I just had my weekly appointment- first time on the NST monitor. I'm maybe 50% effaced and my cervix is closed up- not even a centimeter. I know anything could happen, but I feel like I'm definitely going to have a July baby.
Me too. I originally thought that it would be kinda cool to have a July 4 baby, but I have since changed my mind.
My OB said yesterday that my cervix is so closed and high up there that it's hard to even feel. Thanks for that, OB. Saying 0 cm dilated would have sufficed.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Jun 21, 2016 11:28:28 GMT -5
GOmamab15, mmm.... I love Pepperidge Farm. I must go get some of those, probably today. I'm also craving Ovaltine - the old-fashioned malted chocolate kind.
Anyway, I should give my DH some credit. He really WANTS to help. He's good during the evening when he's home from work - he will change diapers and rock him when he's fussy and gives a bedtime bottle of pumped milk. The MOTN wakings are a major struggle though. The first week or so he'd get up with me while I nursed and he'd just look mopey and guilty that he couldn't do anything, so I think he's given up on the idea that he could be helpful at night. What he doesn't seem to realize is that often now the baby cries just because he's fussy and not necessarily because he needs to be fed. I cried ugly tears at him this morning though so I think he sort of gets it. I just wish he'd realize when I'm at my breaking point and step in without me needing to say anything. It's almost like he doesn't hear the crying at all, or just assumes that it will stop on its own.
If the way my DH deals with (ignores) our barking dogs in the MOTN is any indication I'm going to be flying solo at night with the LO. They bark to go out, he stirs, he moves around in bed, I ask him to take them out, grunts, more stirring, but no action-then I get up and deal with them myself. I think he must fall back asleep super quick or is just not really awake when I think he is.
GOmamab15, mmm.... I love Pepperidge Farm. I must go get some of those, probably today. I'm also craving Ovaltine - the old-fashioned malted chocolate kind.
Anyway, I should give my DH some credit. He really WANTS to help. He's good during the evening when he's home from work - he will change diapers and rock him when he's fussy and gives a bedtime bottle of pumped milk. The MOTN wakings are a major struggle though. The first week or so he'd get up with me while I nursed and he'd just look mopey and guilty that he couldn't do anything, so I think he's given up on the idea that he could be helpful at night. What he doesn't seem to realize is that often now the baby cries just because he's fussy and not necessarily because he needs to be fed. I cried ugly tears at him this morning though so I think he sort of gets it. I just wish he'd realize when I'm at my breaking point and step in without me needing to say anything. It's almost like he doesn't hear the crying at all, or just assumes that it will stop on its own.
I know it's so hard but he honestly might not hear it. I know my H really doesn't hear either one of the kids until they have been crying a while. My toddler rolling over will wake me up over the monitor but the baby crying for half an hour in the same room will not wake my H.
My DH appears to be clueless in the newborn department. He shits down when babies cry, so that's real helpful. He was awesome with DD1 when she was a newbie, but not really with the other two. I will say that he's been taking the big girls on outings to leave LO and I alone, which is great...but then he'll leave me to do bedtime alone while LO is fussy and/or on the boob. He usually gets a lot more involved when baby can respond to him and is more interactive (3+ months).
I'm going to (try to) go to my 8th graders graduation tonight. My parents live near the school so the current plan is to go to their place, feed him as close to the ceremony as possible, then leave him with my mom and sister to attend. I'd love to intro him to everyone, but 2 weeks is too young to inflict 50 germy 8th graders on him The tradition is for the teachers to go out for a drink afterwards and I wish I could join, but I'm guessing the little guy isn't going to be content without eating that long.
I keep forgetting to stay on top of taking Advil on schedule. Various parts of my body never fail to remind me hours later.
This happened to me repeatedly my first few weeks post partum. I'd forget to take the Rx'ed ibuprofen and then complain to DH about how achy and sore I felt. Lol.
babyzebra - MH is more helpful this time. He's no amazing MOTN but I'm nursing so there really isn't much he can do. He's stepping up with the toddler though at least so that's good. I still get eye rolls and attitude when I ask him to do things he thinks are dumb but a couple dirty looks and A few tears and he's been pretty good.
I am in so much pain right now. I see these bitches bouncing out of the hospital (1 in a short white dress) and I literally crawled out hunched over. YOu would think I had a c-section but I did not. It all goes back to my terrible tear and episiotomy first pregnancy. Basically this time I just tore open exactly where I was seen up last time. It's a 2nd degree tear and I literally cannot sit down. I have to try to sit only foot to take some pressure off and I fell asleep like that and woke to a swollen foot. I do no remember things hurting this bad last time. It's like the pads are just irritating the stitches and swelling but I'm obviously still bleeding so I have to wear one. I'm only comfy standing in a warm shower. I cried so hard yesterday out of pain and frustration. I hope I can pull it together soon. Thank god for my parents whi are entertaining DD and doing everything around the house. Also DD2 refuses to eat from my left side. I'm so engorged I got my pump out at 3am to try to relieve pressure so she would nurse and nothing. Parents are getting nipple shields right now to try that. I feel like a hot mess this time around. I felt a mess during labor and same now. I hope I shake this feeling soon.
Sorry ladies for the H's who need a kick in the butt. Question for STMs- are you finding that your SO is more helpful this time? MH definitely pulled some of this with DS, but I kinda have a hard time imagining him doing that now. Maybe wishful thinking on my part or maybe they do grow up after having a kid for a little while?
I actually feel like I'm needing to remind DH to help MORE...like he's forgotten, whereas he was more hyper sensitive and aware with our first. Maybe I just feel that way because he has to help with DS when he gets home from work so I feel like I'm doing more with DD?
Post by manybellsdown on Jun 21, 2016 15:48:08 GMT -5
nymama917, I'm so so sorry. That is exactly how I felt last time. I could not sit. I sat on a hemorrhoid pillow for a really long time.
I didn't tear as badly this time, but seriously, the pad + stitches combo is just cruel. One thing I've added is Earth Mama New Mama Bottom Spray (or something like this--I feel like they could benefit from some streamlined names). It has witch hazel and is also quite soothing after using the bathroom. I bought it on amazon but have also seen it at Target. I like the spray, which means I don't have to mess with touching anything to the area. Maybe something like that could help provide some relief?
GOmamab15, mmm.... I love Pepperidge Farm. I must go get some of those, probably today. I'm also craving Ovaltine - the old-fashioned malted chocolate kind.
Anyway, I should give my DH some credit. He really WANTS to help. He's good during the evening when he's home from work - he will change diapers and rock him when he's fussy and gives a bedtime bottle of pumped milk. The MOTN wakings are a major struggle though. The first week or so he'd get up with me while I nursed and he'd just look mopey and guilty that he couldn't do anything, so I think he's given up on the idea that he could be helpful at night. What he doesn't seem to realize is that often now the baby cries just because he's fussy and not necessarily because he needs to be fed. I cried ugly tears at him this morning though so I think he sort of gets it. I just wish he'd realize when I'm at my breaking point and step in without me needing to say anything. It's almost like he doesn't hear the crying at all, or just assumes that it will stop on its own.
Yep!! I could have said all of this myself. Exact same as DH.
babyzebra - MH is more helpful this time. He's no amazing MOTN but I'm nursing so there really isn't much he can do. He's stepping up with the toddler though at least so that's good. I still get eye rolls and attitude when I ask him to do things he thinks are dumb but a couple dirty looks and A few tears and he's been pretty good.
I am in so much pain right now. I see these bitches bouncing out of the hospital (1 in a short white dress) and I literally crawled out hunched over. YOu would think I had a c-section but I did not. It all goes back to my terrible tear and episiotomy first pregnancy. Basically this time I just tore open exactly where I was seen up last time. It's a 2nd degree tear and I literally cannot sit down. I have to try to sit only foot to take some pressure off and I fell asleep like that and woke to a swollen foot. I do no remember things hurting this bad last time. It's like the pads are just irritating the stitches and swelling but I'm obviously still bleeding so I have to wear one. I'm only comfy standing in a warm shower. I cried so hard yesterday out of pain and frustration. I hope I can pull it together soon. Thank god for my parents whi are entertaining DD and doing everything around the house. Also DD2 refuses to eat from my left side. I'm so engorged I got my pump out at 3am to try to relieve pressure so she would nurse and nothing. Parents are getting nipple shields right now to try that. I feel like a hot mess this time around. I felt a mess during labor and same now. I hope I shake this feeling soon.
I'm so sorry. I literally felt this exact same way a week or two after giving birth this time. I was a wreck, in so much pain, bleeding so much, so engorged and in pain. I felt like I was teetering the line on having PPD. 3.5 weeks out, I'm in a much better place. Hoping it gets better for you soon, too!
DH has so much more helpful this time. He does seem more afraid to handle the newborn this time around, like afraid to change her. He has mostly been on toddler duty so I guess the tiny diapers and clothes are intimidating to him. If he hears her crying MOTN he will ask if I need him to take her, he would never wake up with DS.
That's good to hear. That's a good point about being used to toddler things. I approach every diaper change with the toddler like I am a warrior going into battle and I will not let this little human defeat me. I might need to tone it down a bit with a newborn. Different ages, different struggles.
DH and I keep laughing about how giant our toddler's butt and diapers seem now that we are changing a million newborn diapers a day!!
That's good to hear. That's a good point about being used to toddler things. I approach every diaper change with the toddler like I am a warrior going into battle and I will not let this little human defeat me. I might need to tone it down a bit with a newborn. Different ages, different struggles.
DH and I keep laughing about how giant our toddler's butt and diapers seem now that we are changing a million newborn diapers a day!!
Hugs nymama917! Who leaves the hospital after giving birth in a short white dress?!? That is ridiculous. The first few weeks home are really rough, so go easy on yourself (you are NOT a mess you just gave birth!) Sending you so much love as you heal.
Post by packerfan4life on Jun 21, 2016 16:50:11 GMT -5
I have a feeling it's normal but the toddler totally wants anyone but me right now, mostly H. Whenever I try to calm her during one of her (many) unreasonable screaming fits she turns away from me and starts screaming Daddy. I imagine it's because H has picked up a lot of toddler duty since half the time the newborn is attached to my boob, but it still hurts especially given how overly hormonal I am anyways. Hopefully this is a short phase.
Post by greysonsmom on Jun 21, 2016 16:52:03 GMT -5
I'm sorry you are in so much pain nymama917, it's extra hard with a toddler at home. Can your doctor call in a stronger prescription for you? The Motrin was not cutting it for me last time.
Post by packerfan4life on Jun 21, 2016 17:05:35 GMT -5
Sorry you're so uncomfortable nymama917. Do the ice packs help? For me that wsd the most helpful thing. My nurse also gave me witch hazel wipes and a hydrocortisone foam (I can't remember the name of it). I had a 2nd degree lac as well and feel like it hurt the most about 3-4 days after delivery and is starting to feel better now a week and a half out.
Hugs nymama917! Who leaves the hospital after giving birth in a short white dress?!? That is ridiculous. The first few weeks home are really rough, so go easy on yourself (you are NOT a mess you just gave birth!) Sending you so much love as you heal.
nymama917 I'm so sorry that you're in so much pain. I agree with asking for something stronger than Motrin. I hope you can get some relief soon. Big hugs!
Sorry about the way your toddler is acting toward you packerfan4life. That really hurts under normal circumstances so I bet it's particularly tough now with all the hormonal changes. I hope she gets through this phase quickly!
I have a feeling it's normal but the toddler totally wants anyone but me right now, mostly H. Whenever I try to calm her during one of her (many) unreasonable screaming fits she turns away from me and starts screaming Daddy. I imagine it's because H has picked up a lot of toddler duty since half the time the newborn is attached to my boob, but it still hurts especially given how overly hormonal I am anyways. Hopefully this is a short phase.
I'm in the same boat and have shed many tears over it. I know it's selfish but I'm having a really hard time not being the favorite parent. Tomorrow will be two weeks and it's getting better. Hugs!
I have a feeling it's normal but the toddler totally wants anyone but me right now, mostly H. Whenever I try to calm her during one of her (many) unreasonable screaming fits she turns away from me and starts screaming Daddy. I imagine it's because H has picked up a lot of toddler duty since half the time the newborn is attached to my boob, but it still hurts especially given how overly hormonal I am anyways. Hopefully this is a short phase.
I'm in the same boat and have shed many tears over it. I know it's selfish but I'm having a really hard time not being the favorite parent. Tomorrow will be two weeks and it's getting better. Hugs!
I hear you guys but I have to chime in that the grass isn't always greener. My 3 year old follows me and baby wherever we go. I tried to sneak into my bedroom and nurse in quiet today and she followed us and climbed all over me the whole time even tho my SO was trying to get her to go play. I wanted to cry. I just wanted some quiet.
She wants me to do her bath and changer her diaper. And tuck her in. So pretty much I'll do two kids while SO does nothing (even tho she's willing).
Not to discount your feelings. I'd be crying too. But I'm also crying on the other side.
I'm in the same boat and have shed many tears over it. I know it's selfish but I'm having a really hard time not being the favorite parent. Tomorrow will be two weeks and it's getting better. Hugs!
I hear you guys but I have to chime in that the grass isn't always greener. My 3 year old follows me and baby wherever we go. I tried to sneak into my bedroom and nurse in quiet today and she followed us and climbed all over me the whole time even tho my SO was trying to get her to go play. I wanted to cry. I just wanted some quiet.
She wants me to do her bath and changer her diaper. And tuck her in. So pretty much I'll do two kids while SO does nothing (even tho she's willing).
Not to discount your feelings. I'd be crying too. But I'm also crying on the other side.
That sounds hard too, I'm sorry you're on the other end of the spectrum.
I'm sorry you are in so much pain nymama917. I had a second degree as well and it was awful for the first week. I took my Motrin religiously (I also needed Vicodin my second night in the hospital just so I could sleep). I put Tucks pads all along my pad and used the dermaplast spray. It felt endless at the time but the healing does get there. About a week in I felt like I could move around fairly normally.
greysonsmom I'm in the same boat. Ds1 wants mama to do everything and gets so mad at dh when he tries to help. I'm being pulled in two directions all day. I've been trying to keep up today but ds2 has been non stop eating all last night and all day today. I'm hoping I can get more than 4 hours of sleep tonight.
nymama917 I'm sorry you're in pain. I hope you get relief soon.
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