Inlaws pool, am I being reasonable?
Jun 12, 2016 1:01:30 GMT -5
Post by angelsnight on Jun 12, 2016 1:01:30 GMT -5
My inlaws have an above ground pool. The sides are high enough that it would be pretty difficult for a child to get in, but the entrance/ladder is right off the deck and there is no gate or anything keeping a kid from climbing the ladder and getting in the pool.
E is there all day once a week, and occasionally stays the night when we go on a date night or something. Now that she isn't sleeping in a pack n play anymore, I want a gate leading to the pool.
E is their 8th (living) grandchild. My one SIL has four kids and my other has two kids. None of them apparently ever had an issue with the pool, so I am a little worried my inlaws are offended or hurt over my insistence. I get along great with my inlaws, and I do plan to talk to them about it and reiterate (I made my husband bring it up with them) why I want it.
I asked my SIL tonight if she ever worried about it, and she said no. She said she figured four other kids had survived just fine before hers, and it was never a concern of hers. But my thoughts are, what if they thought she was napping, or during an overnight visit if she got up before they did, and made her way out to the pool. I don't want them to think that I think they don't watch her, but I am sure anyone who has ever had an accident regarding a pool never thought it would happen either.
I don't think I am being unreasonable, and I am probably being paranoid about them being offended, but I just wanted others' opinions.
E is there all day once a week, and occasionally stays the night when we go on a date night or something. Now that she isn't sleeping in a pack n play anymore, I want a gate leading to the pool.
E is their 8th (living) grandchild. My one SIL has four kids and my other has two kids. None of them apparently ever had an issue with the pool, so I am a little worried my inlaws are offended or hurt over my insistence. I get along great with my inlaws, and I do plan to talk to them about it and reiterate (I made my husband bring it up with them) why I want it.
I asked my SIL tonight if she ever worried about it, and she said no. She said she figured four other kids had survived just fine before hers, and it was never a concern of hers. But my thoughts are, what if they thought she was napping, or during an overnight visit if she got up before they did, and made her way out to the pool. I don't want them to think that I think they don't watch her, but I am sure anyone who has ever had an accident regarding a pool never thought it would happen either.
I don't think I am being unreasonable, and I am probably being paranoid about them being offended, but I just wanted others' opinions.