Post by rachelilly23 on Jun 18, 2016 2:06:21 GMT -5
My student loans are also killing me. My dad offered to pay for my whole education at Penn State and buy me any car I wanted when I graduated. I instead went to a highly expensive, highly selective private school and graduated with $40k of debt and a lot of anxiety. That place was freaking hard and there were so many times I wanted out. I sort of regret not taking my dad's deal, but my life would be very different.
I SAH, but not particularly by choice. Mostly because H is a naval intelligence officer and we are stationed in east bumble GA where there was nothing for what I did when we moved there 4 years ago. We'll be paying my loans until I'm 42. My degree is collecting dust. H went to the same college, but his tuition was at least paid for with ROTC scholarship. I don't know anyone that I went to school with that is a SAH parent. They all work, and they all make a lot of money. I used to be able to say the same. Our debt situation haunts me quite a bit, but I know it's at least getting better since H is about to promote this November.
I don't have as much of an issue with not working now as I did in the beginning because I have an autistic 3 year old that needs me. I likely would have had to quit working to get him to his therapies. But having children at 25 really took my career away. I made it work for the first 2 years after DS1 was born, but he's 6 now and I haven't been able to go back to work. I would like to eventually, but my degree will probably be worthless and I'll have to go into more debt for a master's.
I also regret trying to maintain friendships with people who have basically fallen off the planet. My supposed best friend hasn't called me in months and I'm tired of being the only one who makes the calls.
I'm here too. My "bff" has lived across the country for 5yrs and is moving back to the state this month. Our friendship has been rocky since my MCs and just being in different stages in our lives.
TTC since Sept 2012 M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13 Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/15...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14 ***BFP #3 7/4/15, LO born 3/17/16***
I also regret trying to maintain friendships with people who have basically fallen off the planet. My supposed best friend hasn't called me in months and I'm tired of being the only one who makes the calls.
I'm here too. My "bff" has lived across the country for 5yrs and is moving back to the state this month. Our friendship has been rocky since my MCs and just being in different stages in our lives.
Mine got a new boyfriend and so now I'm not important, I guess. She lives out of state but told me she would come to my baby shower, then bailed without even RSVPing to the host. She emailed and said she couldn't afford to come.
Probably because she went on an international trip the same weekend with the boyfriend.
I'm here too. My "bff" has lived across the country for 5yrs and is moving back to the state this month. Our friendship has been rocky since my MCs and just being in different stages in our lives.
Mine got a new boyfriend and so now I'm not important, I guess. She lives out of state but told me she would come to my baby shower, then bailed without even RSVPing to the host. She emailed and said she couldn't afford to come.
Probably because she went on an international trip the same weekend with the boyfriend.
Mine has repeatedly not told me she was going to be in OK and then I see on fb she is here. Or she texts me and wants to meet the next day. Ummm I have a life too, dude. I can't drop everything at the last minute to drive over a hour to meet you.
Then last month we made plans 3weeks in advance. She was going to be here like 5 days. Don't hear anything else from her so I text her the day before to touch base/confirm. She gives this huge convoluted story about having to cancel but says she will be back in a few weeks. I haven't heard from her since. And I know for fact she's been back once since then bc she posted a pic on fb at a wedding here.
I mean this is the same friend who text me she was upset I didn't tell her personally about being pg. (we basically told no1 besides fam IRL till on announcement at 19wks) She makes it all about her.
TTC since Sept 2012 M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13 Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/15...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14 ***BFP #3 7/4/15, LO born 3/17/16***
TTC since Sept 2012 M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13 Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/15...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14 ***BFP #3 7/4/15, LO born 3/17/16***
With you, I still have no backbone. Mean girls in high school took every ounce of self confidence I had, and I'll never get all of it back.
I kind of regret not making friends a priority. I have a few really good friends, but they're all in different circles. I wouldn't mind a best friend, and a group of girls to get together with. Kind of ties into the confidence thing though.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
Post by roseinbloom on Jun 20, 2016 6:30:40 GMT -5
Nothing I can do about this, but I regret that somehow I ended up with the life my sister always wanted while she seems to be going through the rougher life I always expected to have. She's the better of the two of us, and she deserves this one.
For Bud, my biggest regrets are that breastfeeding has failed and that he's unlikely to get a sibling within 2 years due to timing issues. I had always wanted them to be close. The toughest regret is yet to come, though, when I leave my guys and go back to school abroad.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
Nothing I can do about this, but I regret that somehow I ended up with the life my sister always wanted while she seems to be going through the rougher life I always expected to have. She's the better of the two of us, and she deserves this one.
For Bud, my biggest regrets are that breastfeeding has failed and that he's unlikely to get a sibling within 2 years due to timing issues. I had always wanted them to be close. The toughest regret is yet to come, though, when I leave my guys and go back to school abroad.
It didn't fail. You are not a failure!!! You tried your best and it didn't work. That is ok, and you are still a great mom!
Nothing I can do about this, but I regret that somehow I ended up with the life my sister always wanted while she seems to be going through the rougher life I always expected to have. She's the better of the two of us, and she deserves this one.
For Bud, my biggest regrets are that breastfeeding has failed and that he's unlikely to get a sibling within 2 years due to timing issues. I had always wanted them to be close. The toughest regret is yet to come, though, when I leave my guys and go back to school abroad.
It didn't fail. You are not a failure!!! You tried your best and it didn't work. That is ok, and you are still a great mom!
Thank you. That wasn't what I meant--that I'm a failure as a mom--but it was kind and took the sting out of it a little.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
Post by ltlbandito on Jun 20, 2016 14:56:03 GMT -5
I have regrets from my first pregnancy. Things I wish I'd done or things I wish I'd known but I know did the best I could with the information I had. Plus even if things had been done differently there's no guarantee that the outcome would have been different especially since symptoms that would have indicated something was wrong didn't manifest until after A was born when it was too late for her.
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