Post by silverspoon on Jun 9, 2016 18:27:31 GMT -5
snd1231 I'm sorry you have to make this choice. I'm so glad to hear they can fix your pain, but it's completely understandable you're having trouble with the finality of it.
snd1231 I don't think it matters what the situation I just sucks when your choices kind of get taken away from you. Hugs. Glad it sounds like they can get you sorted out.
snd1231 I don't think it matters what the situation I just sucks when your choices kind of get taken away from you. Hugs. Glad it sounds like they can get you sorted out.
+1. Sorry you are going through this, it sounds like you have already gone through so much health wise. Life is so very unfair sometimes. It's ok to feel the feels.
Post by wholenewworld on Jun 9, 2016 20:11:43 GMT -5
Loving reading everyone's thankfulness today. I am thankful for my little family, our jobs, our house, and our health. It has been a really hard year, but after it all, I still have all that really matters to me.
Thank you all ladies! It helps me to be able to write out how I feel about it. The more I think about it the more it makes sense but there is still a part of me that is really sad about it all. But I appreciate all the support! It means a lot to me!
Me:24 DH:27 Married: 12/15/12 BFP May 2014 from IUI #2 after 8 months TTC B/G/G triplets born on 10/22/2015 at 25w5d After a total of 140 days in the NICU all three of my miracles came home!
Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 9, 2016 21:52:48 GMT -5
I'm so glad that the problem is fixable snd1231 but so sorry about the finality of no future pregnancies. You have every right to mourn that whether you wanted more kids or not. Big hugs to you!!
snd1231 you are entitled to all the feels! I am so sorry, you've had a terrible medical road for someone so young and a decision like that is something most never face. I remember crying to a friend after my oldest turned one year old that I felt so guilty for wanting another child, like this child we'd worked so hard to have and waited so many years to conceive? Somehow wasn't enough. And what she told me stuck with me. "Anyone who knows you knows you're thankful and grateful for dd1. You love her to the moon and back, that doesn't make it wrong to long for another or mourn what might have been" and of course it worked out differently for us, but I remember feeling so guilty that suddenly she wasn't "enough". You have three beautiful babies, but very few things have gone as you would have planned. Many prayers for you!!
snd1231 you are entitled to all the feels! I am so sorry, you've had a terrible medical road for someone so young and a decision like that is something most never face. I remember crying to a friend after my oldest turned one year old that I felt so guilty for wanting another child, like this child we'd worked so hard to have and waited so many years to conceive? Somehow wasn't enough. And what she told me stuck with me. "Anyone who knows you knows you're thankful and grateful for dd1. You love her to the moon and back, that doesn't make it wrong to long for another or mourn what might have been" and of course it worked out differently for us, but I remember feeling so guilty that suddenly she wasn't "enough". You have three beautiful babies, but very few things have gone as you would have planned. Many prayers for you!!
Thank you so much! This was exactly what I needed to hear tonight. Seriously. Perfect words.
Me:24 DH:27 Married: 12/15/12 BFP May 2014 from IUI #2 after 8 months TTC B/G/G triplets born on 10/22/2015 at 25w5d After a total of 140 days in the NICU all three of my miracles came home!
Post by crimsonandclover on Jun 10, 2016 5:03:49 GMT -5
snd1231, your emotions are absolutely legitimate. Even though my pregnancies have all been complicated at the end, and another would be pretty irresponsible, and 3 is really quite enough for me anyway, I mourn a bit for the finality of my tubal ligation. Even though another pregnancy would have such a high risk that I wouldn't want to do it, the fact that the possibility of another child is no longer there is sad. It's contradictory, but I think also normal. When the doctors asked repeatedly if I was sure I wanted it done and whenever friends ask, I said/say, "Oh my goodness yes we're done! Done done done!" But on the inside there's a part of me that's sad there won't be any more.
snd1231 - glad that your doctor has a plan for you, but I totally get the mourning part. Just a +1 to what everyone else has said - when DH and I finish having kids, I will definitely mourn a bit. It's totally healthy and completely legitimate!
snd1231, your emotions are absolutely legitimate. Even though my pregnancies have all been complicated at the end, and another would be pretty irresponsible, and 3 is really quite enough for me anyway, I mourn a bit for the finality of my tubal ligation. Even though another pregnancy would have such a high risk that I wouldn't want to do it, the fact that the possibility of another child is no longer there is sad. It's contradictory, but I think also normal. When the doctors asked repeatedly if I was sure I wanted it done and whenever friends ask, I said/say, "Oh my goodness yes we're done! Done done done!" But on the inside there's a part of me that's sad there won't be any more.
Exactly!! I know we are done but I'm still so sad about the possibly taken away even though I know it makes complete and total sense! Thank you for validating how I'm feeling is normal!
Me:24 DH:27 Married: 12/15/12 BFP May 2014 from IUI #2 after 8 months TTC B/G/G triplets born on 10/22/2015 at 25w5d After a total of 140 days in the NICU all three of my miracles came home!
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