drs and nurses if my water ever broke/if it needed to be broken. To this day, I have no clue how that all went down. Labor is weird.
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
I was told to wake DD to feed her but that was only because we had a hard time getting her back to her birth weight. I think it's fine to let them sleep, though!
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
Honestly if mine slept longer than 3 hours at night I did a song and dance and let them sleep. The only time I would suggest waking them is if they don't eat well while awake or aren't gaining weight.
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
It could be a moot point. I don't think I got more than a 3 hour stretch for 4 weeks.
Ask your pedi. Some people say every 3 hours only until they re-gain their birth weight. Babies with jaundice, babies who aren't gaining well, were low birth weight, or have other considerations, yeah. For me personally, if i take home a 9 lb baby who's eating well and wants to sleep a couple extra hours after a few days, I'm gonna take it
I don't know if anyone can really answer this, but anyone who's given birth 2+ times or has an anecdote from a friend... How similar do first and second labors tend to be in terms of how they feel, how your body contracts, etc? Do things like baby position make a huge difference on how labor presents, or does it not really matter and it's mostly the mom's body determining how labor feels and thus they tend to be similar?
With DD I was in labor about 10 hours from the very first contraction until I hit 10cm. My ctx were as painful as they ever got by like the 5th one. The entire labor, the ctx were never closer than 10 minutes apart (I had to get pitocin at the pushing phase to make them closer). I also had double-peak ctx and horrible back labor. If I believe SpinningBabies.com, all of this is due to her posterior position. But obvs that site has their own bias that everything is due to baby position.
I was so confused by my last labor being the opposite of what I expected as a FTM. Now I feel like I have no idea what to expect this time and if I'll be the crazy lady who goes to the hospital with ctx 10 min apart again (seriously F the 5-1-1 rule, if I'd listened to that I would have given birth at home).
Ray, if baby is gaining weight fine I think it's fine to let them sleep. You may not have to worry about it though my newborn definitely didn't sleep more then 3 hours at a time.
katelou I can't answer your question but I agree my first labor was so confusing and not at all what I expected. I never had a contraction just constant pain. Very interested to see what round 2 is like.
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
With DS, we never woke him up to feed. He gained weight well. But like PP said, we considered ourselves really lucky if we went more than 3 hours without a wakeup.
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
Sadly this will be a fine line with me. I really hope he takes a lot of genes after DH and doesn't end up with hypersomnia.
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
Honestly if mine slept longer than 3 hours at night I did a song and dance and let them sleep. The only time I would suggest waking them is if they don't eat well while awake or aren't gaining weight.
Me too. Some doctors recommend waking at 3 hours until they regain birthweight. Believe me, barring no issues, they wake up on their own every 2-4 hours anyway. I never woke DD because she was a little velociraptor anyway.
br] In addition to birth weight, it also depends on if you are bf or ff. Ff babies get fed roughly every 3 to 4 hours. It is thicker consistency. Bf typically every 1-2 hours. Ds was ff and like clock work would wake up every 3 or 4 hours in the beginning. But he didn't have issues with birth weight, so I never woke him up to feed.
katelou I found both my labors to be pretty similar as far as how contractions felt/went. With both I had strong contractions that started right away at around 3 minutes apart and I was lucky to get a minute break in between. My second labor was also a lot shorter.
I would think though that the posterior position of your first would make a difference with how things felt as far as contractions and the back labor. I have no experience with that but I have heard baby's position can be a factor. I also would ignore the rule and go to the hospital whenever you feel you need to. At least then they'll check you. Plus you would think with how your last went they'd take that into consideration that it could be the case again.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jun 1, 2016 12:55:18 GMT -5
katelou I have no answers but I'm thinking about my second labor in relation to my first too.
My contractions were manageable but I got an epi at 5 cm "in case" they got much worse. Then pictocin because I stalled at 6 cm and them my epi failed. Pictocin contractions were 8,000x worse for me and they were off the charts on that dumb monitor, never dipping down to resting.
I wonder if I can/should just wait it out. If mine felt the same throughout, I could totally handle unmedicated labor.
Now, I must pray this one isn't sunnyside up too because pushing was it's own ordeal for me but now I'd just ask for an episiotomy if that's the case.
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
I followed every 3 hours during the day. At night...... Yeah. I don't think she slept for more than 4 hours at a clip for 3 months. Generally, unless you have a weight issue, these kids are going to let you know when they need to eat.
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
I followed every 3 hours during the day. At night...... Yeah. I don't think she slept for more than 4 hours at a clip for 3 months. Generally, unless you have a weight issue, these kids are going to let you know when they need to eat.
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I'm starting to feel really overwhelmed with everything I feel like I don't know.
I know everyone says you just figure it out as you go, and once he's 1.5yrs it'll be "been there done that" since that's when I came into my step sons' lives but up until that point I feel lost.
If weight gain were an issue then I guess I would wake to feed, but otherwise H E L L N O. DD gave us at least one 4-5 hour stretch pretty early on, which means I also got a 4-5 hour stretch. I take my sleep very seriously!
I followed every 3 hours during the day. At night...... Yeah. I don't think she slept for more than 4 hours at a clip for 3 months. Generally, unless you have a weight issue, these kids are going to let you know when they need to eat.
TY
I'm starting to feel really overwhelmed with everything I feel like I don't know.
I know everyone says you just figure it out as you go, and once he's 1.5yrs it'll be "been there done that" since that's when I came into my step sons' lives but up until that point I feel lost.
Don't get me wrong. You will have no fucking clue. But no one has a clue. MH woke up at 300am one day to all of the lights on in our bedroom and me standing over a baby who had just fallen asleep on a pillow, with what I assume was a manic look on my face. Shit gets weird, but as long as you're trying you'll be fine. I've called my kid a bunch of horrible things in a really nice voice. It comes with the territory.
I feel the same way, Ray! Well aside from the age 1.5 thing, ha. But it comforts me that it's normal and that no one knows what the hell they are doing. I will say one comfort for me since I won't have H to help, is knowing that at least I have my mom and dad here who have done this 3 times, and we all lived to adulthood lol. I know I'll probably have panicked moments of running to one of them and them calming me down, ha.
Post by housecarder on Jun 1, 2016 14:14:24 GMT -5
Ray I had been in early childhood education for like 5 years before DD arrived and I still felt clueless. Just take it a day at a time. You will do great.
Ray don't feel bad. I had zero experience with babies and it did not come naturally for me. I think I spent the first 3 weeks of her life with my cellphone in my hand Googling "what to do when your newborn does... " I think the Kellymom (a breastfeeding website) and a site called Purple Crying (about excessive newborn crying for no reason) saved my life so many times. I seriously don't know how parents survived without the Internet.
From what I gather my MIL stayed at her parents house a ton when her daughter was born. Sadly she still thinks this is normal and wants to take my mothers place......
Do newborns always drop from their birth weight and regain it?
Pretty much. The fluctuation can be greater when mom has been given IV fluids before birth. The baby will also have extra fluid to pee off.
Some gain it back fast and some are slower. By day 2 of life my DD lost 6 oz, but gained back those 6 plus another 2 oz by day 5 of life. Generally they look for baby to be back to birthweight by 10-14 days.
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
We had to wake DS every 3 hours, but he had to stay in NICU for 9 days because of feeding issues and we also had to pump and add high calorie formula to breast milk to help him gain.
katelou, I forgot about kellymom....I used that site a lot
Ray, my son is 2.5, and I still have days where I feel unqualified to be a parent. And I've done it before, but I'm terrified to have a newborn again. I feel like I'll have no clue what I'm doing. I forgot everything I ever knew. You'll be a great mom - babies really are very resilient, and you'll figure things out as you go. No one really knows what they're doing.
And regarding feeding, I don't know about any other moms who breastfed, but if DS somehow slept longer than 2-3 hours (which rarely happened), my boobs woke me up. Nothing like waking up with rock hard boobs and milk everywhere. I couldn't get to DS fast enough to relieve me!
I keep reading that babies should be fed every 3 hoursish at first. Are they really saying I need to wake my baby up to feed him at night if he's still sleeping?
Something about waking a sleeping baby just seems so wrong lol
We had to wake DD every 2 hours to feed around the clock for the first couple weeks. She had really bad jaundice and we needed to flush out her system. Once that resolved and she was up past her birth weight we could let her sleep as long as she wanted at night. But she woke up about every 3 hours at night anyway for the first 4 months. Zzzz....
I followed every 3 hours during the day. At night...... Yeah. I don't think she slept for more than 4 hours at a clip for 3 months. Generally, unless you have a weight issue, these kids are going to let you know when they need to eat.
TY
I'm starting to feel really overwhelmed with everything I feel like I don't know.
I know everyone says you just figure it out as you go, and once he's 1.5yrs it'll be "been there done that" since that's when I came into my step sons' lives but up until that point I feel lost.
You'll do great! You'll make mistakes, but your kid won't remember! I lived by the handbook the hospital gave me at the baby basics class and asked my bmb lots of questions!
Ray, my son is 2.5, and I still have days where I feel unqualified to be a parent. And I've done it before, but I'm terrified to have a newborn again. I feel like I'll have no clue what I'm doing. I forgot everything I ever knew. You'll be a great mom - babies really are very resilient, and you'll figure things out as you go. No one really knows what they're doing.
And regarding feeding, I don't know about any other moms who breastfed, but if DS somehow slept longer than 2-3 hours (which rarely happened), my boobs woke me up. Nothing like waking up with rock hard boobs and milk everywhere. I couldn't get to DS fast enough to relieve me!
Ah. That first six hour stretch I woke up and felt on fire...but so rested.
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