Wednesday!!

[bighair12]

Good morning ladies!! Hopefully everybody is having an excellent day!

[babyzebra]

I had an OB appointment this morning. I am exactly 0cm dilated. I lost more weight and I'm dehydrated. I'm going back on Monday for a membrane sweep and then will be induced next Friday if she's not here by then. I'm going to choose to be happy today.

[microworm]

Jun 15, 2016 10:35:05 GMT -5 babyzebra said:

I had an OB appointment this morning. I am exactly 0cm dilated. I lost more weight and I'm dehydrated. I'm going back on Monday for a membrane sweep and then will be induced next Friday if she's not here by then. I'm going to choose to be happy today.

We have the same due date, I believe - the 24th. So your Dr will induce on your due date? Is it because of how sick you are feeling/losing weight?

[soultrane]

Hope you start feeling better soon babyzebra!

[babyzebra]

Jun 15, 2016 10:37:35 GMT -5 microworm said:

Jun 15, 2016 10:35:05 GMT -5 babyzebra said:

I had an OB appointment this morning. I am exactly 0cm dilated. I lost more weight and I'm dehydrated. I'm going back on Monday for a membrane sweep and then will be induced next Friday if she's not here by then. I'm going to choose to be happy today.

We have the same due date, I believe - the 24th. So your Dr will induce on your due date? Is it because of how sick you are feeling/losing weight?

Yeah. She said she's not going to have me sitting around vomiting all day and losing weight longer than I have to. Because of that though, she said there is a chance that my date could get bumped to early the next week if they have a lot of women with pre-e or other issues that are obviously more of a concern than dehydration and weight loss.

[microworm]

Jun 15, 2016 10:42:45 GMT -5 babyzebra said:

Jun 15, 2016 10:37:35 GMT -5 microworm said:

We have the same due date, I believe - the 24th. So your Dr will induce on your due date? Is it because of how sick you are feeling/losing weight?

Yeah. She said she's not going to have me sitting around vomiting all day and losing weight longer than I have to. Because of that though, she said there is a chance that my date could get bumped to early the next week if they have a lot of women with pre-e or other issues that are obviously more of a concern than dehydration and weight loss.

Gotcha. Sorry you are feeling so shitty!

[soultrane]

I'm trying to figure out what to do today. Little guy slept from 11:30-5 so I feel like a new woman!

[babyzebra]

Jun 15, 2016 10:45:31 GMT -5 soultrane said:

I'm trying to figure out what to do today. Little guy slept from 11:30-5 so I feel like a new woman!

That's a great stretch, I hope he keeps that up!

[Flair Underwood]

Whooo, soultrane!!! Victory!!

AFM - today's baby blues are circling around the fact that I'm tired of feeling like a fat, squishy, undesirable hag. I'm hoping these feelings are gone in a week or so. They said typical blues stick around for about two weeks, but longer that is PPD. So... A week to go.

[soultrane]

My hormones were all over the place in the first week or so Flair Underwood, so I hope yours start to regulate soon. Is it possible for you to take some time for you any time soon? Run a quick errand by yourself? Go grab a coffee or ice cream, or a beer if you're feeling totally wild? Feeling like your normal self instead of just a mom for a little bit couldn't hurt. Hugs, lady!

[vivela]

babyzebra, I'm sorry you are so miserable and didn't get better news about your progress, but now there is an end in sight! I hope the rest of the week isn't too rough on you.

LO has a blocked tear duct. I don't know if it is bothering him, but he would NOT go down last night. It was a second night of trying to get him to sleep from midnight to 5am. Then DH came in to kiss us goodbye at 10:30 before work, which is sweet, but LO woke up and immediately started fussing to be fed. I might tell him to leave us be in the mornings from now on.

[vivela]

Jun 15, 2016 10:51:05 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

AFM - today's baby blues are circling around the fact that I'm tired of feeling like a fat, squishy, undesirable hag. I'm hoping these feelings are gone in a week or so. They said typical blues stick around for about two weeks, but longer that is PPD. So... A week to go.

I hear you on being squishy, Flair. Right now I'm just trying to enjoy the tiger stripe comparison because I have a lot of them! I'm just more decorative now...
My hospital called me yesterday. I guess they follow up with all new moms to watch for PPD. My levels of anxiety and guilt started to lift around the week and a half mark, which they said was standard. Being more tired some days than others also makes it tough to differentiate between blues and being exhausted.

[pbandj714]

I hope the baby blues hit the road for you soon Flair Underwood!

I have a growth scan this afternoon. Hoping to hear that I have some big babies in there! They're both still wiggling around like crazy in there, but no signs of wanting out. Sigh. I can do this until Monday.

[bighair12]

Flair and vivela totally agree on the feeling down on ones self. Everytime I get out of the shower I feel crappy. DD1 asked why I had a front butt the other night. The vertical scar is so ugly.

[Flair Underwood]

Thanks for the internet hugs, guys.... Glad to hear that this feeling at this point Is normal. I hate how crazy I feel when I randomly just cry about something stupid.

bighair12... My DD keeps asking me if I'm growing another baby since my tummy is still so big. Bless their hearts.

[woodengirl07]

I should have named my daughter Houdini! Last night we put her in her swaddle sack (first time, she's finally big enough) and by the first time she woke up, she had gotten both arms and one leg out of the thing. It is like a baby straight jacket and she escaped.

[titania]

babyzebra sorry about a disappointing appointment, but yay for having an end date! Here's hoping she decides to come earlier!

soultrane that is great!

I'm so sorry Flair Underwood hopefully the blues clears out soon.

Sorry for the rough night vivela! What do you have to do for a blocked duct? Anything special or just wait until it clears out? Hopefully if that is what is causing the fussiness it is resolved soon.

good luck at the scan pbandj714!

Hugs bighair12! I think you are a total badass for everything you went through, but hopefully the scar reminder will fade with a bit of time.

[babyzebra]

Sorry for those of you feeling down about yourself and overall baby blues. It's hard to feel so out of control of your emotions. I remember having a hysterical breakdown about 1 week PP with DS because I put too much sugar in my coffee. It's hard. Big hugs to you all.

[vivela]

MIL is on my last nerve. She has killed the goodwill she generated when she was actually really positive and nice to be around when she visited. I'm going to vent here so I don't send her a nasty email.
A couple days ago she texted DH to tell him he needs to be more in touch with his brother and dad because they interpret his lack of communication about M as DH "not loving them anymore". She also texted yesterday to tell DH he is a bad friend for not texting more with his childhood best friend about M.
Never mind that DH's brother had a baby a few months ago and barely sent us anything about it. Never mind that his dad hasn't made the effort to call us either. Never mind that DH's best friend got secretly married 3 months ago and JUST told DH. And the thing is, DH is fine with all of that. He's not much for calling and texting, he's an in-person kind of friend and most of his friends and family get that about him and are often similar people. When they need him they text me! It might not be his best quality, but I don't think his grown ass relatives are devastated by it. MIL is the only one who thinks the number of texts and photos you send someone equal how much you care about them.
DH is the father of a 10 day old and he has just returned to work. He has a lot on his mind, and if people want photos they can text us and ask or look on Facebook. He doesn't need guilt trips from MIL on top of everything else.
Grrr.
Cookies for reading this long post, but it feels good to organize my thoughts about why this is pissing me off so much.

[vivela]

titania I called the pedi and they said to just wipe away crusties in the eye with a warm, wet washcloth and lightly massage the corner of the eye from time to time, so no big deal unless it gets infected. I guess it is pretty common for the first few months.

[titania]

vivela wow I can't believe she would put more stress on her son who just had a baby and is just back at work! I understand why you are frustrated with her! That is super annoying.

[soultrane]

vivela, I'll never understand why so many people feel so entitled when it comes to other people sharing news. I'm sorry she's being ridiculous, especially since it sounds like she's the only one who is worried about it. It sounds like she's bored, and looking for something to complain about.

I got a bit of flack from someone for sharing updates about C via a mass text message (consisting only of our immediate family members) when he was in the NICU because someone felt that we should be calling everyone individually with such personal news.

Yeah, it's personal. And it was our news to share and our choice of how we relayed information to everyone. It was a hell of a lot easier to share it with everyone at once rather than making 10 separate phone calls every time we got news. We just ignored the critics (and may have removed them from the text chain ) and went on about our business. Anyone who criticizes someone with a newborn for their method of communication can suck it.

/rant over. I've apparently been holding that in for a while.

[babyzebra]

vivela your MIL needs to mind her own business and let grown ass adults speak up for themselves if something is bothering them....also I hope the tear duct issues resolves soon!

[babyzebra]

soultrane yeah because people with a newborn in the NICU have lots of free time on their hands to spend making 10 individual calls versus 1 text...sorry that you had to deal with that!

[2dogs2kids]

Flair Underwood hope the blue don't last much longer for you!

vivela sorry for the MIL drama.

AFM, this might be TMI but DH and I have DTD a few times lately. One because I'm hoping to jump start labor and two because I know once baby is here it will be a while. Afterwards my pelvis kills and feels weak, like to the point that it's difficult to walk. After a day it gets better but is this normal? With DS I was put on pelvic rest at 20 weeks so I have no idea. My friend mentioned that I had quite the pregnancy waddle going on and I told her why and she said she never experienced that and now has me worried that I should be calling the dr. But I don't really want to call if it's normal or nothing to worry about.

[soultrane]

Jun 15, 2016 12:34:15 GMT -5 babyzebra said:

soultrane yeah because people with a newborn in the NICU have lots of free time on their hands to spend making 10 individual calls versus 1 text...sorry that you had to deal with that!

Eh, it's par for the course with this person. She just expected to be notified of all changes first and was salty that she was hearing everything at the same time as everyone else. Anyone with a newborn, nicu or not, has no time to stroke someone else's ego.

Again vivela, this is her problem, not yours. Keep doing what you're doing and enjoy those baby snuggles!!

[Flair Underwood]

vivela - I think our MIL's went to the same school of getting into other people's business. Sorry.

2dogs2kids - i wouldn't worry. It's probably the position your hips get into when you DTD. Your ligaments and joints are so loose at this point and even the most normal movements can make them feel awful.

[soultrane]

Ok, so I try to not get too political on here because this is my escape from real life, but this has me fired up.

With everything that has happened in Orlando this week, a facebook friend just posted an article about the alligator at Disney with the caption "I guess Obama is going to try to ban alligators now. lol"

1. WTF?
2. WTAF?
3. Using the events in Orlando as a punchline is making my blood boil.
4. This person works with small children and I just can't wrap my head around this reaction.
5. Once again, WTF?

[vivela]

soultrane That is bizarre that your relative expected special snowflake updates about your baby in the NICU. Some people have no perspective.
Your idiot Facebook friend doesn't realize nothing involving Orlando is "lol"? That is just gross.

[manybellsdown]

soultrane WTF? Any lol near either event is totallllyyyyyy WTF.