Well my back is feeling better. H came home on his lunch break yesterday to go for a dip so we all went for a swim. The only bad part was Val skipped her afternoon nap & was a fussy girl. At least she went to bed early.
We all got up at 6 because DS was knocking on his door for us to get him. Val is currently eating all the left overs from breakfast burritos. She is enjoying eating cut up sausage, hashbrown patties & eggs. Also watching teletubbies she is hooked, it's so weird but she is glued! DS is pissed we are watching it, I told him we watch Thomas & Friends for him so let Val watch this please.
My lower eye lid has swollen up & it hurts. After getting pregnant with DS I started having issues with the same eye on the top lid doing the same thing. I was told its eczema of the eye. I have a really strong steroid cream to put on it so I'm hoping the swelling goes down soon. Getting pregnant with Val kept it away last summer.
obie1680, eek at your eye! A lot of body ailments are tolerable, but eye problems always feel worse than, say, foot or knee issues. Hopefully it clears up soon!
A's cutting another tooth, so she was full out crying last night around 10 p.m. and wouldn't go back to sleep with H (who was on duty), so I snuggled her to sleep. Trying to just soothe her in the crib with voice or touch just made her hysterical. Hopefully she hasn't already learned that if she screams a certain way, she gets scooped up instead of patted, but she's a quick learner, so we probably doomed ourselves already. Other than that, though, she soothed herself back to sleep on other wake ups.
We're in a weird place with bottles and sippy cups. At DC, she's now exclusively on cups with the caveat that she can switch to a bottle if necessary, but she hasn't all week. However, at home she's totally cool with water in a cup, but very hit and miss with milk. If it's bedtime milk, then hell no, give her a bottle. But the size 2 nipples aren't enough judging by how she's compressing them, so I should size up, but I hate to when we're so close to being done. This morning I tried milk in the sippy again, and she got pissed, then calmed down and took a few swallows, then refused. So I switched to the bottle and she sucked it all down, blissed out and drunk, then demanded more. So, I think I'll grab a size 3 nipple and pack up most of the bottle gear, leave 2-3 out for backup.
So tired. C must be in a regression. I'm frustrated with DH this morning because he again told me he doesn't want to do sleep training, but has no other suggestions other than giving her Motrin - which I don't think she's in pain or teething. I'm just grumpy at him because I am doing almost all of the MOTN wake ups, yet he is insisting that he doesn't want to do sleep training. Mmmkay thanks, your feedback isn't helping dude. And, he shut off the AC in the middle the night because he thought he would keep the house cooler to have it off. Wut. I'm so whiney today. Is it Friday yet?!
I need to get my blood drawn this week for my 4 months post op check up, but I just don't want to wake up early to go to the neighbourhood clinic. It's walk-in and there's usually a line at the door at 7 am.
It's raining on SO'S day off so he's not able to do the yard work he need to do, uuuh.
A has stared to say more clearly "ma-man" and "papa" but I sont think it's related to us yet.
@obie, eczema of the eye? How odd! Hope it's better soon.
AFM, one of my wisdom teeth is acting up. It's always only been 1/2 way through and now the gums around it are swollen and my whole jaw hurts. Damnit!
Cal has his first swim lesson this morning and I was super excited until he woke up before 6. Jeez kid!
Yeah it's weird. The skin around my eye usually the outside corner gets red,dry & itchy. Then it's followed by some crazy swelling of the top eye lid & more itchiness. This time it's the inner corner with the lower lid. I didn't notice any dry red patches prior but my eye was itchy so I though maybe allergies. Then the swelling started late Sunday night. My dad use to get it so yay for me? It's really annoying but at least I don't have to go to work with it anymore and field a million questions about why my eye looks horrible!
The hood of my car got all scratched/dented from a large rock on the freeway, so that's awesome. I swerved to avoid having it come through my windshield and DH says, "You should've let it. It's a cheaper and easier fix." Yeah, I get that, but I like my face without a giant rock in it. So now I have to file an insurance claim due to the amount of damage, and then I'll be stuck in some shitty rental car for a week or so since the dealership doesn't give loaners for body work. I'm more annoyed by having to drive the rental car, than by having to pay my deductible.
Its only 9 here and I already need a do over for the day. Hannah woke up at 445 and was up for the day. Happy and wanting to play. She then pooped twice and somehow managed to get it on the floor, her hands, and my pants when I changed her. And then she tried to lick her hands. And I managed to get diaper cream in my hair. There was no going back to sleep as we had to be up early so I could drive 30 minutes away to pick up SO as he needed to drop his truck off to have it worked on. We get all the way there and they don't have the part. I'm so pissed. And tired. I need coffee and alcohol. Plus a nap.
txshep, um, yeah, you should've taken a rock to the face. Sacrifice for the good of the car! Plus, I can't imagine you'd be more of an accident risk with blood gushing out of your eyes or nose or whatever took the brunt of it. Jeez, woman! Use your head next time! Literally!
Fearsy, maybe C got swapped for a not evil changling?
estakis, if YH is being a butt about not sharing MOTN wakings, then he gets no say in sleep training. Unfortunately, that doesn't make things easier on you. And WTF to Motrin ... it only helps with sleep if the baby's in pain.
Sleep trading is going well so far. He's sleeping in his crib the whole night. Last night we had one wake for a bottle but he even went back in and stayed there until 7:30!
charliefox That doesn't sound good - I dealt with impacted wisdom teeth for years before getting into my career and having dental insurance. I would call them - they'll likely prescribe an antibiotic since there's not much they can do while there's an active infection.
At H's behest, I cautiously upgraded to Windows 10. I'd done it before and reverted to 8, due to my wifi adapter and 10 hating one another. I'd spent several days trying every fix on the internet before reverting. But H upgraded his older laptop without a hitch, so I gave it another go. Same damn problem. So, last night I told him I was reverting, because I do not have time to mess with it (he'd spent Monday night trying to get my wifi to work, because I'm a dumb woman and somehow was trying to pick a fight?!). He pretty much flipped out on me that he would "take care of it" if I would just be patient. I reminded him I'd been down this road before and it's just not worth it to me to spend the next few days troubleshooting. I have no issues with 8. It works on my laptop. I'm going back.
Apparently this is a personal affront to him and I should've tried to re-install Windows 10. Again. Nope. H was grumpy the rest of the night. Not your machine, dude. Why do you care?
He's doing his weird contradictory thing again, and I just don't have patience for it. Came home late, dumped all his groceries on the countertop, and came straight upstairs to the nursery to wind A up (who was settling in for bedtime). He told me to go do my things, he'd take over from there. So, I started my new workout. He comes down 10 minutes later and immediately freaks out that I didn't put the cold stuff away. Um, dude, you didn't tell me, there was nothing cold on top. How was I to know you didn't put that away before coming upstairs? I say this, he walks off, I roll my eyes and dig around for the cold stuff - he comes back and gets pissed that I'm putting the cold stuff away. "no, go do your workout." So, I do. But then he keeps interrupting me, I ask him to please wait until I'm done, he says okay ... and then continues to interrupt me.
Once I'm done, I start on diaper laundry and turn on the TV, and ask if he wants to catch up on GoT. He says no, but I can watch whatever I want. As usual, whatever I decide to watch, he says no to. I sigh, he goes, 'What now?' And I say, calmly, "You're doing it again. You can't say I can watch whatever and then veto everything I select." (He does this at restaurants when we want to split entrees. Every time. And almost always when it comes to watching TV.) Well, this is just me being a bitch and picking a fight, apparently. Instead of pointing out fact.
Part of his asshole-ness is passive aggressive BS, because this weekend he completely overrode my saying no to taking Anna on a golf cart ride (um, bad road, no safety seat, drunk people driving around, hell no). Since he ignored me and went anyway with FIL, I calmly told his parents afterward that this will not happen again. Yes, I went behind his back, but he went behind mine first and when I asked if he valued a golf cart ride over his daughter's safety and life, he said yes. He should know better. His aunt overturned a cart that killed someone. She can ride when she's older.
TL;DR: H is being a contradictory asshole, and I'm not tolerating it.
cowplanet What a jerk! YH needs to grow up. Oh, and my personal computer is still on Windows 7 because I don't like Windows 10 at work. I fully support avoiding Windows 10.
estakis Unless YH is helping with the repercussions of no sleep training, he has no say in the sleep situation.
emejay You're in Canada, right? All the stuff the Canadian ladies on here post about the healthcare sounds annoying AF, but the maternity benefits sound nice. Do I have that straight?
Post by southernpeach89 on Jun 22, 2016 9:34:39 GMT -5
I am cleaning and sweeping out my garage today and I'm absolutely terrified that I'm going to find some hidden spiders nest in a corner or one is going to crawl out of a space that hasn't been disturbed in months.
(snip) Part of his asshole-ness is passive aggressive BS, because this weekend he completely overrode my saying no to taking Anna on a golf cart ride (um, bad road, no safety seat, drunk people driving around, hell no). Since he ignored me and went anyway with FIL, I calmly told his parents afterward that this will not happen again. Yes, I went behind his back, but he went behind mine first and when I asked if he valued a golf cart ride over his daughter's safety and life, he said yes. He should know better. His aunt overturned a cart that killed someone. She can ride when she's older.
TL;DR: H is being a contradictory asshole, and I'm not tolerating it.
You post about your husband a fair bit, and it always stirs up feelings of anxiety and concern I have for you and your daughter. I don't know if you are overplaying things a bit the way someone does when they get their rant on, or underplaying it the way someone does when they know in their hearts something is very wrong. If it is the latter (and only you can judge that) you should know that your husband sounds emotionally abusive to me. The things you are saying are beyond what I consider acceptable treatment of the two of you. It is sadly very common that abusive behaviour surfaces during pregnancy and after the birth of a first child because the child can be used as leverage and often a weapon against the other partner. Lately your posts have been pushing me out of the "none of my business" zone and into the "I will feel worse if I don't say anything" zone, and I am so I am saying this with nothing but love and concern: please take care of yourself and your daughter by any means necessary.
cowplanet What a jerk! YH needs to grow up. Oh, and my personal computer is still on Windows 7 because I don't like Windows 10 at work. I fully support avoiding Windows 10.
estakis Unless YH is helping with the repercussions of no sleep training, he has no say in the sleep situation.
emejay You're in Canada, right? All the stuff the Canadian ladies on here post about the healthcare sounds annoying AF, but the maternity benefits sound nice. Do I have that straight?
It has it goods and bads I guess. Free health care also means that people are keener on going to the clinics and hospitals for not much which means that you are waiting longer. And specialists are hard to see because there are very long lists.
My own personal view is that I'd like to have a "2 speed" system where richer people could go to private clinics allowing more space for people in need in free clinics. But not everyone share that!
(snip) Part of his asshole-ness is passive aggressive BS, because this weekend he completely overrode my saying no to taking Anna on a golf cart ride (um, bad road, no safety seat, drunk people driving around, hell no). Since he ignored me and went anyway with FIL, I calmly told his parents afterward that this will not happen again. Yes, I went behind his back, but he went behind mine first and when I asked if he valued a golf cart ride over his daughter's safety and life, he said yes. He should know better. His aunt overturned a cart that killed someone. She can ride when she's older.
TL;DR: H is being a contradictory asshole, and I'm not tolerating it.
You post about your husband a fair bit, and it always stirs up feelings of anxiety and concern I have for you and your daughter. I don't know if you are overplaying things a bit the way someone does when they get their rant on, or underplaying it the way someone does when they know in their hearts something is very wrong. If it is the latter (and only you can judge that) you should know that your husband sounds emotionally abusive to me. The things you are saying are beyond what I consider acceptable treatment of the two of you. It is sadly very common that abusive behaviour surfaces during pregnancy and after the birth of a first child because the child can be used as leverage and often a weapon against the other partner. Lately your posts have been pushing me out of the "none of my business" zone and into the "I will feel worse if I don't say anything" zone, and I am so I am saying this with nothing but love and concern: please take care of yourself and your daughter by any means necessary.
These are my exact feelings too. No one deserves to be treated that way.
Post by andtheheartbreakers on Jun 22, 2016 12:15:46 GMT -5
So MH got laid off on Monday and has applied on a lot of jobs. He got a call today about a position in Nunavit that's fly in fly out, with travel allowance, for 2 weeks on 2 weeks off. The pay is outrageous and they work 12 hour days. The money would be good, it would mean I can continue my mat leave, and we would be still approved for our new house.
But it would mean he's gone for 12 days + 2 days of travel each way, but also home for 12 days straight.
With my job I get 8 days off every 3 weeks so everytime his stretch off lined up with mine we could take Layla on vacations.
But 16 days solo parenting. I have such mixed feelings.
So MH got laid off on Monday and has applied on a lot of jobs. He got a call today about a position in Nunavit that's fly in fly out, with travel allowance, for 2 weeks on 2 weeks off. The pay is outrageous and they work 12 hour days. The money would be good, it would mean I can continue my mat leave, and we would be still approved for our new house.
But it would mean he's gone for 12 days + 2 days of travel each way, but also home for 12 days straight.
With my job I get 8 days off every 3 weeks so everytime his stretch off lined up with mine we could take Layla on vacations.
But 16 days solo parenting. I have such mixed feelings.
That is tough. It sounds like a lot of fun (and hard work) but wouldn't be sustainable. As a military wife I can say that having your partner away often is tough, I haven't had to do it with a kid yet but I can only imagine it would be 10 times harder. It's not just the fact that you miss them, or that you have to handle all of the responsibilities on your own, it's that you have to constantly transition from being solo to being a partnership and that takes a lot of work.
Is this something that he can take for now while he waits for something else?
So MH got laid off on Monday and has applied on a lot of jobs. He got a call today about a position in Nunavit that's fly in fly out, with travel allowance, for 2 weeks on 2 weeks off. The pay is outrageous and they work 12 hour days. The money would be good, it would mean I can continue my mat leave, and we would be still approved for our new house.
But it would mean he's gone for 12 days + 2 days of travel each way, but also home for 12 days straight.
With my job I get 8 days off every 3 weeks so everytime his stretch off lined up with mine we could take Layla on vacations.
But 16 days solo parenting. I have such mixed feelings.
That is tough. It sounds like a lot of fun (and hard work) but wouldn't be sustainable. As a military wife I can say that having your partner away often is tough, I haven't had to do it with a kid yet but I can only imagine it would be 10 times harder. It's not just the fact that you miss them, or that you have to handle all of the responsibilities on your own, it's that you have to constantly transition from being solo to being a partnership and that takes a lot of work.
Is this something that he can take for now while he waits for something else?
That's what we're thinking. Or at least until we have the house. Once I'm back to work I work days and night shifts so being a solo parent doesn't work because Layla would have to stay at someone else's house every time I work night shift. It's such a crappy situation, he had such a good job I still can't believe he randomly just got let go.
We've done long distance before and swore we would never do it again. Life sucks.
txshep that's so exciting!! It is ridiculous how fast homes go up!!
Its crazy! That is what they've done in 1 day. Early next week the roofers and masonry guys are scheduled to come to finish the exterior. So that gives them one week to get the main structure up.
txshep that's so exciting!! It is ridiculous how fast homes go up!!
Its crazy! That is what they've done in 1 day. Early next week the roofers and masonry guys are scheduled to come to finish the exterior. So that gives them one week to get the main structure up.
All the framing was done on our house in 2 weeks by just two guys. Crazy fast.SaveSave
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