Post by rungirlrun on Jun 17, 2016 21:18:59 GMT -5
melody330, dinner time is often a struggle with us too. If mac n cheese isn't on the menu, DS will so often take 2 bites and say all done. It's so frustrating because we always put stuff on his plate that he likes. Sometimes he will come around and will eat more than 2 bites, but some days, dinner just doesn't happen. Besides sleep, eating has probably been the most frustrating/stressful thing for me regarding kids. Hang in there. It's totally normal for toddlers to act that way.
melody330, dinner time is often a struggle with us too. If mac n cheese isn't on the menu, DS will so often take 2 bites and say all done. It's so frustrating because we always put stuff on his plate that he likes. Sometimes he will come around and will eat more than 2 bites, but some days, dinner just doesn't happen. Besides sleep, eating has probably been the most frustrating/stressful thing for me regarding kids. Hang in there. It's totally normal for toddlers to act that way.
My kid is the same way about dinner. He has a limited menu that he will eat from (no veggies unless in pouch form). It is so frustrating!
How to freak an introvert out. Say you expect to see your grandchild weekly or at least bi weekly. I really wish we had moved to Washington. These social butterflies are trying to kill me.
How to freak an introvert out. Say you expect to see your grandchild weekly or at least bi weekly. I really wish we had moved to Washington. These social butterflies are trying to kill me.
I'm not even an introvert and I had to shut down my MIL. Newborns are overwhelming, much less feeling like you have to entertain people while adjusting to the new life.
How to freak an introvert out. Say you expect to see your grandchild weekly or at least bi weekly. I really wish we had moved to Washington. These social butterflies are trying to kill me.
Her saying it doesn't make it so! YOU are the mom and, in many ways, the new head of a family, your family. My biggest advice to all ftms is set your boundaries (nicely, firmly) NOW because it only gets harder.
Post by housecarder on Jun 18, 2016 9:16:01 GMT -5
So after bragging on how great the girls were nursing the pediatrician came in and informed me that even though I was producing great, and they were nursing fine, because they were such lazy eaters they were losing weight and had hit a loss of 8% of their birth weight, and that if that hit 10% they'd recommend supplementing. So he sent a lactation consultant in who gave me a nice "you need to wake them up and then pump after and offer them anything you can get too" speech and how we really need to stay on it and make sure they eat and call her if they don't.
So fast forward to about lunch time. I've had so many people in and out (doctors, family, nurses) that I have barely had time to nurse, much less pump, and we finally kick everyone out and H snaps at me (he was overwhelmed, over tired, and anxious) so I start crying. H goes and lays down in the adjoining area for guests and falls asleep and the girls start crying to eat. So I try to get everything set up to tandem get them up to nurse and they just won't latch, they just keep crying. So I start crying harder. I can feel snot start running down my face and everything gets all puffy from the post partum swelling, and I'm just quietly begging the girls to calm down and eat.
They finally get latched but I have to hold each one a certain way and there is no way I'm letting go to try and find a tissue. About this time the nurse walks in to check on me and I'm sitting here, top down, baby on each boob, tears and snot running down my puffy face, just staring off into nothing. She was so sweet and asked if I needed anything and got me tissues. When I was just like "no they just wouldn't latch" she smiled and said let the tears fall and it will get easier (she had twins). She was so sweet and didn't make me feel crazy or awkward at all.
Last night they dropped more weight (down 12% and 13% respectively) despite all the nursing and pumping and the lactation consultant starts showing me how to pace feed formula to supplement, explaining that I would need to nurse, pump to keep my supply up, and then do this complicated pace feeding for each of them. I smiled and nodded and when she left I told H eff that, I am not that committed to breast feeding, we are switching to formula, to which he said "Thank God! Let me feed them you go sleep". So we are going to FF and enjoy our sanity.
tl;dr- Babies started loosing too much weight so after an emotional breakdown I decided to switch to formula.
housecarder I'm glad you realized your sanity is more important! Breastfeeding is hard enough with just one baby and even harder when you have to worry about weight gain, pumping, and supplementing.
Post by rungirlrun on Jun 18, 2016 12:01:35 GMT -5
Big hugs housecarder. Take care of yourself. No shame in switching to formula - breastfeeding was the biggest challenge for me, and I only had 1 baby. And way to go giving them a few days of breast milk!
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