Post by shedreamsincolor on Jun 12, 2016 10:33:41 GMT -5
cheshie6, like most major changes some things changed for the good and some things not. We have way less time to spend together as a couple than before, and I notice that if we let that aspect slide for too long we definitely start fighting more (usually about dumb things like chores). We try to go out just the two of us about once a month. It was amazing to watch my husband transition to being a father. He wanted kids so badly and it was just a natural transition for him. Honestly it was much harder for me to learn how to be a mom I think! He is great with DS, so hands on. Plus, watching him be a great dad is hot!!
Thank you everyone who answered! From what I have found, I have more information about how to get my dogs adjusted to baby, than I have found marriage after baby help.
cheshie6 I think DH and I might be the exception. Our relationship didn't change much honestly. We talked a lot about how we'd split chores, take turns with the baby, etc before she was born and then adjusted as needed after. It was a huge change, but it didn't send us through the tailspin I think it often does for others. If anything, it actually strengthened our relationship and helped us communicate better. The only thing that is different really is that we don't have sex often, but it's more about being tired then lack of desire. L is particularly exhausting (I've heard from many people she has more energy then any kid they've ever seen. Yay?) and at the end of the day we just want to cuddle, watch our shows, and sleep. Lol.
cheshie6 I think DH and I might be the exception. Our relationship didn't change much honestly. We talked a lot about how we'd split chores, take turns with the baby, etc before she was born and then adjusted as needed after. It was a huge change, but it didn't send us through the tailspin I think it often does for others. If anything, it actually strengthened our relationship and helped us communicate better. The only thing that is different really is that we don't have sex often, but it's more about being tired then lack of desire. L is particularly exhausting (I've heard from many people she has more energy then any kid they've ever seen. Yay?) and at the end of the day we just want to cuddle, watch our shows, and sleep. Lol.
This is us, in regards to not seeing huge changes in our relationship. And yeah, definitely less sex! The spirit is willing but the body is so, so tired sometimes
We do have a rule that nothing said between the hours of midnight and six am is taken personally--Sleep deprivation and a screaming baby can make for some less than cordial conversations!
I think early on, especially, you just have to give eachother grace. A baby is a huge adjustment, and tempers will flare, nerves will be frazzled, and patience will wear thin. Communication and a willingness to cut the other partner a break sometimes have been key for the past couple years.
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