I'm MIA because of residency and stuff. But I think we are done trying for now. I've been too anxious, too depressed. It's not enjoyable to even think about babies anymore. So no more treatments for us. I might try acupuncture for my anxiety but at this point I don't have my hopes up for much. I'll try to be around lurking you ladies. You all are wonderful women.
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I'm MIA because of residency and stuff. But I think we are done trying for now. I've been too anxious, too depressed. It's not enjoyable to even think about babies anymore. So no more treatments for us. I might try acupuncture for my anxiety but at this point I don't have my hopes up for much. I'll try to be around lurking you ladies. You all are wonderful women.
Big hugs to you. Take care of yourself and I hope you can get the anxiety under control. Mine has also been more intense the past couple weeks. It's no fun.
thechickencoop yes betas are tomorrow. I don't even want to go. BFN today. Love taking time out of my day to get poked just for someone to tell me what I already know...
thechickencoop yes betas are tomorrow. I don't even want to go. BFN today. Love taking time out of my day to get poked just for someone to tell me what I already know...
Hi all. I've been MIA for the past week or so. My grandmother was in a car accident in Louisiana (my family is in PA, I live in NY), so after things started looking bad, we all dropped everything and flew down here Saturday. She's doing okay for her injuries (spinal cord injuries), but it's really rough.
Anyway, my period finally started last Wednesday or Thursday and I need to get an HSG in by Saturday. I'll be back in NY on Wednesday so I guess I'll try for Thursday. I'm flying back into Philly (Tuesday night red eye flight), so it's another 2.5 hour trip, which makes it hard to guess what a good time would be Wednesday. If I can even get on a flight tomorrow, that is. My aunt is still here and she was supposed to leave Sunday. Her flights keep getting canceled for weather. I hate that I'm even worrying about this considering the circumstances, but if I have another 50 or 60 day cycle, I'm looking at not even starting until 3 months from now, probably.
How stressful. I hope your grandmother has a smooth recovery.
thechickencoop yes betas are tomorrow. I don't even want to go. BFN today. Love taking time out of my day to get poked just for someone to tell me what I already know...
I'm sorry for the BFN.
Do all of your RE's schedule betas when you're doing treatment? Or is it just for IUI or IVF? I'm just curious. I'm doing medicated cycle and did not get scheduled for betas, I was just told to take a HPT and call. I'm glad for the reason you mentioned.
thechickencoop yes betas are tomorrow. I don't even want to go. BFN today. Love taking time out of my day to get poked just for someone to tell me what I already know...
I'm sorry for the BFN.
Do all of your RE's schedule betas when you're doing treatment? Or is it just for IUI or IVF? I'm just curious. I'm doing medicated cycle and did not get scheduled for betas, I was just told to take a HPT and call. I'm glad for the reason you mentioned.
Mine only does Betas after an IUI if you get a +HPT. Otherwise, just call or email on CD 1.
Post by easilyunamused on Jun 14, 2016 11:22:46 GMT -5
butlerfan, I really try to not let opp bother me, but man, you are right. It's just not fair sometimes. I'm glad your licensing worker got back to you!
lgraceh, I'm sorry you've found yourself here, but welcome!
ceejay , Interesting that you would get the birth moms baby right away. When would you find out?
Typically, if there is an open foster care case, any new children born to the same parents while the case is ongoing will automatically come into care as well. Not always, and it can vary by state and situation. But in our case, our caseworker has already mentioned that any new baby born to the bio parents would come into foster care, and we would be the first choice of foster home to keep the bio siblings together. H and I have already decided that we would take the baby if we were asked to.
We hope to find out either way next week at the next court date, but that would be after we would have to decide if we want to do an IUI cycle. I still feel torn about what to do....
ceejay , Interesting that you would get the birth moms baby right away. When would you find out?
Typically, if there is an open foster care case, any new children born to the same parents while the case is ongoing will automatically come into care as well. Not always, and it can vary by state and situation. But in our case, our caseworker has already mentioned that any new baby born to the bio parents would come into foster care, and we would be the first choice of foster home to keep the bio siblings together. H and I have already decided that we would take the baby if we were asked to.
We hope to find out either way next week at the next court date, but that would be after we would have to decide if we want to do an IUI cycle. I still feel torn about what to do....
I could see how that would be a difficult decision to make. If it were me, I'd probably wait until we knew for sure she was pregnant to do the IUI. If she is, would you want to wait to have bio children of your own? Sorry if I'm being too nosey.
Typically, if there is an open foster care case, any new children born to the same parents while the case is ongoing will automatically come into care as well. Not always, and it can vary by state and situation. But in our case, our caseworker has already mentioned that any new baby born to the bio parents would come into foster care, and we would be the first choice of foster home to keep the bio siblings together. H and I have already decided that we would take the baby if we were asked to.
We hope to find out either way next week at the next court date, but that would be after we would have to decide if we want to do an IUI cycle. I still feel torn about what to do....
I could see how that would be a difficult decision to make. If it were me, I'd probably wait until we knew for sure she was pregnant to do the IUI. If she is, would you want to wait to have bio children of your own? Sorry if I'm being too nosey.
If she is pregnant, we would probably wait. H and I have always wanted to grow our family primarily by adoption but hoped to have one biological child as well. But it's just hard to make plans for our family when we don't know for sure what will happen with our foster children. We hope to adopt them someday but won't know for sure for a while.
I'm also feeling torn because we already did 2 natural cycles after our first IUI back in April, and this would be natural cycle #3. And we will be out of town in the middle of the following cycle so we'd have to skip that one too. I'm not sure if we should keep waiting or just go ahead.
ceejay, this may be unsolicited advice, but I think in your situation, I'd go ahead with the IUI. There are too many unknowns, especially since you don't KNOW she is pregnant.
ceejay you are between a rock and a hard place on this right now. I say go for the IUI but if it worked would that impact you from being able to take in a third foster child to keep the family together?
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ironbaby - thanks. I appreciate any and all advice, because I keep going back and forth in my head, and when I ask H what he wants to do, he says that whatever I want to do is fine. It's good to hear other perspectives from people who are more removed from the situation.
butlerfan - even if the IUI miraculously worked and if bio mom actually is pregnant too, we are still planning to take the third foster baby if asked. Which is what makes me so nervous... having 4 kids in the house age 3 and under. H says he thinks that would be fun to have kids so close in age but I don't know if he realizes what he is saying.
thechickencoop yes betas are tomorrow. I don't even want to go. BFN today. Love taking time out of my day to get poked just for someone to tell me what I already know...
I'm sorry for the BFN.
Do all of your RE's schedule betas when you're doing treatment? Or is it just for IUI or IVF? I'm just curious. I'm doing medicated cycle and did not get scheduled for betas, I was just told to take a HPT and call. I'm glad for the reason you mentioned.
Ive done IUIs and my RE doesn't schedule betas unless I get a positive.
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TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
butlerfan, I really try to not let opp bother me, but man, you are right. It's just not fair sometimes. I'm glad your licensing worker got back to you!
lgraceh, I'm sorry you've found yourself here, but welcome!
thechickencoop yes betas are tomorrow. I don't even want to go. BFN today. Love taking time out of my day to get poked just for someone to tell me what I already know...
I'm sorry for the BFN.
Do all of your RE's schedule betas when you're doing treatment? Or is it just for IUI or IVF? I'm just curious. I'm doing medicated cycle and did not get scheduled for betas, I was just told to take a HPT and call. I'm glad for the reason you mentioned.
Yeah at my RE office they make you do betas with any treatment. One cycle I legit had my period already and called to ask if I could skip going and they told me no.
Post by thechickencoop on Jun 14, 2016 16:00:14 GMT -5
So my non-update update; RE called, since all of our RPL testing is normal aside from slightly low progesterone, we're going to go for 3 more natural cycles + Crinone for 12 days starting at 3dpo. So...exactly what I thought we'd be doing.
Post by teachermomtobe on Jun 14, 2016 16:04:45 GMT -5
PNR, back to tag later.
I'm just tracking my HCG to 0. It went from 25 on Friday to 10 on Monday so that's good. I get to wait a whole week now for more blood, that every 48 hours was killing me! I started finding out the cost of the IVF meds and dealing with insurance on that so that we'll be prepared in July when it's time to start IVF.
QOTW: I probably would have stopped BCPs sooner so that I knew I wasn't O'ing even sooner so I could have gone to a RE even sooner. As it is we were pretty aggressive with getting the ball rolling. For some reason in my heart I knew it wasn't going to be a quick journey for us so I think I have been as well prepared for all this as one can be.
So my non-update update; RE called, since all of our RPL testing is normal aside from slightly low progesterone, we're going to go for 3 more natural cycles + Crinone for 12 days starting at 3dpo. So...exactly what I thought we'd be doing.
We'll see ::shrug::
good luck!
Thanks I should O this upcoming weekend so at least we have plenty of time for good timing this cycle.
Post by teachermomtobe on Jun 14, 2016 20:45:01 GMT -5
mustloveerica, Hope your baseline went well today! ironbaby, glad your IUI went well @wallflwr926, Hope you get insurance sorted out soon so you can get some answers to your pain wannabmama, Sorry your body is being an asshole. I hope you can find a way to do IVF and the trip. daisy818, Hugs for CD1 jense927, FX for you butlerfan, I'm sorry about not being told about your cousin. You're totally allowed a life isn't fair mentality right now lgraceh, Welcome and sorry you're here. FX for you but I totally hear you on feeling down about it all sometimes ceejay, How do you feel about the possibility of having another foster child? kawaiikitsune, Yay for doing something!! JustJudy, Yay for finding a RE and moving forward soon!
Post by teachermomtobe on Jun 15, 2016 19:35:41 GMT -5
I'm being a terrible GKUer this week so I'm back for more tags.
setsuna17, We love you, take care of yourself. @yaga, So sorry to hear about your grandmother's accident. Glad she's doing okay and I hope things keep improving. Also, FX you can schedule your HSG. @irish, my RE does betas for any medicated cycle (TI, IUI, or IVF) thechickencoop, good luck!
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