Weaning off night pacifier

[cowplanet]

Now that A has popped a tooth, she's sleeping better at night. However, she still has multiple wakeups when she can't find her pacifier after knocking it out of the crib. H & I are trying to come up with a sleep training plan (I read stuff, he doesn't, so that's fun) and shift her sleep association from the bottle and pacifier. Originally, I wanted to shift her association from the bottle to a lovey and also just focus on getting her to self-soothe, but now I'm open to weaning from the pacifier, since she won't soothe without it and that's the source of us getting out of bed multiple times a night. 

Has anyone weaned their kid off a night pacifier? I have Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution with a section on it, but I know YMMV applies to babies, too. Am I embarking on a hellacious journey and need vodka to get through it?

Feber isn't entirely out, but after our own toe-dipping and speaking with DC, CIO seems to just wind her up - she doesn't cycle, she just escalates. We've seen her cycle cry regarding other things. So I'd like to try gentler techniques first and CIO as a last resort.

HALP!

[andtheheartbreakers]

We used the Sleepeasy method with Layla which is gentle cry it out. We did it when she was 4 months and it went perfectly. She cried 17 minutes the first night but then that was it and she hasn't wanted anything to do with a soother since.

[London]

Everyone has their own threshold for what constitutes CIO and how that impacts their own kiddo, but +1 for SleepEasy. It got us to the point of STTN and helped us through a few smaller sleep issues since.

[cowplanet]

I've read and attempted SleepEasy and she cried non-stop for a full hour (H had started this without my knowledge). So, CIO is currently a last resort. We're more interested in weaning the pacifier right now, since losing it MOTN seems to be her trigger.

ETA: I should say, I've read SleepEasy but H did not and his CIO attempt was, um, dire. But our later attempts and graduated CIO were abandoned after an hour because all she did was get worked up and wouldn't even calm down during soothing times until we got her milk drunk.

[emejay]

We also did Sleepeasy and he has been STTN since. We haven't weaned the pacifier since he only uses it at night and for now it's not an issue. We have a mesh bumper and he has 2 Paris in his crib which he's able to grad and out back in his mouth

[cowplanet]

emejay, we try to only give her the pacifier for sleeping, though she is a little magpie and collects them around the house. We take them away as soon as we catch her and say, "you're not sleeping, no bink!" Last night when she was tired and it was bedtime, I delayed in giving her the binkie while gathering stuff up and she started winding up for a meltdown, which stopped the second she had it. Then after she pushed the bottle away, I delayed the binkie and kept the lovey by her cheek, she started fussing for it. I debated whether to give it to her and finally did, because H and I need to have a written out plan on how we're going to do this and need to also decide how we're gonna handle DC.

She knocks her binkies out of the crib in her sleep, so if she can't find it quickly while groggy, she wakes up fully and hollers for us. From all the different sleep training stuff I'm reading, we need to break her sleep association with the binkie in order to have success with whatever method we try. And the sooner you break them of the binkie, the "easier" it tends to be. I've thought about the mesh bumpers, but kept reading reviews with them sagging, feet getting caught, or kids just tossing the binkies over it. I thought about just putting the binks in a little cubby box in her favorite corner of the crib, so she can just grab when she's drowsy, but considering she likes to line them up like soldiers and march them around, I figured this would NOT be helpful for sleep.

And top it off, there are some longitudinal studies that show being attentive and comforting with nightwakings actually pays off with better sleep in preschool than those doing gradual extinction/CIO. FML. Just can't win at parenting. I give up. I'll be at the bar.

[BookishMomma]

Another vote for the amazingness that is Sleepeasy. It worked for us, too. They have some advice in there specific to pacifiers.

ETA: I should have read your second post before responding. I stand by my love for Sleepeasy, though.

[eliza040502]

+whatever for sleepeasy. We went cold turkey in the paci since that seemed to be causing most of his issues (he would wake on transition after losing it and need boob to go back to sleep). We tried CiO at four months and he got worse and worse as the days went by. We stopped and did it again at six months. At that point he could roll. He flipped to his belly and went to sleep without the paci.

We pulled the paci from him at nighttime but kept it for daycare for another few weeks. Then we had them stop too (cold turkey).

He now only gets it in the car when he's upset.

[cowplanet]

Aren't CIO and Sleepeasy the same thing? I've read Ferber and Sleepeasy ... and they were the same? It's just a different brand; Sleepeasy is just a shorter book. Most of the sleep training out seems like repackaged Ferber, but maybe I'm missing something.

Did you do anything when you night-weaned the binkie? Or you just pulled it and started graduated CIO/soothe intervals?

I know we missed prime sleep training window (4-6 months) but we were in near-constant sickness. Now she finally seems to be healthy for more than a week at time (but we're constantly sick now), so hopefully we can start without having to abandon it due to croup, ear infections, or whatever else.

[tsmith312]

I'm really no help this early in the game . The toddler has been completely paci free since 18 months . The toddler and now LO got the paci taken away except for sleep time use at 6 months .

But both girls have this :

www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0013N3VPY/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?qid=1466103554&sr=8-1&keywords=bunnies+by+the+bay+pacifier+holder&pi=SY200_QL40

It's a paci holder / lovey . LO can find it during the night and put her paci in , so there's no searching for paci in the middle of the night . And now that the toddler is completely off the paci she still just sleeps with it .

[cocopuff]

I'm no help since A slept with a paci until shortly after her 2nd birthday and M aggressively and loudly refused one from birth.

But with A at this age, we just put a bunch in her crib with her; like 6-10. That way there was always one within reach.