+1 to crazy storms and crappy sleep. We recently bought a canopy for our backyard. Last night it blew over the fence into our neighbors yard. DH heard it while he was up for a MOTN feeding. So, we were crawling over our fence into our neighbor's backyard at 1 AM. After all of that, I couldn't fall back asleep. And, C had six MOTN wake ups. So tired. Send coffee!
WTF @ charliefox pedi! Sounds like she needs to revisit AAP guidelines regarding milk and solids. Maybe the nurse taking measurements just sucked today?
Hugs txshep, I hope the bad news is done in your office and you get some hungry buyers soon! There's usually a lull right around July 4th, but it picks back up toward the end of summer, since families want to be moved before the school year starts.
H hasn't read any of the sleep training books and whenever I try to discuss it with him (I made a nice bulleted plan and sent it to him, he hasn't read it), but once we are "doing it," he basically goes against anything I say. Because he knows better. Without reading anything. He STILL constantly tries to push A past her bedtime, when she's already melting down, on the completely disproved idea that going to bed later means sleeping in. Plus, he isn't the one that gets up, so why does he care? And it doesn't matter on weekdays, because we have to get up for DC and work. The only thing he hasn't argued about was trying the lovey with a binkie attached to shift her association. Sorry, hon, you're not allowed to argue if you haven't educated yourself.
I think DS and his early risings are finally catching up with him! He PTFO on the floor about a half hour ago! I usually get an afternoon nap but never a morning one. So I'm eating an early lunch in peace while both kids snooze!
Post by eliza040502 on Jun 21, 2016 11:12:53 GMT -5
Hugs to those who need them!
London - so sorry about your H. Have you tried sitting down with him to discuss when you both aren't exhausted / trying to do something else? And don't ever feel bad about complaining.
txshep - fingers crossed you end up with more showings. And hopefully that's the end of bad news around your office. People always say that bad news comes in threes. You've hit your quota. But I am judging you for the SoL print on your leggings! :-)
sandj918 - my H and I talked about sleep training but I said one thing and he heard something different. So I put everything I wanted to do in writing. It helped to write it down and have him read it. And it was something I could consult in my sleep deprived state. Maybe try that if you don't get a chance to talk through everything?
Post by ugotstarbucked on Jun 21, 2016 11:14:10 GMT -5
Oh joy. Eloise took a 25 minute nap this morning. Fuck that shit. No idea what woke her up, she usually sleeps an hour or more and only wakes early if she poops herself.
Post by canadiansciencegeek on Jun 21, 2016 11:43:19 GMT -5
London, I'm sorry YH isn't stepping up on his own. If you just kept saying "it's your turn" and rolled over to go back to sleep would he get the hint?
charliefox, what a craptastic set of things for your pedi to say. I'm sorry you had such a stressful visit.
AFM, today is day 2 back at work. Somehow spending the day staring at a computer screen is more tiring than chasing 2 munchkins. I think it's the lack of natural light! On the plus side, my baby who has never taken a bottle or a full feeding from a cup took 3 oz and 4 oz from her zoli cup yesterday! I fed her at 8 and again at 4 so she took 7 oz in 8 hours. She wasn't cranky hungry in between so I'll call that a win!
cowplanet - I feel your pain. DH doesn't want to do sleep training. He also keeps talking about pushing C's bedtime later so she'll sleep later...which doesn't really matter since we're up so early for work. Anytime I give him feedback on research I've done regarding sleep training, bedtime routines, night weaning, his response is "you can't believe everything you read on the Internet". He only gets up for one MOTN feed, I do the rest which is typically 3-5 more wake ups after he does his 1x. I don't mean to gripe about him, overall he means well, I'm just losing my patience with his belief that she'll just magically learn to sleep better or STTN "when she's ready". I worry our lack of sleep training will lead to a 2-3 year old that still doesn't STTN because she doesn't know how to put herself to sleep or self soothe. / end rant.
Post by crystaleyes138 on Jun 21, 2016 12:07:24 GMT -5
charliefox, wow. Trust your gut on this one. I wonder why she was so off on the information she was giving you.
Sending virtual coffee and SO slaps to those who need them. About 4 years ago I said I would try CIO if I had to and DH STILL brings that up (I would prefer SleepEasy). If everyone would just be on the same page/team it would all go a lot simpler.
On the topic of sleep training and husbands... I've started sleep training my 3 year old. It is hell. She has been screaming bloody murder at bedtime for months. The bedtime routine has become so drawn out and elaborate that she could be a hostage negotiator with winning all her demands.
My husband abandoned most of bedtime a couple months ago, under the guise of "she misses you and wants to spend time with you." He gets so mad about the screaming but either 1) does nothing 2) indulges her because "she's only young once or 3) guilts me into "spending quality time with her."
So last week I started a sticker chart/reward system for no screaming. She got one sticker in 10 days. I am cold turkey cry it out with her. Tonight she's not getting any bedtime demands (no story, etc). I told her this morning about this plan. I don't know what else to do. Google is not helpful, since apparently 3 year olds should not be doing this.
Glen said he's "leaving it up to me because he can't take the screaming anymore." I imagine is very difficult to play on Reddit downstairs while your toddler is have a conniption about what dress Barbie is wearing to bed that night.
All this to say - sleep training sucks. Listening to A yell "mommy I need you" and "mommy doesn't love me" every night may cause me to drink myself to sleep.
charliefox Sorry about your pedi, I just went through something similar with both my kids last week. It's tough to hear, and catches you off guard, especially because they don't know your kid like you do, their basis is on experience with all kids. I thought of so many counterpoints to say after the fact and then was just frustrated I didn't say anything.
London I know you’re just venting and I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time with this. I know you didn’t ask for advice, but my sister is going through a similar thing, so here’s my unsolicited two cents – even if it’s hard and may cause some short term friction, nip it in the bud now. It’s a difficult conversation to have but spending the next 18 years being the lead parent and feeling unsupported will be much more difficult, and it will not get better on its own. My sister is majorly struggling with this now and she’s EXHAUSTED and angry all the time (they have 3 under 3), and even with a family therapist, he is resistant because “this has been working all along.” Well, it hasn’t been, she’s just finally fed up with it. Good luck and big hugs, vent away if you need to!
txshep, that's all truly awful. I hope that's it for sad news in your life!
charliefox, sorry your pedi was so off base with everything. You know your kid and it's good you have a good handle on it all. I feel for the other parents she may have made second guess though.
@gothefawktosleep, glad you're back at work and hopefully down with HFM!
We were late to the airport and boarded last, on southwest which doesn't assign seating, so I was with the baby alone in a middle seat. It was awful, though he fell asleep eventually. Our house hunting trip went well, we put in an offer on a house which was rejected our first two rounds of negotiating but when we backed off they accepted. Yay! So pending credit check etc, we have a home to move into when we land in Texas in August.
txshep, I (admittedly drunkingly) bought a pair of ugly kiwi fruit LLR leggings (seeing as I'm a kiwi) and I haven't worn them yet. don't think I will wear them out in public. Some of the July 4th collection are cute though!
London, I have pretty much the same situation, so I feel for you. My husband asked me yesterday if I took R for daily walks and I got all upset because he is always pointing our things he thinks should be done (nails need to be clipped, needs a bath, should be read to daily, should go for daily walks... etc) and never actually does any of it. I work from home part time and am stressed to capacity. When I ask him to watch the baby so I can do something else he immediately asks if he can put on cartoons for him. It drives me nuts, because that is the lazy way to distract him. Why don't you take him for a walk while I make dinner instead? I do all the many nighttime waking, so I am just a powder keg, and he gets upset that I am always mad or defensive.
I say all the time that I never would have chosen to be a mom if I could have been a dad instead cause it is a way cushier gig.
I'm home from work today with Jack (low grade fever, he's fine, just dramatic) and was pumping when he suddenly turned to me and said, Mommy. Do you hear that? Your pumpy thing is saying "Racoon, Racoon, Racoon."
At least I just found $30 in Amazon credit (see stickied announcement). Getting some new books for the kiddo.
0$ That's what I get for check out books from the library.
Ditto ... says the librarian. H is all upset neither of us get anything. Um, dude, you need to have BOUGHT ebooks during the collusion time period from those particular publishers, i.e., been a "victim" in order to get justice.
charliefox , re: swimsuit - I just can't. It also reminds me of how freaky it is when people wear nude leggings or skinny jeans. My brain just kind of melts down.
Massive headache that won't go away so I'm spending the afternoon nap on the couch watching TV.
I'm starting to feel very anxious about daycare and it's stupid.
Don't feel anxious!!! I did too but he loves it there - loves the DCP and the other kids. So much so that we're going to take him there 2 days a week in July. I think he's bored with just MH and I.
Post by minionkeeper on Jun 21, 2016 14:39:30 GMT -5
I have to wean D by next week and I have every feeling. I'm supposed to be staying calm but this sucks. He refuses bottles, nurses to sleep and has little interest in food. My life is going to be hell.
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