Confessing on this Friday!

[lakegirl]

Anything good?

[rinny]

I feel like I always have pee stick confessions.

But I finally threw away the 20 or so used tests (mostly wondfos) I had been stashing under my sink ><.

[lakegirl]

A confession and a UO all in one!

I used breastfeeding as an excuse to get out of my SIL's bachelorette party. My kid was around 10 months old and I probably could have pumped and dumped depending on the fridge situation. In reality I didn't want to go because 1) bridezilla 2) $$$ 3) not my style, not my type of people. Which brings me to my UO: I hate that bachelor/bachelorette parties have become a huge expensive getaway trip. I don't have a problem spending money on your wedding and shower but I do not want to go out of town for an extended weekend so you can get drunk.

[tmclawchick]

Jun 24, 2016 7:27:13 GMT -5 lakegirl said:

A confession and a UO all in one!

I used breastfeeding as an excuse to get out of my SIL's bachelorette party. My kid was around 10 months old and I probably could have pumped and dumped depending on the fridge situation. In reality I didn't want to go because 1) bridezilla 2) $$$ 3) not my style, not my type of people. Which brings me to my UO: I hate that bachelor/bachelorette parties have become a huge expensive getaway trip. I don't have a problem spending money on your wedding and shower but I do not want to go out of town for an extended weekend so you can get drunk.

Yesssssss.... DH has been to 4 bachelor parties in 5 years. Only 1 was local to NYC (where he's from). The other 2 were in New Orleans and 1 was in Montreal. They were all full blown weekends and he ended up spending a ridiculous amount of money. It's so annoying, when did this become a thing??

[aprilz81]

lakegirl, I don't think that is an UO at all! I didn't have a bachelorette party and I don't regret it. I'm not a party girl (not even when I was in college) so the thought of a night of expensive drinking and clubbing doesn't appeal at all!!!

FFFC: This will make me sound like a horrible, horrible person. As most of you are aware MIL has breast cancer. Yesterday, two weeks after her first chemo treatment, she had a big clump of hair fall out and she had a breakdown. I get it, it is traumatizing and something you can't ignore. When we got to her house she was sitting in a chair, blanket on her lap, a scarf AND hat on her head. She had me look at her head and I couldn't even notice where the hair had come out. Her hair was smushed from the scarf and hat but otherwise looked normal. She really seemed to be overreacting (and I know this makes me sound horrible because she has the right to feel her feels).

I tried to talk her into getting a pixie cut (her hair is chin length now) so that she feels empowered and there will be less hair to fall out which will make it less traumatic but she was convinced if she went to get it cut it would all fall out in the sink and there would be nothing left to cut. *shrug* I tried and now I will keep my mouth shut and try to talk baby stuff with her to distract her. The problem is that she get really opinionated about the strangest things. She was horrified that I was thinking of a bassinet for our room (she used a portable crib) and horrified at the car commercial (!!!) where the dad took the baby for a drive to try to get him to sleep (let the baby cry it out or they will never learn!) so even baby stuff isn't always a safe topic.

She asked if we were going to do a colorful nursery and I told her I wanted it to be neutral-ish and muted colors. She immediately said that she did DH's nursery in a circus theme with bright colors so he would be stimulated... It wasn't an argument and she didn't tell me what I should do, so that is something. lol

[peaseblossom55]

My confession is lame but I don't want to be at work. I was up late with bad nausea and a stomach ache. I just want to sleep and relax. Thank goodness I have a three day weekend.

[lakegirl]

DS chugged a bunch of water the other day and puked it back up. While I was wiping his face the dog went to town licking up the puddle. I didn't stop her because honestly, she did a better job than my dry heaving self would have done. I did lysol wipe the area after so teamwork?

[lakegirl]

aprilz81 I just feel guilty that I used breastfeeding as my public excuse. At 10 months it wasn't his only source of nutrition and I had a freezer stash. But it was a heck of a lot easier than telling her I didn't want to spend a bajillion dollars on her!

[summergirl1211]

My stomach has been going crazy this week with lots of little gas bubbles and muscle twitches. I 100% know it's not the baby moving around that I'm feeling, but sometimes I just pretend it is because it makes me happy. I can't wait to start feeling the little wiggles!

[judyblume14]

Cannot fucking stand bachelorette weekends. I also hate fucking destination weddings. My BFF was married in the Caribbean, and i paid more to go to her wedding than I did for my own honeymoon.

I realize I could have said no, but... not really.
My H was invited to a bachelor party in NOLA. During jazzfest. Between flights, concert tix, hotel, etc, the 5 day trip was heading towards 3K. Hell to the no. He used our 6 month old baby as an excuse not to go.

[heybulldog56]

My DH went to a bachelor party in Costa Rica... Who the fuck thinks that's a good idea? FYI: He had a horrible time.

[judyblume14]

My confession? I'm working from home today and intend to do a few chores. I've been a crappy employees lately. But I feel like, if I'm not going to accomplish anything in the office anyway, might as well do a few loads of laundry or some vacuuming?

[peaseblossom55]

summergirl1211, I'm feeling stretches, twinges and gas bubbles now too. It's so strange how all of this is happening much earlier now.

[peaseblossom55]

heybulldog56, what? Did he not like Costa Rica, or did he just not like it as a Bachelor party destination?

We did a day in NYC for my bachelorette party, it was so much fun. I was home by 11, no one was drunk, there were drinks of course. It was a fun day I loved it.

[summergirl1211]

Jun 24, 2016 8:40:07 GMT -5 peaseblossom55 said:

summergirl1211 , I'm feeling stretches, twinges and gas bubbles now too. It's so strange how all of this is happening much earlier now.

Agreed! However, with second (or more) pregnancies I think you know what to look for and expect, so it's a little easier to anticipate and know what is happening. Kind of like how our bodies are anticipating the change and letting it happen instead of fighting it the whole way. 

[peaseblossom55]

I want a donut so badly.

[meeggaannww]

I had a breakdown this morning. My parents are going out of town so they won't be there to lean on, and my husband is working and he works 12 hr overnight shifts so I can't count on him to help on these days. I just don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.
My confession:
I feel like I'm just marking time. When DD wakes up its how long until the next nap, pushing to bedtime. I feel like I'm not enjoying her life.

[Deleted]

I'm wearing maternity pants today. The confession is I never stopped wearing them since baby #1. She's almost 14 months old. They are such nice pants!

[Deleted]

I don't know when these big destination bachelor parties became a thing. MH didn't even go to his brother's because it would have been about a $1,000 trip. DH had a simple one at a local bar. However, I did have 4 of my closest friends go to a bigger city 2 hours away for an overnight trip for mine, I didn't think it was too outrageous to ask of them.

[lakegirl]

My one year old has overdue library books. I've never had overdue library books. I feel like a criminal. The library is 3/10ths of a mile away so no excuses except first trimester grossness. I'm about to pack him up and do my walk of shame to go pay my fines.

[judyblume14]

meeggaannww, I feel like that on the weekends sometimes... and my husband is around to help!

[lakegirl]

meeggaannww +1000 I feel so guilty about my subpar parenting lately and the fact that I want to cry when DS wakes up from his naps. You are not alone. It will get better eventually! At least that's what I keep telling myself.... *hugs*

[summergirl1211]

Jun 24, 2016 9:34:56 GMT -5 meeggaannww said:

I had a breakdown this morning. My parents are going out of town so they won't be there to lean on, and my husband is working and he works 12 hr overnight shifts so I can't count on him to help on these days. I just don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.
My confession:
I feel like I'm just marking time. When DD wakes up its how long until the next nap, pushing to bedtime. I feel like I'm not enjoying her life.

meeggaannww, first of all, you have every reason to be struggling right now since you're so sick. It's got to be so hard to take care of a child when you can barely keep food down. I think you're superwoman right now for all you're doing. Second of all, it's totally okay to feel that way about your daughter right now, especially with everything else going on. Not everything about being a parent is easy or fun, and sometimes it's enough to just get through the day. Hang in there.

[lakegirl]

Update: I'm not a criminal! The books weren't due for a couple more days, I'm blaming pregnancy brain for thinking they were due earlier in the week. Phew. My record is clean!

[peaseblossom55]

I'm so sorry you are struggling meeggaannww, I hope it gets better soon.

[ellabee]

When I go grocery shopping, sometimes I buy myself special treats and then hide them in our pantry hoping DH/DD won't find them so I don't have to share. Last night I bought Trader Joes dark chocolate crisps because they were the only thing that looked appetizing in the whole store. I may have already eaten 1/4 of the package...

[peaseblossom55]

We have no plans this weekend, but I kind of want to do something fun. I want to see the New Independence Day movie.

[Deleted]

Hang in there meeggaannww! I have days like that too.

[ellabee]

I have those moments too meeggaannww. You're not alone at all. ((Hugs))

[ashtog]

Hugs meeggaannww
I have days like that with my DS too- babies are hard! As much as I am enjoying his babyhood, I'm looking forward to him being a little more independent.