Post by mommymadness on Jul 25, 2016 22:22:29 GMT -5
Sorry for having to make such a tough decision nursedesi Yay for selling your house so fast! xanthepants that is amazing! starfishy I've heard people call them fucking 4's. I'm sorry you had such bad night with T. It always seems so much worse when you are trying to do nice/ fun things for them and they don't appreciate it at all.
starfishy I've heard people call them fucking 4's. I'm sorry you had such bad night with T. It always seems so much worse when you are trying to do nice/ fun things for them and they don't appreciate it at all.
UGH, yes!!!! Seriously, I sometimes talk about how we're going to have so much fun and it will be so nice to have time together and when she acts like a lunatic it makes me so sad. I do tell her sometimes "remember how we had such a good night and it was so fun, blah blah.... " and on nights when she's just all around good I praise her so much, and talk about how nice it was to have a happy and fun night.
When she acts up for fun or special things it just makes me not want to take her anywhere!!
I'm so sorry T ruined your planned night out. It's so frustrating.
starfishy - I'm sorry T isn't behaving and ruined what should of been a fun night. Kayleigh is the exact same way and since she's turned 4, has been so much worse. We regularly have talks about how when she misbehaves, it makes H and I not want to try to do the fun things anymore. For some reason, she also feels the need to "show off" in front of other people. I hope that eventually there will be an end to all this.
I don't want to say I'm happy to see that I'm not alone, but I'm comforted by the fact that it is somewhat normal and I didn't break my kid. He is just so exhausting some days. I love him, but my god, take a breath and play for 30mins in quiet please.
In other news my H has a skills test for a new job (has to show them he can use excel and has critical thinking skills). I hope he gets this. Pay would be the same, be he's so unhappy where he is now and he needs to meet some new people. So cross your fingers!
somethingcleverer, I am glad you finally figured out what happened with your friend. It still sucks that she couldn't have called/texted you though to give you a quick heads up.
starfishy, I'm so sorry girl. Stuff like that really hurts me too. You do all this planning and try to do something nice for them and they shit all over you. It has happened to me many times with Henry as well. Hugs girl.
So one of our IT guys was in the breakroom while I was getting some coffee and I said to him "It's your daughters birthday today right? I can't believe she's 3 already!" Now I'm not close with him at all but two people in my office had kids on July 26th a year after my niece was born and it just sticks with me. Well he goes "It is?" he checks his phone and says "oh yeah! Holy cow it is the 26th!" Completely 100% serious not fucking me me or being sarcastic. Then he gets all embarrassed and says "well we celebrated last week, I didn't even realize today was the 26th. How did you remember that?!" So naturally I explained that it's also my niece's birthday and it just stuck with me.
That's strange right? I mean he lives with his wife and kids...maybe they don't make a big deal about birthdays I guess.
laurski81, i think it's a little strange yes... even if you celebrated the week before, we make a note to always do something small on the actual birthday - and say Happy Birthday! Maybe he left the house before others were awake.... and really didn't realize what day it was. It is strange.
Post by xanthepants on Jul 26, 2016 8:25:24 GMT -5
nursedesi, I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet kitty. I love long hair cats, they are so pretty. Thanks for sharing pictures. If it's any consolation, I think you did the right thing to keep him from suffering more even though the decision sucks more for us. I understand being in that position. I hope that in your heart you can feel that in time, maybe not right now, but eventually. Biggest hugs to you. I'm probably not saying the right things to make you feel any better, but know that I've been in the same place recently so if you need a shoulder to be weepy with pm me.
nursedesi, I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet kitty. I love long hair cats, they are so pretty. Thanks for sharing pictures. If it's any consolation, I think you did the right thing to keep him from suffering more even though the decision sucks more for us. I understand being in that position. I hope that in your heart you can feel that in time, maybe not right now, but eventually. Biggest hugs to you. I'm probably not saying the right things to make you feel any better, but know that I've been in the same place recently so if you need a shoulder to be weepy with pm me.
I really do understand even with the sharpness of our loss that it would have just been for my selfishness and not for his benefit. Thank you so much. I absolutely will PM you. I think I just need a few days to process all of this.
Thank you to you all. You've all been incredibly sweet. I feel so loved to be able to come here to look for support and get so many sweet words.
So one of our IT guys was in the breakroom while I was getting some coffee and I said to him "It's your daughters birthday today right? I can't believe she's 3 already!" Now I'm not close with him at all but two people in my office had kids on July 26th a year after my niece was born and it just sticks with me. Well he goes "It is?" he checks his phone and says "oh yeah! Holy cow it is the 26th!" Completely 100% serious not fucking me me or being sarcastic. Then he gets all embarrassed and says "well we celebrated last week, I didn't even realize today was the 26th. How did you remember that?!" So naturally I explained that it's also my niece's birthday and it just stuck with me.
That's strange right? I mean he lives with his wife and kids...maybe they don't make a big deal about birthdays I guess.
Strange yes. Shocking no. My H can't remember how old Ethan is for some reason. I guess I have no room to talk. I forgot my anniversary this year and I was there when I got married so...
So one of our IT guys was in the breakroom while I was getting some coffee and I said to him "It's your daughters birthday today right? I can't believe she's 3 already!" Now I'm not close with him at all but two people in my office had kids on July 26th a year after my niece was born and it just sticks with me. Well he goes "It is?" he checks his phone and says "oh yeah! Holy cow it is the 26th!" Completely 100% serious not fucking me me or being sarcastic. Then he gets all embarrassed and says "well we celebrated last week, I didn't even realize today was the 26th. How did you remember that?!" So naturally I explained that it's also my niece's birthday and it just stuck with me.
That's strange right? I mean he lives with his wife and kids...maybe they don't make a big deal about birthdays I guess.
Strange yes. Shocking no. My H can't remember how old Ethan is for some reason. I guess I have no room to talk. I forgot my anniversary this year and I was there when I got married so...
Very true, and I guess it is what is most important to a person as well. I could see forgetting my anniversary but not my kids birthday. Now I sometimes have to pause and think about the actual date of Cece's birthday if someone asks me which I find super weird, like I just draw a blank...but when her birthday actually comes I don't not remember it. IDK to each their own I guess.
laurski81 I'm like you and sometimes get tripped up when asked Vera's bday. She was due 9.14.14 and was born 9.15.14 and those Numbers always get mixed in my head for some reason BUT when it comes to the day I won't forget! I totally find it a bit strange to just totally not realize it's your kids bday..
Post by somethingcleverer on Jul 26, 2016 9:35:07 GMT -5
starfishy I'm sorry Tommy gave you such a hard time. It's just so hard when you are looking forward to doing something with them and then they act like little jerks.
laurski81 I think that is so crazy that he had to check after you reminded him of the day. Although there are plenty of dad's that can't remember their kid's dob at the pharmacy so maybe I shouldn't be surprised by this anymore.
Post by somethingcleverer on Jul 26, 2016 9:48:43 GMT -5
Aubrey is trying to behave today because she didn't get dessert yesterday. She was starting to act up this morning but I said, "do you remember how you didn't get dessert yesterday because of your bad behavior? You have to have good behavior to get dessert today." I have to say she's trying right now. I know at about 2pm she'll be like eff this I don't need dessert.
Post by mrsplaydoh on Jul 26, 2016 10:30:04 GMT -5
nursedesi, So very sorry for your loss. losing a pet is so hard. So hard to make that decision.
xanthepants, My husband got 3 long pool noodles, the wider ones, and duct taped them together 2 side by side and one on top so it makes a _-_ shape, we stick it under their fitted sheets along the edge of their beds. Instant bed rail for 3 bucks. Its sturdy and doesn't move under the fitted sheet.
Post by summergirl1211 on Jul 26, 2016 12:18:31 GMT -5
Huge huge hugs nursedesi. Even when you know it's the right thing it can still be so hard. We're always here for you!
starfishy, I'm sorry T messed up your night last night. It always upsets me as well when Riley can't behave when we're trying to do something fun. Some day these kids will be sweet again. I hope at least! And good luck to your H on his test!
Thanks for making me feel better ladies. He did come up to me this morning and apologize. My H said he didn't tell him to say anything. So he knows I was hurt.
H said there were 6 other people taking the test and that it was difficult. AND they have another session on Friday. So hopefully he gets called back for another round.
laurski81 that seems strange, but I make a big deal out of birthdays. Like I go overboard. My H is like chill the F out about birthdays. Haha
Post by somethingcleverer on Jul 26, 2016 19:05:23 GMT -5
I walk by a house on our way to the park and they have those school signs with their kids names in the yard. The names are Tayler and Jasica. They aren't the worst names, but the fact that both of them are yoonique makes me roll my eyes.
I walk by a house on our way to the park and they have those school signs with their kids names in the yard. The names are Tayler and Jasica. They aren't the worst names, but the fact that both of them are yoonique makes me roll my eyes.
We're supposed to go to Switzerland in a few weeks to visit friends. They've lived in Zurich for years. The plan was we'd use their house as home base and travel to the beach in Italy and the French countryside by car. I'm terrified. All of these isis attacks in the past few weeks are scaring the crap out of me and I honestly am not sure we should go anymore. If it were you, would you go? DH thinks I'm nuts.
I walk by a house on our way to the park and they have those school signs with their kids names in the yard. The names are Tayler and Jasica. They aren't the worst names, but the fact that both of them are yoonique makes me roll my eyes.
We're supposed to go to Switzerland in a few weeks to visit friends. They've lived in Zurich for years. The plan was we'd use their house as home base and travel to the beach in Italy and the French countryside by car. I'm terrified. All of these isis attacks in the past few weeks are scaring the crap out of me and I honestly am not sure we should go anymore. If it were you, would you go? DH thinks I'm nuts.
Um I'd be there in a heartbeat. Could something bad happen? Sure. But hell, there could be an ISIS attack here. Or more likely, you could be in a fatal car accident. I'm just saying bad things can happen anywhere so you shouldn't avoid doing new and exciting things just in an attempt to avoid the slim possibility of being hurt.
We're supposed to go to Switzerland in a few weeks to visit friends. They've lived in Zurich for years. The plan was we'd use their house as home base and travel to the beach in Italy and the French countryside by car. I'm terrified. All of these isis attacks in the past few weeks are scaring the crap out of me and I honestly am not sure we should go anymore. If it were you, would you go? DH thinks I'm nuts.
Um I'd be there in a heartbeat. Could something bad happen? Sure. But hell, there could be an ISIS attack here. Or more likely, you could be in a fatal car accident. I'm just saying bad things can happen anywhere so you shouldn't avoid doing new and exciting things just in an attempt to avoid the slim possibility of being hurt.
I definitely agree with britbrat. I would be nervous too but I don't think that I would let that stop me especially since it's already planned.
We're supposed to go to Switzerland in a few weeks to visit friends. They've lived in Zurich for years. The plan was we'd use their house as home base and travel to the beach in Italy and the French countryside by car. I'm terrified. All of these isis attacks in the past few weeks are scaring the crap out of me and I honestly am not sure we should go anymore. If it were you, would you go? DH thinks I'm nuts.
Um I'd be there in a heartbeat. Could something bad happen? Sure. But hell, there could be an ISIS attack here. Or more likely, you could be in a fatal car accident. I'm just saying bad things can happen anywhere so you shouldn't avoid doing new and exciting things just in an attempt to avoid the slim possibility of being hurt.
GO! Yes, those events have been terrible but also very mediatised. You're more likely to die in a car crash or to win the lottery. Please post pics when you come back!!!
Post by xanthepants on Jul 27, 2016 9:54:29 GMT -5
traceyt07,Go. Be vigilant and aware. But go and enjoy yourself!!! They countries over there are on high alert and have very good security. Tell your kids in advance how important it is to stay with you at all times. Or at least that is what I'd be doing. Then I'd sit back and relax. Once in a lifetime trip! Have fun!
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